Receiving oral sex with open wound?

  • mindblank

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    Jul 31, 2013 1:57 PM GMT
    Hi guys,

    This is pretty gross topic so I'm sorry but I need advice on my risk - it's more complicated than it sounds at first. I received oral sex (my penis in his mouth) and about 2 minutes into it we noticed a lot of blood mixed in with his saliva (yuck) all over my penis. He wanted to continue sucking but I wouldn't let him (talk about low standards). I just assumed the blood was mine as I tweeze the hair that grows quite far up my shaft and while doing it this morning had a little blood from it (it happens). I assumed this cut had been reopened by him so basically I'd have an open wound on my c0ck. But I'm now wondering it could've easily been blood from the guy's mouth...

    I'm worried about getting HIV from this... I'm not sure I have enough time to research the 24 hour medication, or if I should contact a doctor or something, I mean it could be completely unnecessary but because there must have been an open wound, I'm worried. Any experts in this area around? I really appreciate your input. Thanks

    edit: The guy had some skin rashes.
    edit: This encounter happened in a very cruisy spot outdoors, and I had seen him around before. Stupid behaviour I know icon_sad.gif
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    Jul 31, 2013 2:42 PM GMT
    mindblank said...about 2 minutes into [sucking] we noticed a lot of blood mixed in with his saliva (yuck) all over my penis. He wanted to continue sucking but I wouldn't let him (talk about low standards).

    Not low standards at all, but completely rationale. Blood is never a good sign during gay sex. There's not only a risk for HIV transmission, but for more ordinary infectious agents to be passed, as well. You may BOTH have been bleeding, or at least still had a break in your skin due to your tweezing, you simply don't know.

    Common HIV tests won't reveal an infection for 2-3 months, even 6 in rare cases. You might be a candidate for aggressive early HIV treatment, even without a positive diagnosis, which recent studies have shown can be extremely effective.

    See a doctor ASAP. You may need an additional referral to an infectious disease specialist. I don't know your location, but these HIV services are available in some parts of the US and other developed countries, but may not be conveniently near you. In any case, time is of the essence. While your risk may be low, it's still real, in my opinion. If I were in your shoes I would see a doctor today.
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    Jul 31, 2013 3:00 PM GMT
    Everything ART_DECO said

    + do you know the guy in person? or is he a random stranger?
    In either way, if possible take him to the doctor along with you. Diagnosis can be easy and also both can get early treatment if anything is diagnosed. And one of the things you have to find out is who's blood it is.
  • mindblank

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    Jul 31, 2013 9:52 PM GMT
    Thanks for those replies. (When I said low standards I was referring to the other guy wanting to continue sucking on a bloody cock, judgemental toad that I am ;)).

    I just didn't know if it warranted being all dramatic and trying to get in touch with someone medical but from your opinions i don't feel so hysterical in seeking help.

    And no, I don't really know the guy and have no way of getting back in touch with him.
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    Jul 31, 2013 10:00 PM GMT
    mindblank saidThanks for those replies. (When I said low standards I was referring to the other guy wanting to continue sucking on a bloody cock, judgemental toad that I am ;)).

    I just didn't know if it warranted being all dramatic and trying to get in touch with someone medical but from your opinions i don't feel so hysterical in seeking help.

    And no, I don't really know the guy and have no way of getting back in touch with him.

    OK, so stop chatting and ACT! You would make us all feel better, and you'll be doing yourself a favor, too.
  • mindblank

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    Jul 31, 2013 10:25 PM GMT
    Yes I will first thing in the morning. It's now the middle of the night here. I've just found a relevant phone number and will phone first thing in the morning and will do whatever they say. Where I am, we are lucky, I've also just found a website that tells you where services are. Can't imagine what it might be like in places that don't have those services. I imagine we'd have PEP(?) available nearby although I've read it's very expensive for them. I will let you know what happens tomorrow, if any interest. Thanks a million for replying.
  • MikemikeMike

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    Aug 01, 2013 8:32 AM GMT
    Yet another reason NOT to get random head from strangers. You can't get in touch with him again?? I Guess you should have read his tattoo over 1 billion served first. He might have broke a scab in his throat.icon_idea.gif

    Your standards are just as low. He wanted to continue.icon_neutral.gif He's probably poz and figured what the heck.icon_sad.gif
  • mindblank

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    Aug 01, 2013 7:25 PM GMT
    Ok well in case anyone is interested in the circumstances I described above I was advised it's still apparently such a low risk that PEP would not be advisable because "it's nasty and gives you diarrhoea, vomiting, and people end up taking time off work during the 28 day program" so they just ran the usual tests for the various STDs. I was on for taking PEP but they weren't. So hopefully it will in the end be a lesson learned and no STD.

    Edit: In my jurisdiction they only give PEP to drug injectors or anal sex recipients who have had the appropriate contact with a known HIV+ source within the previous day or two. The sooner the better like within hours of the contact is best. If the partner's HIV status is unknown they don't give PEP.
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    Aug 05, 2013 5:55 PM GMT
    i couldnt even watch a porn last nite where the one dood had an open sore on his leg. Yuk!! LOL.
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    Aug 05, 2013 10:50 PM GMT
    leo23 said
    mindblank saidOk well in case anyone is interested in the circumstances I described above I was advised it's still apparently such a low risk that PEP would not be advisable because "it's nasty and gives you diarrhoea, vomiting, and people end up taking time off work during the 28 day program" so they just ran the usual tests for the various STDs. I was on for taking PEP but they weren't. So hopefully it will in the end be a lesson learned and no STD.

    Edit: In my jurisdiction they only give PEP to drug injectors or anal sex recipients who have had the appropriate contact with a known HIV+ source within the previous day or two. The sooner the better like within hours of the contact is best. If the partner's HIV status is unknown they don't give PEP.

    you should have said that you suspect his status to be positive. by doing so you would have instinct PEP. I know bad advise, but you see, we can't follow their rules. especially when we are in doubt. they would keep chanting 'window period' concept. thus they would not advise PEP so easily.

    To the OP: have yourself checked for HIV each month for 6 months. If you have indeed contracted HIV the earlier you are diagnosed and begin treatments the better, per the latest studies. Your long-term outlook can be very favorable with prompt attention. Hopefully you aren't POZ, and I personally think your risk isn't very high. But risk is still risk, so be prudent, and more careful in the future.

    To mindblank: I endorse your tactic, and use it myself. When my husband was having lower stomach pains for 12 hours this past March I took him to the hospital ER. When they asked for his symptoms I included chest pains, which was a lie (we have mutual legal documents that empower each of us with authority in the other's health care, essential in this red State of Florida).

    Reporting chest pains in someone his age and with his medical history got him brought into the ER immediately, avoiding a long wait in the lobby. And when the doctors examined him, guess what? They determined he didn't have a gastric problem at all, but a serious cardiac issue. Despite him not having any classic heart attack signs. But I suspected what it was, I'd seen it in my late Father with his own heart attacks.

    Afterwards the doctors told me he was mere minutes from possibly having a heart attack, and they gave him open-heart bypass surgery. Today he's doing great, largely because he didn't actually advance to a heart attack, which would have given him permanent heart damage that modern medicine can't reverse.

    Did I save his life, or spare him long-term debilitation? I dunno, no one can ever really say. But when my husband's health is concerned I'll lie & cheat to get him immediate care, my ethics go right out the window, it's all about him. Whether you would do the same for yourself is your decision.