Aug 04, 2013 8:26 AM GMT
Hi guys (and any girls on here)
I'm a young guy who's recently just accepted that I have same sex attractions towards men and I really want to go out and meet a guy, have fun/relationship etc but...
I have low self esteem. And I'm not talking standard insecurities everyone has, I'm talking ridiculously low self esteem resulting from BDD (Body Dysmorphic Disorder). Every day is hell. I've been to counselling for it last year and I'm probably gonna end up in more counselling for it soon. It's knocked my confidence so much I don't even know how to be happy anymore.
People tell me I'm not bad looking but obviously with all I've been through I just don't believe it. I am really skinny though and I find myself strangely being attracted to men that are bigger and muscular. I really doubt any of those beautiful muscular guys would ever want a guy like me. I just feel so inferior and like I'd disappoint him
So why come on these forums? Because I'd like to hear from any other gay/bi guys who've overcome their own insecurities and found the man of their dreams or at least found a guy to make them happy. Because I have so many questions. Do opposites ever attract, does a skinny guy like me have a hope in hell with a big guy, does skinny really equal ugly? And honestly I'm on here because I don't wanna feel so alone anymore. I just wanna connect with other people who might possibly understand what I'm going through and maybe learn something.
Sorry for the long post, just wanted to tell my story a little bit. Can any of you answer any of my questions above from your experiences and should I even be considering dating at all with all the emotional baggage I have??
ps; I don't have any pics cause I'm not fully out and as mentioned above I'm MEGA insecure.
Thanks in advance xx
I'm a young guy who's recently just accepted that I have same sex attractions towards men and I really want to go out and meet a guy, have fun/relationship etc but...
I have low self esteem. And I'm not talking standard insecurities everyone has, I'm talking ridiculously low self esteem resulting from BDD (Body Dysmorphic Disorder). Every day is hell. I've been to counselling for it last year and I'm probably gonna end up in more counselling for it soon. It's knocked my confidence so much I don't even know how to be happy anymore.
People tell me I'm not bad looking but obviously with all I've been through I just don't believe it. I am really skinny though and I find myself strangely being attracted to men that are bigger and muscular. I really doubt any of those beautiful muscular guys would ever want a guy like me. I just feel so inferior and like I'd disappoint him

So why come on these forums? Because I'd like to hear from any other gay/bi guys who've overcome their own insecurities and found the man of their dreams or at least found a guy to make them happy. Because I have so many questions. Do opposites ever attract, does a skinny guy like me have a hope in hell with a big guy, does skinny really equal ugly? And honestly I'm on here because I don't wanna feel so alone anymore. I just wanna connect with other people who might possibly understand what I'm going through and maybe learn something.
Sorry for the long post, just wanted to tell my story a little bit. Can any of you answer any of my questions above from your experiences and should I even be considering dating at all with all the emotional baggage I have??
ps; I don't have any pics cause I'm not fully out and as mentioned above I'm MEGA insecure.
Thanks in advance xx