What Happened When My Son Wore a Pink Headband to Walmart

  • metta

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    Aug 02, 2013 7:03 PM GMT
    What Happened When My Son Wore a Pink Headband to Walmart

    http://www.huffingtonpost.com/katie-vyktoriah/what-happened-when-my-son-wore-a-pink-headband-to-walmart_b_3696113.html
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    Aug 02, 2013 7:26 PM GMT
    I hope she reported this incident to the police in the end. They ought to be able to pick up the ignorant scum from CCTV footage of the incident and of his car, as well as from his card transaction details, if he used one.
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    Aug 02, 2013 7:41 PM GMT
    What happened? I can't get the link to load. Can you please give us a little information about this?
  • HottJoe

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    Aug 02, 2013 7:44 PM GMT
    Damn. I wish she would've kicked him in the nuts. What an upsetting thing to read about. icon_sad.gif
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    Aug 02, 2013 8:29 PM GMT
    It's not just that one guy. Nobody came to their aid or even tried to comfort them.
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    Aug 02, 2013 8:30 PM GMT
    im not surprised something like this would happen in our world. icon_sad.gif That lady should have kicked him where it hurts good.
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    Aug 02, 2013 8:32 PM GMT
    This guy needs to get head butted by Hulk.
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    Aug 02, 2013 8:39 PM GMT
    Philibuster saidIt's not just that one guy. Nobody came to their aid or even tried to comfort them.


    You have to consider the location. Why would anyone ever go near those places? I went once - in about 2005. I'd been told I could save money on something I wanted. Found out the savings was nil, and totally not worth the dreary experience. I didn't buy anything & walked out, returning to my normal store. Not going back to a WM. Not ever.
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    Aug 02, 2013 8:46 PM GMT
    GoNYMets2012 saidWhat happened? I can't get the link to load. Can you please give us a little information about this?



    I don't know why the link is not working for you but here is the story:


    This is Dexter. He is 2 years old. He loves to be Batman and Superman and Spiderman. He's a real boys' boy. He pretends he is flying, and he captures the baddies who threaten us.

    He is the sweetest little troublemaker you'll ever meet.

    Some other things you might like to know about Dexter:

    He is a fabulous big brother. He was a later bloomer vocabulary-wise. He used to be terribly shy but has recently begun to come out of his shell. He loves new people and enjoys greeting them with a big "HI!" when he meets them.

    His favorite color is pink. He loves Dora the Explorer. He has been known to wear my skirt as a dress, and he delights in cuddling with his mama.

    Last night, I took my two boys out to pick up a couple of things from Walmart. Mark had to catch up on some work, so I ventured out on my own, which is something I don't do very often. It takes a lot of work to get the kids ready, get them in and out of the car, find a shopping cart, keep them happy while I shop and get them home in one piece. You parents will understand this.

    After struggling to get him dressed and get his shoes on, I had to pry an overlarge teddy bear out of Dexter's arms, as he was set on taking him with us. This brought on tears and tantrums, which I somehow managed to calm very quickly. But when I attempted to remove my discarded lace flower headband from his head (which he'd been wearing all day), I saw him getting ready to fight, so I left him to it. Who was he hurting?

    We got to the store, and amazingly I managed to get him to sit in the shopping cart with no issues. The fact that he was wearing a cute girly headband made him feel good, and he was charming all the old ladies by waving like a little pageant prince. I snapped his photo after two old birds came up to tell me just how adorable he was.

    He rocked that headband.

    Soon enough, we were done with our shop and were making our way toward the front. As we passed through the produce section, two teenage girls began giggling and one of them asked, "Is that a boy or a girl?" I smiled and said, "He's a boy." I looked on at him adoringly as they continued to giggle.

    Out of nowhere a big booming voice rang out. "THAT'S a BOY?!" The man was overly large with a bushy beard and a camouflage shirt with the arms cut off. He had tattered shorts and lace-up work boots with no laces. I could smell the fug of cigarette smoke surrounding him, and there was a definite pong of beer on him.

    "Yes," I said simply, still smiling.

    With no notice, the man stepped forward, grabbed the headband off of Dexter's head and threw it to the bottom of our shopping cart. He then cuffed Dexter around the side of his head (not hard, but that is not the point) and said with a big laugh, "You'll thank me later, little man!"

    At the same time as I stepped forward, Dexter grabbed his head where the man had smacked him and threw his other hand forward, stomping his foot and shouting, "NO!" I got between my son and this man and said very firmly, "If you touch my son again, I will cut your damn hands off."

    The guy snarled at me, looked at Dexter with disgust and said, "Your son is a f*cking fa***t." He then started sauntering out, but not before he threw over his shoulder, "He'll get shot for it one day."

    I stood there, shaking, fists clenched, waiting for the man to disappear out the door, and then I fell apart. I was shaking so hard, holding back tears and comforting Dexter.

    Not a single person said or did anything. There were several people who had witnessed the encounter, but not one of them came over to offer support or console me or my son.

    Let me repeat to you: Dexter is 2 YEARS OLD.

    I was there with a 2-year-old and a 5-month-old baby, and my kid had been verbally and physically assaulted by a man. And no one did a thing.

    I made my way to the front, still in shock, and I paid for my items and left. I did not report it to the management nor to the authorities, though I am considering doing both. But as I live in a tourist area, I doubt there is anything I can do to find the man -- he could be anyone from anywhere.

    It's been almost 24 hours, and I've vented on Facebook and had many supportive comments. I have calmed down. I am able to look at the situation with as much objectivity as I am capable of.

    There is so much wrong with what happened that I don't even know where to begin.

    This man removed an article of clothing that my son was wearing. It doesn't matter that it was a headband. It is never OK.

    This man forcefully touched my child without permission. He thought he was being funny. I did NOT think he was.

    He called my son an extremely derogatory word AND suggested that he deserved to die.

    How is ANY of this okay?!

    THIS is what bigotry looks like.

    A grown man who should know better decided it was OK to step in and "teach" my child what it is to be manly. He thought it was OK to judge my child because he was not adhering to HIS idea of what a little boy should be. Clearly, the man was a homophobe, which is bad enough -- but to attribute gay tendencies to a 2-year-old is as RIDICULOUS as attributing STRAIGHT tendencies to a 2-year-old. It just doesn't compute!

    A 2-year-old HAS no sexuality.

    To think you can "teach" a child to be a certain way is unbelievable. Even if being gay is a lifestyle choice (which I don't believe for a second), it is not a choice that a toddler can ever make. And much like little girls can play baseball or enjoy monster trucks, little boys can and do play dress up with mommy's clothes, accessories, makeup, etc. Everything is new and exciting to a kid, and they learn by trying new things.

    Mark and I are both completely supportive of love in all forms. Be you gay, straight, bisexual, transsexual or polygamous, it is YOUR business. I don't judge, and I don't try and change you.

    And if one or both of my kids grow up to realize they are any of these things, it will not change a thing about how I feel toward them.

    But right now, the fact that homophobia is so rampant, that gay marriage is still seen as dirty because homosexuals are "lesser" somehow and don't deserve to have the same rights as straight folk, that people like that man in Walmart even EXIST makes me fear for my kids and their futures.

    While we may accept and support whoever our kids turn out to be, I am scared beyond words at what it would mean for them if they ARE gay. Why should anyone have to live in fear because they fall in love with someone that you or someone else doesn't agree with? Why should mothers and fathers of gay kids have to have an extra layer of terror at night because they know that the world at large is against their child?

    Why does it matter? Do you really think your God or your Jesus or your deity of choice would be as judgemental as you seem to be? Even the POPE has come out and said it's OK to be gay.

    But all of this aside, whatever stance you take on the debate, it is a complete farce to ever allow your fear or disgust with an ADULT lifestyle color your view of a child!

    And it is NEVER EVER OK to touch a kid who isn't yours without permission. ALL people, even children, deserve respect.
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    Aug 02, 2013 8:51 PM GMT
    I agree with one of the comments I read that said she needs to contact Walmart, get the video (I'd be surprised if they didn't have it) and find out who his is, charge him with a hate crime AND assault. Teach him a lesson!
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    Aug 02, 2013 8:57 PM GMT
    What's the difference between fug and pong?
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    Aug 02, 2013 8:58 PM GMT
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    HottJoe saidDamn. I wish she would've kicked him in the nuts. What an upsetting thing to read about. icon_sad.gif
    he did the right tjing..just trying to save that boy from a life of misery and emptiness



    you're a savage

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    HottJoe saidDamn. I wish she would've kicked him in the nuts. What an upsetting thing to read about. icon_sad.gif
    he did the right tjing..just trying to save that boy from a life of misery and emptiness


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    Aug 02, 2013 9:08 PM GMT
    I can't determine what State and city this was. I suppose irrelevant; the People of Walmart, wherever the store is located, are the worst trash on Earth. See for yourself:

    http://www.peopleofwalmart.com
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    Aug 02, 2013 9:16 PM GMT
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    Philibuster saidIt's not just that one guy. Nobody came to their aid or even tried to comfort them.


    You have to consider the location. Why would anyone ever go near those places? I went once - in about 2005. I'd been told I could save money on something I wanted. Found out the savings was nil, and totally not worth the dreary experience. I didn't buy anything & walked out, returning to my normal store. Not going back to a WM. Not ever.

    How nice for you.
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    Aug 02, 2013 10:53 PM GMT
    metta8 saidWhat Happened When My Son Wore a Pink Headband to Walmart

    http://www.huffingtonpost.com/katie-vyktoriah/what-happened-when-my-son-wore-a-pink-headband-to-walmart_b_3696113.html


    Sad we live in such a hate filled world. Luckily those people are becoming fewer and fewer. I hope that woman never shops at Walmart again. Another reason not to shop there. They don't care about their customers
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    Aug 02, 2013 11:02 PM GMT
    if that was my son and that redneck bitch would ahve sdone that infront of me i would have beat he rednecks ass into the ground what a stupid ass bitch. dude would be broken when i was done with his bitch ass
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    Aug 02, 2013 11:04 PM GMT
    oohiewally said
    HottJoe saidDamn. I wish she would've kicked him in the nuts. What an upsetting thing to read about. icon_sad.gif
    he did the right tjing..just trying to save that boy from a life of misery and emptiness

    Nah, my life is great!icon_biggrin.gif
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    Aug 02, 2013 11:06 PM GMT
    This is what you get when you shop at walmart. Some idiot calling a 2 year old a faggot? Jesus ...
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    Aug 02, 2013 11:07 PM GMT
    One more reason NOT to shop at Walmart.
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    Aug 02, 2013 11:10 PM GMT
    Philibuster said
    Jockbod48 said
    Philibuster saidIt's not just that one guy. Nobody came to their aid or even tried to comfort them.


    You have to consider the location. Why would anyone ever go near those places? I went once - in about 2005. I'd been told I could save money on something I wanted. Found out the savings was nil, and totally not worth the dreary experience. I didn't buy anything & walked out, returning to my normal store. Not going back to a WM. Not ever.

    How nice for you.


    How nice for ME? How do you mean that? Are you one of the Walmart people mentioned above in Art's post? Are you a defender of that chain? You do realize, don't you - that that chain has put countless stores out of business? You realize how many hard working families lost their businesses due to mega chains like WM? You do realize how extremely wealthy the Walton family has become - - - off of the backs of so many broken American families who worked very hard all their lives? And finally - you do realize don't you - that if you're on a budget - there are many more alternatives to going to a WM to save money? Why not give your money to a store that is not a greedy, selfish, homophobic mega chain?
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    Aug 02, 2013 11:31 PM GMT
    Philibuster saidIt's not just that one guy. Nobody came to their aid or even tried to comfort them.
    People often say that after situations like these, but in reality, although it may have seemed like forever to the mother involved, this was probably such a brief moment in time that it was likely over by the time those around them assessed the incident to see what was going on. If you watch the "What Would You do?" show, there are people in these kind of situations willing to step in, but those scenarios they set up are usually stretched out for a lengthy amount of time.
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    Aug 02, 2013 11:39 PM GMT

    Well, that's a interesting story....

    Ok I know it shouldn't matter what stores you go to, but WalMart isn't the best place of "brightest" people. We have a Super WalMart and Super Target here in town right next to each other and you can just tell how people act between the two stores. Let me just say that still doesn't give someone to call a 2yo or ANY age those words.

    The man touching the kid is what's most wrong in the article. If it's not your kid, do not touch the child unless it needs emergency help or his lost.

    Of course I side with the mother... but she should of known better of her son wearing that on his head. Nowadays anything that looks homosexual to very anti-gay people can instantly start drama.


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    Aug 03, 2013 1:07 AM GMT
    It's Walmart. I'm not a snob at all, but having been to Walmarts all over Texas and Virginia, I'm telling you that there is a difference between the patrons there and Target in the way people carry themselves and act towards people. I do still go to Walmart because they are more affordable for some things. But you see the difference from the the way people act in the parking-lot to the way they interact in the store.
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    Aug 03, 2013 2:00 AM GMT
    I assume it's a crime that evil piece of shit committed? Walmart should absolutely make every effort to identify this man and report it to the police. I'm almost dumbfounded that anyone could stoop to such a low. This low life should be arrested, prosecuted, and locked up for years. I'd guess he already has an arrest record.

    And yes, you do see the strangest people at Walmart. But, you do get good deals.