“I lived 30 years alone”: A Christian lesbian grandmother tells her story

  • metta

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    Aug 05, 2013 10:31 PM GMT
    “I lived 30 years alone”: A Christian lesbian grandmother tells her story

    http://johnshore.com/2013/08/05/i-lived-30-years-alone-a-christian-lesbian-grandmother-tells-her-story/
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    Aug 05, 2013 11:55 PM GMT
    Yet another story of how religion fucked up a family.

    When are people going to stop trying to rewrite the bible and just stop believing that hateful text?
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    Aug 06, 2013 12:54 AM GMT
    Thanks for sharing. I really enjoy your post icon_smile.gif
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    Aug 06, 2013 11:44 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidYet another story of how religion fucked up a family.

    When are people going to stop trying to rewrite the bible and just stop believing that hateful text?


    You missed her message:

    Lesbian grandmotherBut on New Year’s Day four years ago, after a long day of fasting and prayer, I sensed God’s message: “This time it’s not about someone else. It’s about you. You need to be honest with yourself about who you really are.”

    And I knew it was time to do something I had ignored and denied for thirty years. I walked over to my computer and Googled “Gay Christian,” not knowing what, if anything, would appear.

    And suddenly the pages opened up. I read for hours, learning about better Bible translations, learning about organizations for welcoming gay and lesbian Christians. With tears of joy and relief I learned that I didn’t have to hide that part of who I am anymore. I could admit to God, and to myself, without condemnation, that I am a lesbian. A huge burden was lifted from me.
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    Aug 06, 2013 12:17 PM GMT
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    paulflexes saidYet another story of how religion fucked up a family.

    When are people going to stop trying to rewrite the bible and just stop believing that hateful text?

    You missed her message:

    Lesbian grandmotherBut on New Year’s Day four years ago, after a long day of fasting and prayer, I sensed God’s message: “This time it’s not about someone else. It’s about you. You need to be honest with yourself about who you really are.”

    And I knew it was time to do something I had ignored and denied for thirty years. I walked over to my computer and Googled “Gay Christian,” not knowing what, if anything, would appear.

    And suddenly the pages opened up. I read for hours, learning about better Bible translations, learning about organizations for welcoming gay and lesbian Christians. With tears of joy and relief I learned that I didn’t have to hide that part of who I am anymore. I could admit to God, and to myself, without condemnation, that I am a lesbian. A huge burden was lifted from me.

    What about THIS message:

    "Oh! Then we were found out! We were threatened with losing our children (my four children, and her son). Our children were told that we were filled with evil spirits, that we were an abomination to God. We were counseled in ways that filled us with fear and shame. We were convinced that we had to choose God and our children, and give up our love for each other.

    With broken hearts, we went our separate ways. We began to try to restore our children’s trust, along with our relationship with God and with our church. We moved to different towns so that we couldn’t see each other.

    For the next thirty years I lived alone."


    She was separated from her lover and her children, and had to live alone for 30 years. None of that was necessary, because the answer she found at the end of those 30 years had been valid all along. Religion had sent her down a heartbreaking lonely detour in her life for 3 decades.

    Even if SHE thinks religion has brought her to a happy place now, she should never have been taken to a bad place at all. What she says about God accepting gays today was just as true 30 years ago. Or else it's just as true today that God hates fags. I though God was supposed to be about enduring truths, not trends. Or could it be that God and his teachings are the fallible creations of inconsistent & contradictory humans?
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    Aug 06, 2013 12:58 PM GMT
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    She was separated from her lover and her children, and had to live alone for 30 years. None of that was necessary, because the answer she found at the end of those 30 years had been valid all along. Religion had sent her down a heartbreaking lonely detour in her life for 3 decades.

    Even if SHE thinks religion has brought her to a happy place now, she should never have been taken to a bad place at all. What she says about God accepting gays today was just as true 30 years ago. Or else it's just as true today that God hates fags. I though God was supposed to be about enduring truths, not trends. Or could it be that God and his teachings are the fallible creations of inconsistent & contradictory humans?


    No, her message was that trying to conform to only to her family and familiar circle led her to be alone for 30 years.

    Then she realized she could step outside that circle and found people who accepting of her as a lesbian even if her family and familiar others did not.

    This message is important because it can be applied to more than just Christians. If the people closest to you don't love you for who you are then reach and out and find people who do.