I'm hot and 28! Hookups not panning out..slap me straight rJ!

  • glowstik

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    Aug 01, 2013 2:14 AM GMT
    Hot attractive stud needs help, why can't my hookups or first dates pan out to something more?

    For the past 6 months I've been killing it in being able to score a 1 time meeting, date, or what turns to a hU...

    But I am FUCKING up

    Why can't I let the other person make the next move?

    What can I change because asking for a day 3 (second date) is usually the end of communication

    Why do I care " I'm secretly looking for.love/something more :'(

    Could I play things differents... being myself isn't working I wonder but I am focusing on younger hot/ attractive guys like 18+-22 on grindR and jackD

    Thanks guys :') please help.me out and checkout my profille and comment my pics
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    Aug 01, 2013 2:26 AM GMT
    OK good looking guy. Seem to communicate well. IDK. Maybe go upstairs a little in age range? What are you normally playing for?
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    Aug 01, 2013 2:29 AM GMT
    dude u need help
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    Aug 01, 2013 2:34 AM GMT
    Well your self-esteem clearly isn't the issue.
  • HottJoe

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    Aug 01, 2013 2:40 AM GMT
    Matiz saidWell your self-esteem clearly isn't the issue.

    He scares me.icon_sad.gif
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    Aug 01, 2013 2:41 AM GMT
    HottJoe said
    Matiz saidWell your self-esteem clearly isn't the issue.

    He scares me.icon_sad.gif


    Really? I get more of a lol rolleyes effect.
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    Aug 01, 2013 2:47 AM GMT

    People on those apps aren't looking for communication... Try going to a nice bar or club.
  • glowstik

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    Aug 01, 2013 2:47 AM GMT
    charlitos saiddude u need help


    U need help! .....With your bench ohHH!

    lol so far no one has anything valuable to say ? icon_smile.gif

    I'd tell myself to "hit the gym!" at least


    next jackD / grindR questionoes "gay dating" = soooo many unsaved phone#'s
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    Aug 01, 2013 2:49 AM GMT
    Slap you into what most men want???


    Real talk though, just keep trying icon_biggrin.gif
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    Aug 01, 2013 2:52 AM GMT
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    Aug 01, 2013 2:53 AM GMT
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  • HottJoe

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    Aug 01, 2013 2:56 AM GMT
    Matiz said
    HottJoe said
    Matiz saidWell your self-esteem clearly isn't the issue.

    He scares me.icon_sad.gif


    Really? I get more of a lol rolleyes effect.

    I guess you're right... I'll feel better now. Want me to make you a sandwich? icon_razz.gif
  • AMoonHawk

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    Aug 01, 2013 2:57 AM GMT
    If you are just hooking up ... that's all you are going to get. How are you meeting these guys ... hook up sites? If yes, then why are you expecting more. Looking for love? Never give it up on a first date.
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    Aug 01, 2013 3:02 AM GMT
    glowstik saidHot attractive stud needs help, why can't my hookups or first dates pan out to something more?

    For the past 6 months I've been killing it in being able to score a 1 time meeting, date, or what turns to a hU...

    But I am FUCKING up

    Why can't I let the other person make the next move?

    What can I change because asking for a day 3 (second date) is usually the end of communication

    Why do I care " I'm secretly looking for.love/something more :'(

    Could I play things differents... being myself isn't working I wonder but I am focusing on younger hot/ attractive guys like 18+-22 on grindR and jackD

    Thanks guys :') please help.me out and checkout my profille and comment my pics


    If I were you, I'd open my age range.

    To be candid, I'd also tone down the crazy. icon_wink.gif
  • glowstik

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    Aug 01, 2013 3:09 AM GMT
    GooberGeek said
    glowstik saidHot attractive stud needs help, why can't my hookups or first dates pan out to something more?

    For the past 6 months I've been killing it in being able to score a 1 time meeting, date, or what turns to a hU...

    But I am FUCKING up

    Why can't I let the other person make the next move?

    What can I change because asking for a day 3 (second date) is usually the end of communication

    Why do I care " I'm secretly looking for.love/something more :'(

    Could I play things differents... being myself isn't working I wonder but I am focusing on younger hot/ attractive guys like 18+-22 on grindR and jackD

    Thanks guys :') please help.me out and checkout my profille and comment my pics


    If I were you, I'd open my age range.

    To be candid, I'd also tone down the crazy. icon_wink.gif


    Hmm lol a passive aggressive shot from a guy? That doesn't have a pair of balls to show his face. Also being candid ;)
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    Aug 01, 2013 3:30 AM GMT
    glowstik said
    lol so far no one has anything valuable to say ? icon_smile.gif




    Yeah we don't give a shit.

    HottJoe said
    Matiz said
    HottJoe said
    Matiz saidWell your self-esteem clearly isn't the issue.

    He scares me.icon_sad.gif


    Really? I get more of a lol rolleyes effect.

    I guess you're right... I'll feel better now. Want me to make you a sandwich? icon_razz.gif


    This sandwich sounds most intriguing!
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    Aug 01, 2013 4:01 AM GMT
    glowstik said
    GooberGeek said
    glowstik saidHot attractive stud needs help, why can't my hookups or first dates pan out to something more?

    For the past 6 months I've been killing it in being able to score a 1 time meeting, date, or what turns to a hU...

    But I am FUCKING up

    Why can't I let the other person make the next move?

    What can I change because asking for a day 3 (second date) is usually the end of communication

    Why do I care " I'm secretly looking for.love/something more :'(

    Could I play things differents... being myself isn't working I wonder but I am focusing on younger hot/ attractive guys like 18+-22 on grindR and jackD

    Thanks guys :') please help.me out and checkout my profille and comment my pics


    If I were you, I'd open my age range.

    To be candid, I'd also tone down the crazy. icon_wink.gif


    Hmm lol a passive aggressive shot from a guy? That doesn't have a pair of balls to show his face. Also being candid ;)


    Believe it or not, I have a legit reason for not having a face pic (I'm suppose to stay off of social media sites for lawsuit legal reasons). icon_redface.gif Obviously, I'm not holding up to it.

    I didn't mean to be passive aggressive. I meant what I said. Obviously you're an attractive guy and all, but that's only half the battle. What's an attractive appearance if the inside is all moldy?

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    Aug 01, 2013 4:05 AM GMT
    He'll be Troll'n along the Mountain when he CUMS.....

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  • glowstik

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    Aug 01, 2013 11:24 AM GMT
    GooberGeek said
    glowstik said
    GooberGeek said
    glowstik saidHot attractive stud needs help, why can't my hookups or first dates pan out to something more?

    For the past 6 months I've been killing it in being able to score a 1 time meeting, date, or what turns to a hU...

    But I am FUCKING up

    Why can't I let the other person make the next move?

    What can I change because asking for a day 3 (second date) is usually the end of communication

    Why do I care " I'm secretly looking for.love/something more :'(

    Could I play things differents... being myself isn't working I wonder but I am focusing on younger hot/ attractive guys like 18+-22 on grindR and jackD

    Thanks guys :') please help.me out and checkout my profille and comment my pics


    If I were you, I'd open my age range.

    To be candid, I'd also tone down the crazy. icon_wink.gif


    Hmm lol a passive aggressive shot from a guy? That doesn't have a pair of balls to show his face. Also being candid ;)


    Believe it or not, I have a legit reason for not having a face pic (I'm suppose to stay off of social media sites for lawsuit legal reasons). icon_redface.gif Obviously, I'm not holding up to it.

    I didn't mean to be passive aggressive. I meant what I said. Obviously you're an attractive guy and all, but that's only half the battle. What's an attractive appearance if the inside is all moldy?



    Your insides all moldy!! Stop replying attacking me It doesn't bother me and I don't really care what a no face/no name guy? with pending legal charges thinks
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    Aug 01, 2013 2:45 PM GMT
    The answer is simple.
    Six months isn't that long a time to be concerned.
    Let me fly out, date you, and give you my valuable feedback.
  • Fable

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    Aug 01, 2013 2:54 PM GMT
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    Aug 01, 2013 3:54 PM GMT
    OP, let's call a spade a spade. You clearly have a hot body, and that's what you've got prominent in your profile here. Based on that, I'd assume that's what you've got on Jack'd and Grindr too. My suggestions are:

    1) Change your profile picture
    Even in your profile you recognize that guys are very much visual creatures. If your default profile picture is a headless torso shot or a shot of your face and shirtless body, guys will pretty much always assume you want nothing more than a hookup or friends with benefits at best. Make your default profile picture one where you are clothed, naturally smiling and exuding confidence. It's ok to still have a shot or two on your profile of your body, but when it dominates your profile you give off an image that it sounds like you no longer want to give off.

    2) Change your profile notes
    I again don't have anything to go off but your notes on your RJ profile, and those also suggest that you're mostly here for hookups. If that's not your intent, you should change them. Write about yourself, things you like doing, things you look for in other guys. Again, you're clearly an attractive guy, but in a world where there are a lot of attractive men you have to have more than that if you're looking for something deeper. As much as we don't want them to, looks fade with age, so when looking for something longer term guys don't tend to focus on looks as much. How are you convincing guys that you've got more than that?

    3) Broaden your age range
    It's been touched on by other posters, but I'll reiterate their points. You're not generally going to find a gay or bisexual man under the age of 25 that's looking for anything substantial beyond a hookup or FWB. Older men tend to know what they're looking for and aren't going to play games with you.

    4) Be yourself...with a twist
    In your post here you've said "being myself isn't working". What do you mean by that? What does being yourself look like? Based on your profile, yourself seems to be mostly defined by physicality and not much else. Clearly that's not true, but how do the guys in your life know that's not true? No matter how much you avoid acting natural (being yourself) around a guy in the beginning, you will eventually show your true colours in the long term. Best just to be yourself right from the get go, and if a guy doesn't jive with your personality, it's better that you find out earlier on and save yourself and him the heartbreak.

    Good luck, OP. You'll be alright. Lend me some of that self-confidence, will ya?
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    Aug 01, 2013 4:03 PM GMT
    glowstik saidHot attractive stud needs help, why can't my hookups or first dates pan out to something more?


    Perhaps arrogance is the problem.
  • Generaleclect...

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    Aug 01, 2013 4:10 PM GMT
    A nice set of pecs with single-digit post count? Why, it's almost like you're not a big stinking troll! icon_biggrin.gif