Finding love over 50

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    Aug 05, 2013 5:48 PM GMT
    Is it me or are relationships so much harder to find over 50. Seems all the single older guys are very comfortable being single, very set in their way's, have huge friendship circles, homes and careers to keep them occupied.
    You date a month or so, have amazing times, but they are so use to being alone and a free spirit they end it because they prefer the single life..
    How does a relationship minded older man meet a partner ?
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    Aug 05, 2013 5:53 PM GMT
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    Aug 05, 2013 5:57 PM GMT
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    Your in an open relationship ?
    My point exactly !
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    JDR62 saidIs it me or are relationships so much harder to find over 50. Seems all the single older guys are very comfortable being single, very set in their way's, have huge friendship circles, homes and careers to keep them occupied.
    You date a month or so, have amazing times, but they are so use to being alone and a free spirit they end it because they prefer the single life..
    How does a relationship minded older man meet a partner ?

    Heh; you've described me quite well.

    Maybe you could find yourself a boy toy who's looking for a sugar daddy. (Just kidding.)
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    JDR62 saidIs it me or are relationships so much harder to find over 50. Seems all the single older guys are very comfortable being single, very set in their way's, have huge friendship circles, homes and careers to keep them occupied.
    You date a month or so, have amazing times, but they are so use to being alone and a free spirit they end it because they prefer the single life..
    How does a relationship minded older man meet a partner ?


    Find a woman. A real one.
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    Aug 05, 2013 6:19 PM GMT
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    freedomisntfree said
    JDR62 saidIs it me or are relationships so much harder to find over 50. Seems all the single older guys are very comfortable being single, very set in their way's, have huge friendship circles, homes and careers to keep them occupied.
    You date a month or so, have amazing times, but they are so use to being alone and a free spirit they end it because they prefer the single life..
    How does a relationship minded older man meet a partner ?


    Find a woman. A real one.


    Ummm.. NO


    Versus be alone the rest of your life?
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    Aug 05, 2013 6:21 PM GMT
    Plenty of attractive guys over 50 here and elsewhere, there might be a bias but i have no idea why, some look better than guys in their 20s and if everything is working, i dont see any reason why love is harder to find than in any other age bracket icon_smile.gif
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    Aug 05, 2013 6:23 PM GMT
    jackrabbit108 saidPlenty of attractive guys over 50 here and elsewhere, there might be a bias but i have no idea why, some look better than guys in their 20s and if everything is working, i dont see any reason why love is harder to find than in any other age bracket icon_smile.gif


    I think the OP is correct in:

    "Seems all the single older guys are very comfortable being single, very set in their way's, have huge friendship circles, homes and careers to keep them occupied.
    You date a month or so, have amazing times, but they are so use to being alone and a free spirit they end it because they prefer the single life.."
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    Aug 05, 2013 6:29 PM GMT
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    How does a relationship minded older man meet a partner?

    At the baths? I know two guys, not exactly 50, but late 40's, late to discovering gaylife because of marriages, who met at the baths. They're still happily together 4 years later.
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    Aug 05, 2013 6:32 PM GMT
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    JDR62 saidIs it me or are relationships so much harder to find over 50. Seems all the single older guys are very comfortable being single, very set in their way's, have huge friendship circles, homes and careers to keep them occupied.
    You date a month or so, have amazing times, but they are so use to being alone and a free spirit they end it because they prefer the single life..
    How does a relationship minded older man meet a partner ?


    Find a woman. A real one.


    Fine as long as you are honest with her and she's comfortable with someone who has made her a second choice. I wouldn't recommend this arrangement for any woman I care about.
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    Aug 05, 2013 6:34 PM GMT
    JDR62 said but they are so use to being alone and a free spirit they end it because they prefer the single life...

    You're mostly describing guys who have not been in relationships before, or not for a very long time - mostly have always been single. At this stage of life, you will have better odds with guys that have had previous relationships - divorced/ ended for whatever reason/ widowed.
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    Aug 05, 2013 6:37 PM GMT
    The problem is that once you've had what everyone wants - a long relationship - you realize that it's a lot easier being single. So rather than settling, the bar's raised even higher.
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    Aug 05, 2013 6:45 PM GMT
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    JDR62 saidIs it me or are relationships so much harder to find over 50. Seems all the single older guys are very comfortable being single, very set in their way's, have huge friendship circles, homes and careers to keep them occupied.
    You date a month or so, have amazing times, but they are so use to being alone and a free spirit they end it because they prefer the single life..
    How does a relationship minded older man meet a partner ?


    Find a woman. A real one.


    Fine as long as you are honest with her and she's comfortable with someone who has made her a second choice. I wouldn't recommend this arrangement for any woman I care about.


    Second choice? How so? To my hobbies maybe?
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    Aug 05, 2013 6:46 PM GMT
    eagermuscle saidThe problem is that once you've had what everyone wants - a long relationship - you realize that it's a lot easier being single. So rather than settling, the bar's raised even higher.


    agree
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    Aug 05, 2013 6:58 PM GMT
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    Aug 05, 2013 6:59 PM GMT
    eagermuscle saidThe problem is that once you've had what everyone wants - a long relationship - you realize that it's a lot easier being single. So rather than settling, the bar's raised even higher.

    I agree with you 100%
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    Aug 05, 2013 7:06 PM GMT
    JDR62 said
    freedomisntfree said
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    freedomisntfree said
    JDR62 saidIs it me or are relationships so much harder to find over 50. Seems all the single older guys are very comfortable being single, very set in their way's, have huge friendship circles, homes and careers to keep them occupied.
    You date a month or so, have amazing times, but they are so use to being alone and a free spirit they end it because they prefer the single life..
    How does a relationship minded older man meet a partner ?


    Find a woman. A real one.


    Fine as long as you are honest with her and she's comfortable with someone who has made her a second choice. I wouldn't recommend this arrangement for any woman I care about.


    Second choice? How so? To my hobbies maybe?


    OKAY.. this is just plain crazy!!!
    I am a gay man, I love men, I love being with a MAN, a woman is not even an option. Who are you ?



    More than one person here has suspected Freedom of being a str8 GOP "plant".
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    Aug 05, 2013 7:09 PM GMT
    Seems more like 45.
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    Aug 05, 2013 7:12 PM GMT
    "freedomisntfree said
    Find a woman. A real one.


    More than one person here has suspected Freedom of being a str8 GOP "plant".[/quote]

    Okay, I just read it's profile (freedomisntfree) 60 y/o, 33" w, 51" chest, it's clearly a woman.. Lol!!
    also says it's not gay ?

    Either way it's blocked, and very creepy.
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    JDR62 saidIs it me or are relationships so much harder to find over 50. Seems all the single older guys are very comfortable being single, very set in their way's, have huge friendship circles, homes and careers to keep them occupied.
    You date a month or so, have amazing times, but they are so use to being alone and a free spirit they end it because they prefer the single life..
    How does a relationship minded older man meet a partner ?


    Totally agree. Although I don't think it's just an issue for 50 and up. As I get older, I see the gay community and my sexuality quite a bit differently than I did 10 or 15 or 20 years ago. I used to believe that gays want the same thing straights do, a relationship, a life partner, etc. Now I don't really believe that's true.

    I don't know of many successful long-term gay relationships. All of the ones I do know are "open". I've never really thought that men are designed for monogamy and when you put two men together, I don't think you can expect anything remotely close to the straight norm. I've seen it with all of my straight male friends. Their women get them under control.

    (Most) Straight couples get married, make babies, and then work towards a common goal - the family. I think this is why gay men have such a hard time. You're not working together towards something. As you said, older guys get comfortable being single. They already have their home, their friends, their careers, etc. Making room for another person is tough. Compromising with someone when you already have what you want feels like settling - and every relationship is a compromise.

    I used to really want to be with someone and while the idea is still appealing, I know that making it a reality gets harder every year. Guys my age aren't really interested. Younger guys are still caught up in the fairytale haze of finding THE ONE. I'm not saying it's impossible to find a quality relationship later in life, but the odds are definitely against you.

    And, in fairness to the gays, I know older, single straight people who feel largely the same way. They have their lives, their routines, etc. and it's going to take a very special person to make them change. Age is a big factor. You're over the hump, so to speak. All of the crazy emotional stuff (ie: youth) is behind you and you're more realistic about life, what to expect, what you need, etc. When you put two men together, it's just that much harder to make it work successfully.
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    Aug 05, 2013 7:33 PM GMT
    JDR62 said
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    JDR62 saidIs it me or are relationships so much harder to find over 50. Seems all the single older guys are very comfortable being single, very set in their way's, have huge friendship circles, homes and careers to keep them occupied.
    You date a month or so, have amazing times, but they are so use to being alone and a free spirit they end it because they prefer the single life..
    How does a relationship minded older man meet a partner ?


    Find a woman. A real one.


    Fine as long as you are honest with her and she's comfortable with someone who has made her a second choice. I wouldn't recommend this arrangement for any woman I care about.


    Second choice? How so? To my hobbies maybe?


    OKAY.. this is just plain crazy!!!
    I am a gay man, I love men, I love being with a MAN, a woman is not even an option. Who are you ?


    How is this crazy? Viable option.

    No labels for me.
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    Aug 05, 2013 7:34 PM GMT
    JDR62 said"freedomisntfree said
    Find a woman. A real one.


    More than one person here has suspected Freedom of being a str8 GOP "plant".


    Okay, I just read it's profile (freedomisntfree) 60 y/o, 33" w, 51" chest, it's clearly a woman.. Lol!!
    also says it's not gay ?

    Either way it's blocked, and very creepy.[/quote]

    Very creepy indeed, but yet you visit my profile.
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    Aug 05, 2013 7:35 PM GMT
    rnch said
    JDR62 said
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    JDR62 saidIs it me or are relationships so much harder to find over 50. Seems all the single older guys are very comfortable being single, very set in their way's, have huge friendship circles, homes and careers to keep them occupied.
    You date a month or so, have amazing times, but they are so use to being alone and a free spirit they end it because they prefer the single life..
    How does a relationship minded older man meet a partner ?


    Find a woman. A real one.


    Fine as long as you are honest with her and she's comfortable with someone who has made her a second choice. I wouldn't recommend this arrangement for any woman I care about.


    Second choice? How so? To my hobbies maybe?


    OKAY.. this is just plain crazy!!!
    I am a gay man, I love men, I love being with a MAN, a woman is not even an option. Who are you ?



    More than one person here has suspected Freedom of being a str8 GOP "plant".


    If I'm a GOP 'plant', shouldn't I be getting paid?
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    Aug 05, 2013 7:37 PM GMT
    freedomisntfree..

    Show yourself please.
    I hate profiles with no photo's especially ones that specifically say you "would never have sex with another man"..

    What/who are you ?