bpguru saidOne of my good buddies from college is getting married soon and I just found out I wasn't invited to his bachelor party. We had a pretty close group of about 7 guys in college and we always talked about how we couldn't wait to throw each other bachelor parties some day. I saw some pictures and there were like 20 guys in Vegas partying for a week straight. Some were just acquaintances... The only thing that changed since college was me coming out to my group of guy friends. One-on-one they are all awesome to hang out with, but in this particular setting I was obviously excluded. Would you be offended if you were not invited. I still got an invitation to the wedding, but am feeling kind of short-changed in the friends department. Anyone have a similar experience? The wedding is an all weekend trip to wine country in Northern California and I'm not sure I want to invest the time or money to go anymore...
There's nothing you can do about it. Either you can be pissed, or not. Probably should let it go if the guy is your friend. I understand that you might feel betrayed, but, it's not worth the negative energy. You probably did not get an invite for one reason or another. That's just how it goes.
We say friendships aren't conditional, love, etc., but, in all reality, they aren't.
You can talk to him about it, if you want the "why" part of it, or, just let it go. Being cranky about it won't achieve anything good.
That sense if betrayal is a hard emotion to cope with, but, it'll happen a number of times as you go along. You really can't do anything about it. You only control you.
Sometimes, the other person in a relationship has a whole different take on it. This may be one of those times, or maybe he was concerned you'd embarrass him, or that you might be offended by some of the other guys. Hard telling.
If your "friend" is as close as you say, he probably really should have picked up the phone and called you about it, but, he may not feel the same about you as him, or be scared of communications, or just be plain young and dumb.