Sick of Effin going around in circles with guys.. Help!

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    Jul 27, 2013 4:24 PM GMT

    I just deleted my Adam4adam account because of all the bullshit and flakes on there. I am almost 27 and tired of constantly going around in circles with guys. They either totally ignore you online or flake out. I just have Real Jock now and it has served it's purpose better, but guys tend to flake out too sometimes. I'm stuck on how to talk to guys and meet them and etc. I can be shy in person sometimes and have a hard time talking with guys. Also hard to tell if they are gay or not since I only look for masc guys. What can I do to make this work? I want to be happyicon_sad.gif
  • HottJoe

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    Jul 27, 2013 4:35 PM GMT
    I think I'm too fem for this thread.icon_rolleyes.gif
  • AMoonHawk

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    Jul 27, 2013 4:40 PM GMT
    So if I hear you right, you are sort of a shy guy and are not much of a socializer, so you turned to the internet to try to meet guys. They internet is sort of like fishing for perch in the ocean. You might get lucky and catch one, but most of the time you are going to end up with something else. There is no really way around it, you are going to have get up out of your chair, leave the creature comfort of your domain and go out into the real world and talk to people. Volunteer at gay organizations, like the Angel Project, join gay social group like wine taste groups or book clubs, go to gay bars and gyms and churches. That is the only way you are sure to find a gay guy to suit your need. Start with your local gay community center and find out what options are open to you in your community, and then start going through every single one of they one-by-one. I would wish you luck, but you don't need it, you just need to go out and do it.
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    Jul 27, 2013 4:47 PM GMT
    HottJoe saidI think I'm too fem for this thread.icon_rolleyes.gif


    You fine man.. I can have fem guys as friends, but not to date
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    Jul 27, 2013 4:51 PM GMT
    Hmmm, what can you do to make it wrk? Let's think about this for a min or two.... Oh, I got it, get off your ass and go out in the real wrld put yourself in situations where you can meet ppl w/ similar intrest. If you think you can filter out potential prospects through the internet you're crazy. The internet gives ppl the opprotunity to be whomever the desire to beicon_rolleyes.gif
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    Jul 27, 2013 4:54 PM GMT
    BCmasc1 said
    HottJoe saidI think I'm too fem for this thread.icon_rolleyes.gif


    You fine man.. I can have fem guys as friends, but not to date


    And here I thought he was being sarcastic... you're in your own way
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    Jul 27, 2013 8:10 PM GMT
    It comes with the territory of meeting online.

    You'd think a masc guy would have a tougher skin. It's almost as if anyone can call himself "masc" nowadays without any sort of credentialing.
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    Jul 27, 2013 8:22 PM GMT
    Thanks guysicon_biggrin.gif