unprotected Sex for the first time

  • RainBow_Drago...

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    Aug 05, 2013 4:04 PM GMT
    Ugh. Why do such bad things feel SO good?I don't even know why the situation presented it self. I had condoms, many condoms, but this guy took a turn i didn't expect. We were both drunk, which already presented the problem of getting a proper boner. I had to have like 1 hour of foreplay before i was sober enough. but I know that he was digging it so much, it felt amazing, I was licking him out and he had his legs wrapped around my head and moaning like crazy, it was so ****ing hot.)

    ANYWAY enough reliving and time for the trouble. He started out by riding on top of me when we got going with a condom on, then He went back to sucking me off AND laughingly kind of joked about not tasting good so pulled the condom off me, but then quickly we were in the missionary position and before i knew it my dick was already inside. The worst part? I rolled with it, it felt so good in a kind of this is wrong way. We didn't keep at it for long before I ejaculated inside of him.

    He was someone random I met online. I cant imagine asking him whether he was clean.but I felt embarrassed.

    Am I gonna be alright? )": I'm so fikkin worried!
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    Aug 05, 2013 4:09 PM GMT

    Well, you just learned the fleeting pleasure of unprotected sex isn't worth how you feel now.

    Go get tested for HIV, then again in 3 months. Then once more in 6.

    As for all the other STDS, no sex for 3 weeks, then get tested for them all. Go earlier if you develop any symptoms.

    Always use a condom for penetrative sex; there are a lot of things you can catch besides HIV.

    Also consider that oral etc can also be an avenue for a few bugs as well.

    Good heavens, man, it's 2013!

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    Aug 05, 2013 4:11 PM GMT
    When you asked if you're going to be alright meaning will you be free of HIV or Hepatitis, it's hard to say. At this point, all you can do is wait 3 to 6 months to get tested. The incubation period of HIV is that long.

    Next time, use good judgment when playing with others.
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    Aug 05, 2013 4:17 PM GMT
    RainBow_Dragon2000 said
    I cant imagine asking him whether he was clean.but I felt embarrassed.




    HIV+ does not = dirty.

  • RainBow_Drago...

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    Aug 05, 2013 4:19 PM GMT
    There won't be a next time )": I will never put myself in this shit again.
  • Fable

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    Aug 05, 2013 4:20 PM GMT
    GO TO A&E/ER AND GET PEP ASAP IT COULD SAVE YOUR LIFE
  • AMoonHawk

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    Aug 05, 2013 4:46 PM GMT
    If you were topping the risk factor is lower ... not sure if that will help put you at ease, but you should definitely go for HIV testing every 3 to 6 months for at least the next 2 or 3 years. Early diagnosis is a huge key to being healthy.
  • Suetonius

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    Aug 05, 2013 7:36 PM GMT
    It's hard to understand why any HIV- guy would have any unprotected sex unless they are totally wasted or a meth addict. True, there are now treatments for HIV, and few people die of it in the US today. There are other consequences, though. What if you later want to have kids? Besides lifelong impaired health, someone with HIV will never be able to get life insurance or disability insurance. Everyone with children should have life insurance. (It's only because of the passage of Obama care that someone with HIV will be able to get health insurance outside of their existing employment.)
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    Aug 05, 2013 9:52 PM GMT
    Suetonius saidIt's hard to understand why any HIV- guy would have any unprotected sex unless they are totally wasted or a meth addict. True, there are now treatments for HIV, and few people die of it in the US today. There are other consequences, though. What if you later want to have kids? Besides lifelong impaired health, someone with HIV will never be able to get life insurance or disability insurance. Everyone with children should have life insurance. (It's only because of the passage of Obama care that someone with HIV will be able to get health insurance outside of their existing employment.)



    Not true on a few points. First one is just judgemental! Yikes!
    You CAN live a long, normal and healthy life now. Assuming you can handle the meds and don't become resistant. Most can, but it's not 100%, maybe 80%.
    There are a few health insurance programs funded by the Ryan White Act.



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    Aug 05, 2013 10:00 PM GMT
    You are going to die.




































    How soon, though, has a lot to do with the choices that you make. The more you bareback, the higher your probability of getting STDs which can wreck your immune system, and turn you into a haggard petri dish before you die an ugly painful death.

    It's kind of like crossing the highway. There is risk when you cross the highway. You may get away with it unharmed a few times, but if you cross the highway all day and all night...you're going to get hit.
  • rnch

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    Aug 06, 2013 4:43 PM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidIf you were topping the risk factor is lower ... not sure if that will help put you at ease, but you should definitely go for HIV testing every 3 to 6 months for at least the next 2 or 3 years. Early diagnosis is a huge key to being healthy.





    One of the few sensible, calm, "Real World" correct, non drama-queen replys on this thread.
  • Hothouse

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    Aug 06, 2013 6:18 PM GMT
    I think another risk is that, assuming you enjoyed the experience, you might be tempted to go raw again and give in, in the heat of the moment.

    Even though you say you won't do it again, you probably went into this experience thinking you wouldn't do it - but it happened.

    If you are going to be having casual hook-ups, you need to be very aware that a good number of guys will want you to go bare. Some guys live for this, some will say right up front they only go bare. Some will agree to safe sex, but in the heat of the moment, they don't want to use a condom. Some guys will lie about their status. Just know that there is a huge amount of guys that pursue bareback sex, and will lead you on to get what they want. I think some guys get some sort of thrill out of convincing guys to go raw.

    I'm not saying that you should never have a casual hook-up, but if you do, you have to be extremely careful and understand that you have to be in control of what you choose to participate in.