RowdyRugby saidThis seems to happen to anyone else out there? Tips? Experiences?
Start with a metaphor: do you eat at such-and-such-a-restaurant because:
1. The restaurant (management/owner) approached you and told you it would be a good idea to eat there?
2. You walked by the restaurant and it smelled and looked good?
3. A friend recommended the restaurant to you and you decided to try it out?
4. You're fucking hungry and anything you can cram in your mouth will do?
You'll likely not take option 1, unless it comes with a coupon, free samples, etc. Basically you'll be turned off by a restaurant desperate enough to cold call you.
You'll possibly take option 2, if you get out and about. You've gotta be in its vicinity, though, to make that connection.
Most likely you'll take up option 3. A friend's endorsement is much better than one from the restaurant directly, and you'll be drawn close enough to encounter option 2.
With option 4 you're basically so hungry and you fear nothing will be open at this time of the night. You're not there because you want to be; you're there because you have to be.
OK, in the metaphor, YOU are the restaurant. The cold call (option 1) seems to be your technique. Even if you sound perfect (they like sushi, for instance) something feels off about it--why is this the first they've heard of this place, what are the reviews, will they get salmonella?
Options 3 & 4 are your best bet. Get a friend to help (or find someone who's really fucking horny and willing NOW). If the friend (at a party/bar/library/rally) introduces you to someone--just casually, no pretenses--the "customer" can smell your, you know...menu...and see how appetizing you are without feeling the pressure to buy anything. You can be warm, inviting, casual...start things off with a drink...