Online Dating Etiquette!

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    Jul 30, 2013 6:18 AM GMT
    Hm, I've been getting a couple of emails lately from a couple guys and sending out some (on a couple sites, RJ included). I was just curious to see what other people's experiences are like regarding this topic. This topic prob. been covered in the past but doesn't hurt to learn from others' experiences again.

    . Should you initiate contact first?
    . When is it ok to ignored and deleted emails from potential suitors?
    . When is it a good time to send a rejection note back?
    . Or what should be an awesome email/note to get dates?

    Share some positive, negative or even horror stories you've encountered, stay on topic, don't go into race-thread and don't make a flame war. Thanks.


  • jackooh

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    Jul 30, 2013 11:13 AM GMT
    . Should you initiate contact first? well someone's gotta!

    . When is it ok to ignore and delete emails from potential suitors? whenever you feel like it, if people get offended by cyber rejection they have a problem, should be water off a ducks back.

    . When is it a good time to send a rejection note back? When the messages dont stop or if you feel like being nice, always be sure to put a smiley face (:

    . Or what should be an awesome email/note to get dates?
    "I have your dog mr. Date me or i wear his face."

    I always get messages from people who dont speak english xD c'est super bon (non)
  • Eric500

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    Jul 30, 2013 11:37 AM GMT
    When is it ok to ignore and delete emails from potential suitors? whenever you feel like it, if people get offended by cyber rejection they have a problem, should be water off a ducks back.

    Totally agree. Cyber world has it's own rules.
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    Jul 30, 2013 5:09 PM GMT
    I use to think it was rude not responding, etc. But now I see it for what it is. I use to always respond but it just gets to a point where I need to tell them why I dont want to meet them and I hate being mean.
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    Jul 30, 2013 8:45 PM GMT
    If you're interested in the guy, by all means don't move at a glacial pace because that won't thrill anyone. haha. Anyways send him an email to say hello and introduce yourself. If everyone waited, no one would get any messages.

    As far as winding it down, I'd probably say something to that effect because if he likes you, it's better he knows up front, but a lot of guys go by a *no response is a response* logic, which makes perfect sense on the internet.

    Horror stories... Don't most people have those? Just don't be one xP.

    Hard to say what a good introduction message is. I haven't figured that out, so when someone here comes up with a good one I'll copy the friggin thing and use it icon_smile.gif
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    Jul 30, 2013 9:00 PM GMT
    There was this guy on OKCupid who lives in my hometown who I thought was absolutely adorable, and who I could tell by looking at him that we'd probably get along well. I messaged him like every day for about a week in March/April, and he never responded, which I was deeply saddened by because I thought we'd hit it off pretty well. But, I could tell he never blocked me either. When I reactivated my account in July just to check things out again, I saw him on, and I figured it was worth a shot.

    This time, he responded, in a tone that was half amused and half annoyed, asking why on earth would a British guy be messaging him. When I told him I was from Houston, he was then magically open to talking to me, and we've been getting to know each other ever since. I found out the next day that the only reason he decided to respond to me this time was that he had a vicious headache and was in a particular grumpy mood, so instead of ignoring me he planned on just telling me off.

    I definitely appreciate closure, meaning if someone isn't interested in me, I prefer that they tell me. But, I also understand that that can get burdensome. My story, however, is an example where persistence sometimes can win you the day! I wouldn't have been persistent if I just found him hot, but I saw more in him, so felt like a little extra effort could go a long way. It paid off, and hopefully in a big way icon_smile.gif
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    Jul 31, 2013 2:21 AM GMT
    I agreed with some of the points you guys raised. I don't like being mean either. Ignoring an email is like saying No/not interested yeah, even after a few exchanges, you're allowed to change your mind if you think the guy is weird or off somehow.


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    Jul 31, 2013 2:24 AM GMT
    KJSharp saidThere was this guy on OKCupid who lives in my hometown who I thought was absolutely adorable, and who I could tell by looking at him that we'd probably get along well. I messaged him like every day for about a week in March/April, and he never responded, which I was deeply saddened by because I thought we'd hit it off pretty well. But, I could tell he never blocked me either. When I reactivated my account in July just to check things out again, I saw him on, and I figured it was worth a shot.

    This time, he responded, in a tone that was half amused and half annoyed, asking why on earth would a British guy be messaging him. When I told him I was from Houston, he was then magically open to talking to me, and we've been getting to know each other ever since. I found out the next day that the only reason he decided to respond to me this time was that he had a vicious headache and was in a particular grumpy mood, so instead of ignoring me he planned on just telling me off.

    I definitely appreciate closure, meaning if someone isn't interested in me, I prefer that they tell me. But, I also understand that that can get burdensome. My story, however, is an example where persistence sometimes can win you the day! I wouldn't have been persistent if I just found him hot, but I saw more in him, so felt like a little extra effort could go a long way. It paid off, and hopefully in a big way icon_smile.gif


    Lol, Cute story! I saw your profile and it says your first location is the UK, so I sort of don't blame the guy for thinking you're trying to contact and get some booty/bf oversea! hehehe, oh well, all well that ends well.