How does one get over a heartbreak?

  • Calg_dancer

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    Aug 05, 2013 5:02 AM GMT
    I know what you're thinking...what the fuck are you talking about 'heartbreak'? You're 19 but is there any way to get over someone who you loved more than anyone else?
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    Aug 05, 2013 5:08 AM GMT
    Question: How does one get over a heartbreak?

    Answer: Time
  • Calg_dancer

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    Aug 05, 2013 5:13 AM GMT
    It's been two months....how much more time do I need to spend crying and over thinking every single thing?
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    Aug 05, 2013 5:15 AM GMT
    Calg_dancer saidIt's been two months....how much more time do I need to spend crying and over thinking every single thing?


    Subjective. It took me a year to get over my first bf. I was 23 then.
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    Aug 05, 2013 5:16 AM GMT
    Erik101 saidQuestion: Answer: Time

    and starting some new hobbies!, meeting new people, etc.
  • Calg_dancer

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    Aug 05, 2013 5:16 AM GMT
    That's upsetting. I don't want to spend a year being sad because someone didn't love me the way I loved them.

    Did anything help the process?
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    Aug 05, 2013 5:37 AM GMT
    Erik101 saidQuestion: How does one get over a heartbreak?

    Answer: Time


    Ditto and NO CONTACT with your ex.
  • mybud

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    Aug 05, 2013 6:07 AM GMT
    I know this sounds like retreaded bullshit but it's the truth...Time Heals. Enjoy your friends, school, your family. Take all the lessons you've learned from this relationship and build a better relationship. A relationship built on mutual respect,love, and truth..You deserve all these things man...All the best.
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    Aug 05, 2013 6:13 AM GMT
    Time +1

    Find someone new.

    Sever all contact. Let him go.

  • Calg_dancer

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    Aug 05, 2013 6:21 AM GMT
    perfect ahha jk.
  • MikemikeMike

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    Aug 05, 2013 7:45 AM GMT
    Calg_dancer saidThat's upsetting. I don't want to spend a year being sad because someone didn't love me the way I loved them.

    Did anything help the process?


    family friends and good music.icon_idea.gif 2 months is really no time at all. I got dumped only once in my life...man she was beautiful.
  • Montague

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    Aug 05, 2013 7:52 AM GMT
    Heart transplant.
  • heyom

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    Aug 05, 2013 9:26 AM GMT
    Unfortunatly, time man. Just make sure you keep busy in the meantime really. That is all
  • heyom

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    Aug 05, 2013 9:27 AM GMT
    Erik101 said
    Calg_dancer saidIt's been two months....how much more time do I need to spend crying and over thinking every single thing?


    Subjective. It took me a year to get over my first bf. I was 23 then.


    I agree. Once it took me a year and a half to fully stop being sad about someone and not think about them at all anymore. It doesn't happen like that all the time of course, only when you fall really hard, shall we say.
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    Aug 05, 2013 12:07 PM GMT
    To get over a boy, u need to get under another boy. Finish and klaar. It obvious as we speak he is on top of this new lad of his.
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    Aug 05, 2013 12:59 PM GMT
    heyom said
    Erik101 said
    Calg_dancer saidIt's been two months....how much more time do I need to spend crying and over thinking every single thing?


    Subjective. It took me a year to get over my first bf. I was 23 then.


    I agree. Once it took me a year and a half to fully stop being sad about someone and not think about them at all anymore. It doesn't happen like that all the time of course, only when you fall really hard, shall we say.

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    Besides time, and no contact, try to stop thinking about him - Every time a thought of him pops into your head, consciously try to immediately put your mind on something else.

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    Aug 05, 2013 1:20 PM GMT
    Heart glue?

    Grieving is a process, so it takes time. It will take as much time as you need to find something else to take hold of your heart and attention.
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    Aug 05, 2013 1:51 PM GMT
    As what Betty White said the best way to get over a man is to get under another.
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    Aug 05, 2013 2:18 PM GMT
    Loss of a loved one, or even a crush, is somewhat like a death. You mourn him, think of him, wonder what you did "wrong,", etc. Time will get your mind on other things, and men. What you can do is be out there, do things with your friends, volunteer for stuff if you have the time, My experience is that when I stopped looking and became happy with my friends and my life I found my love. Best of luck to you. It's a hard thing to go through.
  • madsexy

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    Aug 05, 2013 2:37 PM GMT
    "The best way to get over a man is to get under another one."

    Move on; have FUN; don't look back.
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    Aug 05, 2013 2:53 PM GMT
    Calg_dancer saidIt's been two months....how much more time do I need to spend crying and over thinking every single thing?

    It's call grieving and it varies with the person and the situation. Just because it may take longer to get over him doesn't mean you have to stop dating or doing other things until it's a done deal. Sometimes a piece of the heart never gets over someone special. You learn from your mistakes, hang on to the memories and move on to finding another special person to invest your energies in. Good luck.
  • Destinharbor

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    Aug 05, 2013 3:14 PM GMT
    Stop whining and get on with your life.
  • MikemikeMike

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    Sep 08, 2013 6:06 AM GMT
    Destinharbor saidStop whining and get on with your life.


    get a puppy this ole bitter man needs oneicon_idea.gif
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    Sep 08, 2013 6:12 AM GMT
    Calg_dancer saidThat's upsetting. I don't want to spend a year being sad because someone didn't love me the way I loved them.

    Did anything help the process?


    Takes about half the time that you were in love to truly get over it. Unfortunately, at my age, I have PLENTY of experience.
  • PT_Focus

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    Sep 08, 2013 6:16 AM GMT
    The only answer, I agree with a lot of these guys...Time.

    I had a rough break up with a guy i thought Id spend the rest of my life with. But i took myself out of all the temptation of the gay community and really found myself. Now I am single and almost happier than I was before. Ya I miss him but its not going to do me any good waiting around for something that may never happen. Got to move on and face it at some point