Someone Paying 4 you to visit

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    Nov 11, 2008 10:37 PM GMT
    So what do you think guys?

    Some one doesn't go out of there way to offer to pay for a plan ticket or come to see you without expected something sexual?

    Do you agree?

    Would you consider being just friends with someone that only wants you for sex from the get go?

    Can you believe your guy that he wont do anything with someone if they go visit them?

    No one and I mean no one ! offers to pay to be friends.There is either an agreement to do something or a possibility do something. If you know the other persons intentions would you believe your guy isn't gonna do something if they are willing to let someone like that visit?


    Really important that you reply, need multiple opinions.
  • ArmwrestlerJi...

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    Nov 18, 2008 1:53 PM GMT
    Twice in my life I have had a guy pay for my trip to see him and both times they ended up being fakes. But then again, I don't look like YOU! :-) Hell, I would pay for you to come visit me and I am not a fake icon_lol.gif
  • tailgaytor

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    Nov 18, 2008 3:10 PM GMT
    And why are you considering this trip? Is this based on having a number of good conversations with him online? Have you seen him on cam and heard his voice and your dick gets hard? We all know there has to be the initial chemistry.

    It is always good to remember that the planes fly both directions and would cost the same no matter who is doing the travelling, you or him. Having him on your turf allows you to have the upper hand and more control of the situation.

    My rule of thumb has always been: If we are still chatting and exchanging e-mails after three months, then we will make arrangements to meet. That has happened twice. I am still great friends with both guys, and we still visit back and forth. Neither turned into anything significant, but I did make to lasting friends.
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    Nov 18, 2008 3:12 PM GMT
    yes, once I flew out to Arizona to see my grandmother. The sex was wild though.
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    Nov 18, 2008 3:15 PM GMT
    Who was she doing it with? icon_biggrin.gif
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    Nov 18, 2008 3:26 PM GMT
    One of my ex roommates flew a guy from Arizona up to SF once. They had been talking online for quite sometime and so they figured it was time to meet. The Arizona guy stayed with us and he was actually a really nice guy. The chemitry was there even after he left (and yes they had sex when he was here) and about 2 months later the guy came back on his own.

    Would I say sex is always going to happen in this instance? No. I mean, if you were to talk to someone online in your own city, went to meet them for drinks, dinner, a movie etc...and the other guy paid, would you sleep with him if there weren't chemistry? Probably not unless you were really horny and said to hell with it. However, just because someone pays for your meal or a plane ticket, doesn't always mean that there is something more than friendship.
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    Nov 18, 2008 3:33 PM GMT
    I say stay open to the possibility of anything!! You never know what could happen!
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    Nov 18, 2008 3:36 PM GMT
    MunchingZombie saidyes, once I flew out to Arizona to see my grandmother. The sex was wild though.



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  • DuggerPDX

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    Nov 18, 2008 3:40 PM GMT
    MunchingZombie saidyes, once I flew out to Arizona to see my grandmother. The sex was wild though.


    I'm assuming those were mutually exclusive statements.
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    Nov 18, 2008 3:54 PM GMT
    MunchingZombie saidyes, once I flew out to Arizona to see my grandmother. The sex was wild though.


    LOL
    that's just wrong, wrong, dirty and wrong icon_eek.gif
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    Nov 18, 2008 4:16 PM GMT
    If I were paying someone to come and visit me, or he was paying for me to visit him, there would be no expectation of sex (unless we were already involved in a developing relationship that was physical from previous encounters.) Since I would presume and verify that he wasn't a whore, and made sure that he knew I wasn't either, there is no reason to assume that sex was a requirement or even an expectation unless mutually agreed.

    Clarify this first.

  • Sayrnas

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    Nov 18, 2008 4:23 PM GMT
    ...cuz paying to see someone you don't know, with no clear indication of where the meeting is going to go, is safe.icon_question.gif
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    Nov 18, 2008 5:57 PM GMT
    From your post, it sounds like it's more your guy that's going on this trip, but your profile says you're single, so I'm not really sure if it's you or your guy that is considering the trip.

    Either way:

    Has the only lines of communication with this guy been online? What are the conversations like? Are they about sex?
    What are the two parties wanting to meet for? How was it (meeting) brought up? Is there an event planned, such as a concert, amazing theme park, huge party, etc?

    If conversation has only been online, sex is constantly brought up, no events are planned, and a guy wants to fly you or your partner out to meet them for the first time, then I would say that sex is at least on one of the party's minds.

    If the two parties have been friends for a while, know each other and haven't seen each other in a long time, then I wouldn't necessarily think sex was the intent.