"You're too straight for me..."

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    Jul 27, 2013 10:14 PM GMT
    That's what this guy I've gone out on a few dates with just said to me. We got into this debate about my interests and what I wear and how if I had come out earlier in my life I would be a "true gay guy". What's frustrating is that this keeps happening because of one thing... I like sports, particularly football. I mean, I know a lot of females who love sports too, particularly football. It's nonsense.
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    Jul 27, 2013 10:23 PM GMT
    Sorry man, that you have to go through this shit. That guy obviously was not a match for you. He sounds rather shallow to me. Don't change for any guy. Maybe some day one of those masc. str8-acting bros is telling the truth about himself and you hit the jackpot.
  • berger132

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    Jul 27, 2013 10:26 PM GMT
    I understand how your feeling man I love football and most sports as well. Just keep being you just because your gay doesn't mean you cant like certain things. What makes us gay is our attraction to men not how we dress or what our interests are.
  • HottJoe

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    Jul 27, 2013 10:33 PM GMT
    Some men are like Goldilocks. They say you're either too gay or not gay enough.icon_lol.gif

    Sorry you wasted your time, but I wouldn't worry about it. I love football, and I'm not the most masc guy around. None of us fit into a box, and people who think we do belong in padded cells.
  • Fargo

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    Jul 27, 2013 10:33 PM GMT
    It is nonesense! AFAIK, most gay guys are into masculine men, aren't they?
  • HottJoe

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    Jul 27, 2013 10:36 PM GMT
    Fargo saidIt is nonesense! AFAIK, most gay guys are into masculine men, aren't they?

    Some are, some aren't.

    I've had crushes on both. I like a guy with a nice smile (and a cute butt) best of all. icon_razz.gif
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    Jul 27, 2013 10:41 PM GMT
    Oh, god, I can't stand football. Maybe it's because I was in band in high school and we had to follow the football team EVERYWHERE to EVERY game, and had to go to play offs, which at that time of season is cold as hell, when I could have been at home doing something more fun.

    But I don't mind it if a guy i'm dating watches football, and I would love to join him on the couch watching it, but, don't expect me to stay awake.. I'd more then happily sleep on his arm/ shoulder, or he can sleep on my chest, which ever works for him. icon_smile.gif
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    Jul 27, 2013 10:52 PM GMT
    People use the stupidest excuses, just because they don't want to say or deal with the truth. That or they are looking for gays with more femininity or flamboyancy
  • HottJoe

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    Jul 27, 2013 10:53 PM GMT
    Mesmer saidOh, god, I can't stand football. Maybe it's because I was in band in high school and we had to follow the football team EVERYWHERE to EVERY game, and had to go to play offs, which at that time of season is cold as hell, when I could have been at home doing something more fun.

    But I don't mind it if a guy i'm dating watches football, and I would love to join him on the couch watching it, but, don't expect me to stay awake.. I'd more then happily sleep on his arm/ shoulder, or he can sleep on my chest, which ever works for him. icon_smile.gif

    quoted for cuteness.icon_razz.gif
  • Timbales

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    Jul 27, 2013 10:54 PM GMT
    Myol saidThat's what this guy I've gone out on a few dates with just said to me. We got into this debate about my interests and what I wear and how if I had come out earlier in my life I would be a "true gay guy". What's frustrating is that this keeps happening because of one thing... I like sports, particularly football. I mean, I know a lot of females who love sports too, particularly football. It's nonsense.


    do you want to have sex with men? that's gay enough

    his idea of a 'true gay' is insulting
  • sheol76

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    Jul 28, 2013 1:28 AM GMT
    Mate don't sweat it. find someone who is more your style
    I've been told by many a gay guy, "no one would know your homo."
    The only reason my mates know is because they have been told or guessed since I never date girls.
    I love Footy (that's Aussie Rules here), playing and watching, but also to the other extreme love staring in musicals.
    My best mate is "gayer" than I am and he is straight.
    So once again don't stress it - you be you man!
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  • jo2hotbod

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    Jul 28, 2013 1:33 AM GMT
    Tell him to screw, if he has a problem with your likes and interests... Turn out the lights...
  • AMoonHawk

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    Jul 28, 2013 1:33 AM GMT
    truly his loss, you'll find somebody better
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    Jul 28, 2013 1:38 AM GMT
    Story of my life, OP. Too "straight" for the gays, too "gay" for the straights. Fuck labels, just be you and you'll find your guy
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    Jul 28, 2013 1:50 AM GMT
    Have you tried, like, fucking him in the ass, sucking his cock, taking his dick, kissing him...to show him just how "not straight" you are?

    Maybe his "complaint" is just a cry for really hot, gay sex?
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    Jul 28, 2013 2:01 AM GMT
    Too straight....That's a first....And here I thought guys were looking for masc for masc str8 acting guys.... icon_rolleyes.gif
  • Buddha

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    Jul 28, 2013 2:21 AM GMT
    That guy is a total douche. What the hell is a "true gay guy" anyway? If you're having sex with guys and mostly like to have sex with guys, then you're probably gay and that is that.

    I don't consider myself macho, but several times I've had people questioning my homosexuality "because I'm not girly". And I think it's okay if people just say it once and move on, but then there are people who basically make me feel like I'm in court and need to defend myself. And it doesn't help if I start counting the boyfriends I've had, it feels like these people won't be satisfied until they see me tilt my wrist.

    I have "masculine" sides, and I have "feminine" sides; as I think most of us do. It's enough when the heterosexual community sanctions homos for not living up to their stereotype, but when gay people do it too? It kind of feels self-defeating.
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    Jul 28, 2013 2:41 AM GMT
    Story of my life. icon_confused.gif

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    Aug 11, 2013 1:45 AM GMT
    A trait many like too.

    Makes me laugh to myself thinking of the rare time I would do a gay bub nowadays, and just about always I get queried that I know what kind of pub I am about to go into, or am in.

    Many also think I have a wife and kids tucked away too, and I'm not straight acting, I'm just being me.
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    Aug 11, 2013 1:58 AM GMT
    That seems really odd to me...maybe this guy is into "the scene" and he wants someone to impress his friends? Either way, not your problem. You wouldn't give a valuable piece of jewelry to someone who wouldn't value it, would you? Similarly, you want to be with someone that recognizes how amazing you are from the start and cherishes that.

    But yeah, that just seems weird to me. I think the most attractive guys are the ones wearing everyday t-shirts, jeans, baseball caps...they don't have to be dressed up or always wearing the latest fashion.

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    Aug 11, 2013 2:04 AM GMT
    That's crazy; considering alot Gay guys are into masculine men, you pretty much fit the type that a lot of Gay guys would want to be with
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    Aug 11, 2013 2:43 AM GMT
    Too Straight? What does that mean?? Perhaps he meant too masculine.
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    Aug 11, 2013 4:45 AM GMT
    I love college football and the season is starting again in a couple of weeks. icon_biggrin.gif My bf knew from the beginning of our relationship about my interest for the sport. It works fine for both of us. Matter of fact, we're going to several games in October and November. Don't give up searching for your guy just because a couple of douches challenged your interests.
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    Aug 11, 2013 5:18 AM GMT
    Erik101 saidI love college football and the season is starting again in a couple of weeks. icon_biggrin.gif My bf knew from the beginning of our relationship about my interest for the sport. It works fine for both of us. Matter of fact, we're going to several games in October and November. Don't give up searching for your guy just because a couple of douches challenged your interests.


    Thanks, I'm starting to wonder if its an Austin gay thing.
  • Sakura

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    Aug 11, 2013 5:28 AM GMT
    Myol, you rock. Don't compromise your interests. The right guy is gonna either share your love of football or he's gonna learn to love it because he want's to understand you better/spend more quality time with you. My bf loves studying car designs, which I knew nothing about a year ago. I've picked up on a lot of it because it's important to him, therefore important to me. You're too awesome to deal with a guy like the one you mentioned icon_cool.gif