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    Jul 27, 2013 11:41 PM GMT
    Would you go out with a guy who first asked his friends what they thought of you, before he asks you out???icon_sad.gif
  • Fable

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    Jul 27, 2013 11:43 PM GMT
    BillyD_964 saidWould you go out with a guy who first asked his friends what they thought of you, before he asks you out???icon_sad.gif



    everyone does that
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    Jul 27, 2013 11:47 PM GMT
    But how would you know this?
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    Jul 27, 2013 11:59 PM GMT
    I wouldn't mind that. But anyone who is ruled by the opinion of others isn't worthy of my time.
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    Jul 28, 2013 12:07 AM GMT
    fable said
    BillyD_964 saidWould you go out with a guy who first asked his friends what they thought of you, before he asks you out???icon_sad.gif



    everyone does that

    This.

    It's really not a big deal. As long as the decision isn't ultimately theirs. I know personally (this has never happened but lets say someone actually likes me in a public place) if I were with my friends and I was chatting with some guy - I'd be asking my friends what they thought. Whether I listen to them is another story...
  • jo2hotbod

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    Jul 28, 2013 12:10 AM GMT
    YUP
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    Jul 28, 2013 12:26 AM GMT
    I hear you all, but I wonder why people do that, as if the person being asked about is going to automatically say yes.icon_confused.gif And if you genuinely like/love someone public oppinion shouldnt matter.
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    Jul 28, 2013 12:41 AM GMT
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  • jo2hotbod

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    Jul 28, 2013 12:42 AM GMT
    BillyD_964 saidI hear you all, but I wonder why people do that, as if the person being asked about is going to automatically say yes.icon_confused.gif And if you genuinely like/love someone public oppinion shouldnt matter.


    They are not being hurtful, it's like any big decision you do a gut check
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    Jul 28, 2013 12:45 AM GMT
    BillyD_964 saidI hear you all, but I wonder why people do that, as if the person being asked about is going to automatically say yes.icon_confused.gif And if you genuinely like/love someone public oppinion shouldnt matter.

    Your friends know your blind spots best, the good and the bad ones. There might be something bad you're overlooking in a person that they'll point out to you, or conversely there could be something awesome about a person that you've missed and they'll point out to you. None of us have it all together, we need different perspectives to piece together the closest thing to reality possible. It's not so much about public opinion as it is about getting a complete perspective.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Jul 28, 2013 12:54 AM GMT
    Of course ... The final decision is still his ... I wouldn't think that he is looking for approval, in so much as keeping himself in check. He probably just wants to make sure he is not only thinking with his dick. It might even be kind of flattering, perhaps he is thinking more long term, than short term.
  • LEANDRO_NJ

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    Jul 28, 2013 1:01 AM GMT
    WaytoDawn saidI wouldn't mind that. But anyone who is ruled by the opinion of others isn't worthy of my time.


    This!!
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    Jul 28, 2013 3:18 AM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidOf course ... The final decision is still his ... I wouldn't think that he is looking for approval, in so much as keeping himself in check. He probably just wants to make sure he is not only thinking with his dick. It might even be kind of flattering, perhaps he is thinking more long term, than short term.


    That is flatteringicon_cool.gif
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    Jul 28, 2013 3:19 AM GMT
    ok...
  • Hothouse

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    Jul 29, 2013 3:22 PM GMT
    +++++++++++++++++?

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  • LJay

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    Jul 29, 2013 3:27 PM GMT
    For all you know, he could be saying, "He seems so cool, I really want a date. Do you think he would say yes?"

    Lots of guys do this. Asking these questions is a way of getting over the nervousness of asking. That sounds like a good thing to me.
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    Jul 29, 2013 3:53 PM GMT
    Hothouse said+++++++++++++++++?

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    I was thinking the same thing! icon_wink.gif
  • BuggEyedSprit...

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    Jul 29, 2013 3:59 PM GMT
    Yep, flatlining...
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    Jul 29, 2013 9:41 PM GMT
    I only date super losers who seek the advice of friends before doing anything. Life is better that way, or something.