Anomalies: Teratology---The Study of Freaks of Nature.....

  • TannerMasseur

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    Aug 04, 2013 6:05 AM GMT
    I was at a baseball game today hanging out at one of the bars & there was this guy with t-rex arms (born thalidomide). He stood out like a sore thumb. On top of that he was nerdy & dorky looking with a cratered face & thick-rimmed glasses. All his guy friends were busy socializing with girls but not one girl would approach him or start a conversation with him. And he himself was too inhibited to approach any girl. He was out to have a good time just like everybody else, yet not one girl approached him even just to talk about sports. It was like watching the laws of natural selection at play.....

    When u see someone in public who is disfigured in some way either born that way or from an accident, do u stare or pretend that there is no pink elephant in ur vicinity? Do u carry on a conversation with him/her like any another person or do u feel awkward doing so? Do u think to urself god forbid they think ur interested & give u their number expecting u to call back? Or do u treat them like any other joe like anyone would want to be treated? Do u have friends with a disfigurement of some kind? Or are u urself disfigured & how do u deal with the stares or break the ice of social stigma & ostracization?.....

    It's a study in teratology---freaks of nature. Who the freak is is up for debate: the one who is physically deformed or the one who doesn't acknowledge the presence of the one deformed & value their worth as another human being with the same wants & needs, but finds it harder to be accepted because of his/her less than desirable mien?.....
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    Aug 04, 2013 12:42 PM GMT
    gayinterest said


    Funny! Adam has a healthy attitude about his prosthetic leg, which he can hide under pants icon_smile.gif And he's a handsome enough fellow with "game" icon_smile.gif And got to dig his Aussie accent! icon_smile.gif .....Wonder how the t-rex guy I saw would fair on the show?.....
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    Aug 04, 2013 1:00 PM GMT
    That's my point.

    Life and happiness is about your attitude towards it.

    Some people revel in self-pity.
    Some people choose happiness and good humour.
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    Aug 04, 2013 1:04 PM GMT
    gayinterest saidThat's my point.

    Life and happiness is about your attitude towards it.

    Some people revel in self-pity.
    Some people choose happiness and good humout.


    Wish u were there to see the t-rex guy & the lack of interaction anyone had with him. I don't think it was him. I think girls would just lead him on if they showed any sign of cordiality.....It builds character to be able to cope being born with his condition. Have to develop a thick skin, like saying, "Fuck it, I'm going to go out with my friends & have a good time!" But he stood by himself while his friends socialized. It would have been interesting to see a friendly girl go up to him & socialize with him & see what happens. But not one girl did & we were in the same room for like 6 innings.....And none of his friends were like, "Hey, let me introduce u to my friend T" icon_smile.gif .....
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    Aug 04, 2013 1:04 PM GMT
    For a start, please stop calling him a T-Rex guy...

    2nd, You get from life what you put into it. Did HE ever initiate conversation with anyone?
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    Aug 04, 2013 2:57 PM GMT
    gayinterest saidFor a start, please stop calling him a T-Rex guy...

    2nd, You get from life what you put into it. Did HE ever initiate conversation with anyone?


    I think it's a given for Flipper. He knows the deal. My friends & I were in the same vicinity for 6 innings so we all kinda casually looked to see if he would socialize with any girl or vice-versa, but no he didn't & not one girl looked his way. We think he's been turned down too many times to even go there.....
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    Aug 04, 2013 3:55 PM GMT
    Wouldn't u treat someone like t-rex like a regular guy? I'm sure he would want to be treated the same.....

    And how would u deal with it if u had his condition?.....
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    Aug 04, 2013 4:08 PM GMT
    spgem saidWouldn't u treat someone like t-rex like a regular guy? I'm sure he would want to be treated the same.....

    And how would u deal with it if u had his condition?.....


    pls just stop. Not sure if you're doing it out of ignorance, shock value, facetiousness, or irony....

    but, just stop.
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    Aug 04, 2013 4:32 PM GMT
    gayinterest said
    spgem saidWouldn't u treat someone like t-rex like a regular guy? I'm sure he would want to be treated the same.....

    And how would u deal with it if u had his condition?.....


    pls just stop. Not sure if you're doing it out of ignorance, shock value, facetiousness, or irony....

    but, just stop.


    It was the first thing that came to our minds when we first saw him. We didn't say it out loud but afterwards we talked about him & we were all thinking "t-rex". I'm sure he's heard it all.....
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    Aug 04, 2013 4:48 PM GMT
    You and your friends sound great.
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    Aug 04, 2013 4:54 PM GMT
    Wow! your not at all a Real Jock, Your a Realdouchebag. What you were born perfect?? You should have grown some balls and sat with him and easily talk to him about the game!!!
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    Aug 04, 2013 4:55 PM GMT
    gayinterest saidYou and your friends sound great.


    First impressions. Everybody was thinking it. Just honest enough to talk about it.....Anyway, the Phillies were losing, so he caught our attention, besides all the hot daddy sports guys & hot young jock studs.....
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    Aug 04, 2013 5:00 PM GMT
    SCboyatheart saidWow! your not at all a Real Jock, Your a Realdouchebag. What you were born perfect?? You should have grown some balls and sat with him and easily talk to him about the game!!!


    Ur an asswipe icon_smile.gif I created this thread to bring it to ur attention. My friends & I were sensitive enough to notice him & empathize with him. Everyone in the room should have talked to him out of their own volition & not out of pity, yet no one made an effort....
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    Aug 04, 2013 5:24 PM GMT
    Dude your post makes no sense, and the more you respond to it the more you look like a dildo to every one on here reading this, you and your friends were sensitive?? yea but then calling him T rex and talking crap about him, oh he doesn't have any friends or girlfriends?? you don't know anything about this guy,or what his life is like. He probably has a bigger dick then you.
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    Aug 04, 2013 5:27 PM GMT
    SCboyatheart saidHe probably has a bigger dick then you.


    haha
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    Aug 04, 2013 5:31 PM GMT
    SCboyatheart saidDude your post makes no sense, and the more you respond to it the more you look like a dildo to every one on here reading this, you and your friends were sensitive?? yea but then calling him T rex and talking crap about him, oh he doesn't have any friends or girlfriends?? you don't know anything about this guy,or what his life is like. He probably has a bigger dick then you.


    Hey asswipe, read the thread instead of chiming ur idiotic judgemental 2 cents.
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    Aug 04, 2013 5:37 PM GMT
    spgem said not one girl approached him even just to talk about sports.


    He might be gay. Why didn't you say Hello and offer some humanity whether he was gay, straight or asexual?
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    Aug 04, 2013 5:37 PM GMT
    spgem saidI was at a baseball game today hanging out at one of the bars & there was this guy with t-rex arms (born thalidomide).

    Matthew Macconaughey has been quoted as saying he has t-rex arms. When pretty people are self deprecating it ruins it for the rest of us.

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    Aug 04, 2013 5:39 PM GMT
    gayinterest said
    SCboyatheart saidHe probably has a bigger dick then you.


    haha


    Again this goes back to my Endless Chatter: The Bandwagon Bully Mentality thread. Ur attacking the OP who's posted an innocent observation based on ur preferences & biases. If the OP looked like say Henry Cavill, Chris Evans or Channing Tatum, u wouldn't even dare ridicule him in anyway, if fact u'd probably listen & agree with whatever he has to say because u'd see him in a prurient light.....
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    Aug 04, 2013 5:42 PM GMT
    BackToTop said
    spgem said not one girl approached him even just to talk about sports.


    He might be gay. Why didn't you say Hello and offer some humanity whether he was gay, straight or asexual?


    He was with his friends. And we were further away in the room. The ones closer to him should have engaged conversation with him.
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    Aug 04, 2013 5:44 PM GMT
    eagermuscle said
    spgem saidI was at a baseball game today hanging out at one of the bars & there was this guy with t-rex arms (born thalidomide).

    Matthew Macconaughey has been quoted as saying he has t-rex arms. When pretty people are self deprecating it ruins it for the rest of us.

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    This guy had flippers.
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    Aug 04, 2013 5:56 PM GMT
    I think interacting with him to show "sensitivity" is insincere. If no girl interacted with him, it's possible they had nothing to say to him.

    My local Home Depot has a cashier with a curious disfigurement of her right arm. I'm often in her line and make small talk, swipe my card, refuse her help carrying my items to the car...but I generally--consciously--try to sound and behave like I don't see that arm.

    I am aware of my conscious decision to treat her normally, and that always causes me anxiety. I HAVE to be conscious of it, keep my eye contact normal. I imagine a woman with enormous breasts encounters this: everybody's making REALLY GOOD EYE CONTACT.

    So I overcompensate. Let my eyes wander. Closed-lip smile. Let her be unremarkable in my presence. Thank her--until next time--and go.

    That is all that can be done. Should I ask her out? Wonder what she's doing after work? Make her feel special, because I'm such a great guy? No. I wouldn't give her the time of day if her right arm matched her left, so why should it be different because she's disfigured?

    I think insincerity is equally damaging. Be as genuine as possible (even if you have to "act" like me). If your two worlds intersect, look for the commonalities--how can you use each other--and let it be organic.
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    Aug 04, 2013 6:07 PM GMT
    mickeytopogigio saidI think interacting with him to show "sensitivity" is insincere. If no girl interacted with him, it's possible they had nothing to say to him.

    My local Home Depot has a cashier with a curious disfigurement of her right arm. I'm often in her line and make small talk, swipe my card, refuse her help carrying my items to the car...but I generally--consciously--try to sound and behave like I don't see that arm.

    I am aware of my conscious decision to treat her normally, and that always causes me anxiety. I HAVE to be conscious of it, keep my eye contact normal. I imagine a woman with enormous breasts encounters this: everybody's making REALLY GOOD EYE CONTACT.

    So I overcompensate. Let my eyes wander. Closed-lip smile. Let her be unremarkable in my presence. Thank her--until next time--and go.

    That is all that can be done. Should I ask her out? Wonder what she's doing after work? Make her feel special, because I'm such a great guy? No. I wouldn't give her the time of day if her right arm matched her left, so why should it be different because she's disfigured?

    I think insincerity is equally damaging. Be as genuine as possible (even if you have to "act" like me). If your two worlds intersect, look for the commonalities--how can you use each other--and let it be organic.


    Very good Mickey icon_smile.gif I agree icon_smile.gif .....
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    Aug 04, 2013 6:21 PM GMT
    haha spgem, you're in no position to take any ethical high-ground here. Just shut up.