Magnetism: Do U Attract Or Repulse?.....

  • TannerMasseur

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    Aug 01, 2013 12:59 PM GMT
    Are u the kind that easily attracts guys or are u polar opposites & find it hard to attract guys? Do u think ur attractive or repulsive? Is there anything u can do to change that or were u just born with genes that most aren't attracted to? Do u have a personality that leaves a bad taste in people's mouths? Do others find u abrasive so they turn the other way soon as they see u? Do u think it's them or u? Do u think they already have a set list of what they like & if u don't fit it then they find u unattractive & therefore treat u dismissively from the get go? Do people with shallow perspectives hinder their mindset---instead of being inclusive they're exclusive; and instead of treating everyone nicely they give preferential treatment---being nice & sweet to those they like, & mean to those they want nothing to do with or don't care to know one iota?.....
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    Aug 01, 2013 1:39 PM GMT
    spgem saidAre u the kind that easily attracts guys or are u polar opposites & find it hard to attract guys?


    It depends, its actually easier for me to attract men in real life than online, but i have had my good times and bad times with both

    spgem saidDo u think ur attractive or repulsive?


    attractive

    spgem saidIs there anything u can do to change that or were u just born with genes that most aren't attracted to?


    I dont find myself unattractive, however from what i hear here on Real Jock, being born looking black or with african blood sets you back a couple of notches ...

    spgem saidDo u have a personality that leaves a bad taste in people's mouths? Do others find u abrasive so they turn the other way soon as they see u?


    Not that i know of, I can say that i have authority issues and dont take BS well, i think sometimes because of my petite size some people think they can muscle me around. but i'm not that kind of gay looking to be " dominated "

    spgem saidDo u think it's them or u? Do u think they already have a set list of what they like & if u don't fit it then they find u unattractive & therefore treat u dismissively from the get go?


    Sometimes yes, sometimes no. I have noticed though that some people will treat you with kindness if they think you are good looking or at least decent looking. I've seen alot of gays talk about only wanting to be " friends " ... but i've seen the way the choose their friends contradict that statement.



    spgem saidDo people with shallow perspectives hinder their mindset---instead of being inclusive they're exclusive; and instead of treating everyone nicely they give preferential treatment---being nice & sweet to those they like, & mean to those they want nothing to do with or don't care to know one iota?.....



    Yes, I will say that i know that people have types of things they are attracted to more than others, but it shouldnt turn you into a classless asshole. I have loads of friends that dont look like me or that i dont find attractive and it dosent bother me. Alot of people claim they have " preferences " as to the reason why they might exclude " certain people "....... Well guess what, I have a preference too, I'm more inclined to be turned on by a man with curly hair ... but that dosent mean that i will not talk to, not date, or not even consider someone without curly hair. People should the understand the definition of words before you use them.
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    Aug 01, 2013 1:42 PM GMT
    Very thorough CopperDevil icon_smile.gif Thx for answering icon_smile.gif
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    Aug 01, 2013 1:44 PM GMT
    spgem saidVery thorough CopperDevil icon_smile.gif Thx for answering icon_smile.gif


    You're welcome icon_smile.gif
  • TannerMasseur

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    Aug 01, 2013 2:02 PM GMT
    simonneversaid saidsad enough, i actually think that i have a magnetic personality. i attract people to me without even trying to even when i think nobody is paying attention to me or ignoring my ass. weird shit.


    That's good then icon_smile.gif
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    Aug 01, 2013 2:04 PM GMT
    simonneversaid said
    spgem said
    simonneversaid saidsad enough, i actually think that i have a magnetic personality. i attract people to me without even trying to even when i think nobody is paying attention to me or ignoring my ass. weird shit.


    That's good then icon_smile.gif


    damn, you responded back quick.


    Already up & on here icon_smile.gif
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    Aug 01, 2013 3:55 PM GMT
    simonneversaid said
    spgem said
    simonneversaid said
    spgem said
    simonneversaid saidsad enough, i actually think that i have a magnetic personality. i attract people to me without even trying to even when i think nobody is paying attention to me or ignoring my ass. weird shit.


    That's good then icon_smile.gif


    damn, you responded back quick.


    Already up & on here icon_smile.gif


    goddamn...... *dead*


    U alrite?! icon_smile.gif
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    Aug 01, 2013 3:57 PM GMT
    If I attract hot guys, I wish they'd show it icon_smile.gif
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    Aug 01, 2013 4:02 PM GMT
    pf0081 saidIf I attract hot guys, I wish they'd show it icon_smile.gif


    The sentiments of a lot icon_smile.gif Seens we're all holding out for Mr. Right! icon_smile.gif .....
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    pf0081 saidIf I attract hot guys, I wish they'd show it icon_smile.gif


    The sentiments of a lot icon_smile.gif Seens we're all holding out for Mr. Right! icon_smile.gif .....


    Don't you just wish we could all show our feelings without fear? It would be alot happier world
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    Aug 01, 2013 4:10 PM GMT
    pf0081 said
    spgem said
    pf0081 saidIf I attract hot guys, I wish they'd show it icon_smile.gif


    The sentiments of a lot icon_smile.gif Seens we're all holding out for Mr. Right! icon_smile.gif .....


    Don't you just wish we could all show our feelings without fear? It would be alot happier world


    Our self-check & inhibitions prevent that. Not wanting to be rejected. Unless u look like say Henry Cavill, Chris Evans, Channing Tatum or Sagi Kalev, who most likely have no worries about any gay guy turning them down---for the rest of us there's that insecurity "in or out of league" factor.....
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    spgem said
    pf0081 said
    spgem said
    pf0081 saidIf I attract hot guys, I wish they'd show it icon_smile.gif


    The sentiments of a lot icon_smile.gif Seens we're all holding out for Mr. Right! icon_smile.gif .....


    Don't you just wish we could all show our feelings without fear? It would be alot happier world


    Our self-check & inhibitions prevent that. Not wanting to be rejected. Unless u look like say Henry Cavill, Chris Evans, Channing Tatum or Sagi Kalev, who most likely have no worries about any gay guy turning them down---for the rest of us there's that insecurity "in or out of league" factor.....



    I wonder what people think what's in my league or out of my league. I always feel that people have a warped sense of what I'm into or will accept
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    Aug 01, 2013 4:21 PM GMT
    Aristoshark saidI have found throughout my life that people are drawn to me. I'm only average looking, so it must be my personality.


    It's ur sharp wit & nose icon_smile.gif They think, "O, hot daddy! He must be hung!" icon_smile.gif .....
  • xKorix

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    Aug 01, 2013 4:26 PM GMT
    In person, yes, online, no.
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    Aug 01, 2013 4:27 PM GMT
    xKorix saidIn person, yes, online, no.


    So in person u attract guys easily but not online?.....
  • xKorix

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    Aug 01, 2013 4:35 PM GMT
    spgem said

    So in person u attract guys easily but not online?.....


    Yeah I get ignored quite a bit when I try to speak to people, don't get messaged too often, online. But offline it's quite different. I get approached, most people are quite receptive when I speak to them. I guess things are different online, people's standards change.
  • TannerMasseur

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    Aug 01, 2013 4:40 PM GMT
    xKorix said
    spgem said

    So in person u attract guys easily but not online?.....


    Yeah I get ignored quite a bit when I try to speak to people, don't get messaged too often, online. But offline it's quite different. I get approached, most people are quite receptive when I speak to them. I guess things are different online, people's standards change.


    Yeah, there's no etiquette or decorum online. In person everyone has to be cordial, civil & proper.....
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    Aug 01, 2013 5:06 PM GMT
    spgem saidAre u the kind that easily attracts guys or are u polar opposites & find it hard to attract guys?


    A lot of people will come up and speak to me in person. Online it's the opposite.

    Do u think ur attractive or repulsive?

    I've always tended to focus on what I see as my flaws. Then, I just say f**k it and don't look in mirrors xP


    Is there anything u can do to change that or were u just born with genes that most aren't attracted to?

    I was born the way I am. I guess I could get things done, but that doesn't interest me.

    Do u have a personality that leaves a bad taste in people's mouths? Do others find u abrasive so they turn the other way soon as they see u? Do u think it's them or u?

    This depends on the group or the people. I'm an artist so love art/culture, and these are a big part of my personality. Some people react very well to me, and others just don't. People in the larger older U.S cities (New York, Chicago, San Francisco...) or Europe react well to me. In the newer cities, like Los Angeles, I don't get warm and fuzzy nearly as much, so it's both: them and me icon_smile.gif

    Do u think they already have a set list of what they like & if u don't fit it then they find u unattractive & therefore treat u dismissively from the get go?

    A lot of people have lists, and there's nothing wrong with that. Some people like All American while others like Latinos.... If I don't fit the list, why would they find me attractive?

    Do people with shallow perspectives hinder their mindset---instead of being inclusive they're exclusive; and instead of treating everyone nicely they give preferential treatment---being nice & sweet to those they like, & mean to those they want nothing to do with or don't care to know one iota?.....

    It seems that most people will be nice to those they like and reserved to those they don't. That's not unusual. Do I think people who only talk about the newest reality show and what movie star they saw to the exclusion of all else aren't growing their mindset? Perhaps, but if that makes them happy, it's all good.
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    Aug 01, 2013 5:43 PM GMT
    Very thorough icon_smile.gif Thx for answering M4 icon_smile.gif
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    I am absurdly talented at repulsing.
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    Aug 01, 2013 6:01 PM GMT
    principal0 saidI am absurdly talented at repulsing.


    Do u do it by rote or are people just repulsed by u?.....
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    Aristoshark said
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    principal0 saidI am absurdly talented at repulsing.


    Do u do it by rote or are people just repulsed by u?.....

    Don't listen to him.
    He has a huge coterie of friends who are insanely devoted to him. I'm one of them. Plus they're all hot. Including the chix.


    I thought we were talking romantic entanglements here. Which I have few-to-none of. My friends are amazing, present company included. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Aug 01, 2013 6:32 PM GMT
    I attract but then never approach me icon_sad.gif
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    Aug 01, 2013 6:45 PM GMT
    JDR62 saidI attract but then never approach me icon_sad.gif


    Aw icon_sad.gif
  • TannerMasseur

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    Aug 01, 2013 6:58 PM GMT
    principal0 said
    Aristoshark said
    spgem said
    principal0 saidI am absurdly talented at repulsing.


    Do u do it by rote or are people just repulsed by u?.....

    Don't listen to him.
    He has a huge coterie of friends who are insanely devoted to him. I'm one of them. Plus they're all hot. Including the chix.


    I thought we were talking romantic entanglements here. Which I have few-to-none of. My friends are amazing, present company included. icon_biggrin.gif


    Yes, we're talking about both sexual interests & friends icon_smile.gif .....If u have that magnetism u can attract a lot of friends & a whole slew of lovers, a ladies' man or a men's man.....