For those who dated really good looking guys

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    Aug 06, 2013 6:18 PM GMT
    A couple questions based on this article:

    http://www.xojane.com/relationships/things-ive-learned-from-dating-really-good-looking-guys

    Has the guy / guys you dated adhered to the steretype of a vain / empty personality / dumb traits that are usually associated with very good looking people? (not generalizing, but the author in the aforementioned article explains it better)

    And do you agree with the very interesting observation the author made that: Really good looking guys often don't know they are good looking due to the fact that they aren't approached nearly as much as the regular looking guys for fear of rejection?
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    Aug 06, 2013 6:22 PM GMT
    leviticii saidA couple questions based on this article:

    http://www.xojane.com/relationships/things-ive-learned-from-dating-really-good-looking-guys

    Has the guy / guys you dated adhered to the steretype of a vain / empty personality / dumb traits that are usually associated with very good looking people? (not generalizing, but the author in the aforementioned article explains it better)

    And do you agree with the very interesting observation the author made that: Really good looking guys often don't know they are good looking due to the fact that they aren't approached nearly as much as the regular looking guys for fear of rejection?


    I completely agree with the second question.
  • mizu5

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    Aug 06, 2013 7:05 PM GMT
    I'm going to agree with the second question merely so I have an excuse as to why no one talks to me.

    And for the first? Yeah. I've dated 2 breathtakingly gorgeous guys, and both were vapid, uninteresting, single minded and slow. Funny yes, but not witty nor clever.
  • HottJoe

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    Aug 06, 2013 7:45 PM GMT
    Beauty is a curse, (and subject to change without further notice).
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    Aug 06, 2013 7:54 PM GMT
    Okay, people tell me I am handsome so I will respond to these questions in the OP from my perspective.

    I never get approached, and I think it's also because I'm very tall.

    I'm actually a very friendly guy, who's not superficial in any way. I enjoy talking to almost anyone who is respectful and has manners. Am I vain? A bit, yeah, admittedly. But I try to keep it in check.

    Once again, stereotypes are stupid. There are at least 3 [very repetitive and annoying] RJ threads every day that are started with these sweeping generalizations...

    "All Asians like white guys only...."
    "All good looking guys are vain and superficial..."
    "All older guys who like younger guys are creeps and trying to hold onto their past..."
    "Do muscle guys only like other muscle guys???"

    Open your minds and your eyes to the reality. Not every broad idea you have about particular groups of people can be applied to everyone in that group. We'd be a lot less judgmental and a lot more kind and open with each other if that were the case.

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    Aug 06, 2013 7:58 PM GMT
    MCB17 saidOkay, people tell me I am handsome so I will respond to these questions in the OP from my perspective.

    I never get approached, and I think it's also because I'm very tall.

    I'm actually a very friendly guy, who's not superficial in any way. I enjoy talking to almost anyone who is respectful and has manners. Am I vain? A bit, yeah, admittedly. But I try to keep it in check.

    Once again, stereotypes are stupid. There are at least 3 [very repetitive and annoying] RJ threads every day that are started with these sweeping generalizations...

    "All Asians like white guys only...."
    "All good looking guys are vain and superficial..."
    "All older guys who like younger guys are creeps and trying to hold onto their past..."

    Open your minds and your eyes to the reality. Not every broad idea you have about particular groups of people can be applied to everyone in that group. We'd be a lot less judgmental and a lot more kind and open with each other if that were the case.


    You forgot about the generalization that gay men are self-hating and only like straight guys, or that they can't commit to LTRs.
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    Aug 06, 2013 8:00 PM GMT
    Hmmm the hottest men to ever show interest in me have all been different, they all had things about them that were dumb but they also had intelligent aspects about them as well...... It depends. However I have been told by some guys that they were afraid to talk to me because they thought they wernt my type and id reject them
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    Aug 06, 2013 8:02 PM GMT
    MCB17 saidOkay, people tell me I am handsome so I will respond to these questions in the OP from my perspective.

    I never get approached, and I think it's also because I'm very tall.

    I'm actually a very friendly guy, who's not superficial in any way. I enjoy talking to almost anyone who is respectful and has manners. Am I vain? A bit, yeah, admittedly. But I try to keep it in check.

    Once again, stereotypes are stupid. There are at least 3 [very repetitive and annoying] RJ threads every day that are started with these sweeping generalizations...

    "All Asians like white guys only...."
    "All good looking guys are vain and superficial..."
    "All older guys who like younger guys are creeps and trying to hold onto their past..."
    "Do muscle guys only like other muscle guys???"

    Open your minds and your eyes to the reality. Not every broad idea you have about particular groups of people can be applied to everyone in that group. We'd be a lot less judgmental and a lot more kind and open with each other if that were the case.



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    Aug 06, 2013 8:03 PM GMT
    leviticii saidA couple questions based on this article:

    http://www.xojane.com/relationships/things-ive-learned-from-dating-really-good-looking-guys

    Has the guy / guys you dated adhered to the steretype of a vain / empty personality / dumb traits that are usually associated with very good looking people? (not generalizing, but the author in the aforementioned article explains it better)

    And do you agree with the very interesting observation the author made that: Really good looking guys often don't know they are good looking due to the fact that they aren't approached nearly as much as the regular looking guys for fear of rejection?



    I don't know if i'm good looking or not, but I hardly get asked out. icon_sad.gif I don't know if it's because I look to young, or maybe I'm not the ethnicity they are looking for.
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    Aug 06, 2013 8:09 PM GMT
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    leviticii saidA couple questions based on this article:

    http://www.xojane.com/relationships/things-ive-learned-from-dating-really-good-looking-guys

    Has the guy / guys you dated adhered to the steretype of a vain / empty personality / dumb traits that are usually associated with very good looking people? (not generalizing, but the author in the aforementioned article explains it better)

    And do you agree with the very interesting observation the author made that: Really good looking guys often don't know they are good looking due to the fact that they aren't approached nearly as much as the regular looking guys for fear of rejection?



    I don't know if i'm good looking or not, but I hardly get asked out. icon_sad.gif I don't know if it's because I look to young, or maybe I'm not the ethnicity they are looking for.


    You're definitely good looking, and from what I can tell, you look your age.

    Maybe it's like the article said, and a lot of guys are intimidated by younger, attractive guys such as yourself, thinking that they'll just get rejected.
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    Aug 06, 2013 8:12 PM GMT
    I don't think that one can generalize about all good-looking people as being shallow, stupid, narcissistic, etc. Maybe those who flaunt their looks or have a superiority complex over them, but otherwise being good looking doesn't mean lacking in other areas.

    Then again, I've never actually met gorgeous men in person, so what do I know. icon_confused.gif
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    Aug 06, 2013 8:15 PM GMT
    Some of the best looking people are the smartest and most successful because, given people's biases, their looks gave them an edge over other school and job applicants.
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    Aug 06, 2013 8:16 PM GMT
    leviticii saidA couple questions based on this article:

    http://www.xojane.com/relationships/things-ive-learned-from-dating-really-good-looking-guys

    Has the guy / guys you dated adhered to the steretype of a vain / empty personality / dumb traits that are usually associated with very good looking people? (not generalizing, but the author in the aforementioned article explains it better)

    And do you agree with the very interesting observation the author made that: Really good looking guys often don't know they are good looking due to the fact that they aren't approached nearly as much as the regular looking guys for fear of rejection?



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    Aug 06, 2013 8:17 PM GMT
    I have never dated a really good looking guy...
  • HottJoe

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    Aug 06, 2013 8:22 PM GMT
    Aggieboy saidI have never dated a really good looking guy...

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    Aug 06, 2013 8:24 PM GMT
    The second question i also agree with. It true beauty can be a curse, i mean i dnt think ill handle my superman look alike to go to the club on his own, where there are vultures waitin to snag him away from me. So an odinary looking guy i better, for a peace of mind.
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    Aug 06, 2013 8:30 PM GMT
    I'm not even sure if I am qualified to answer the second question... because well that kind of answers it?

    Even if I had a more handsome face, better body, and Superman's charm, I don't think I'd ever think I were all that hot. Heck, every rejection I get makes me feel like a bowl of mush.

    Also I've never dated anyone incredibly good looking. Well to clarify, never dated anyone that fits my idea of very good looking.

    EDIT: These threads. Everyone should go out and hug someone they think is hot.
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    Aug 06, 2013 8:31 PM GMT
    Spiritreaver saidI'm not even sure if I am qualified to answer the second question... because well that kind of answers it?

    Even if I had a more handsome face, better body, and Superman's charm, I don't think I'd ever think I were all that hot. Heck, every rejection I get makes me feel like a bowl of mush.

    Also I've never dated anyone incredibly good looking. Well to clarify, never dated anyone that fits my idea of very good looking.

    You're hot.
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    Aug 06, 2013 8:40 PM GMT
    Not sure how I attract them but I've dated some drop-dead gorgeous guys. It's awkward when you don't feel like you're in the same league looks wise. But they were all very fucked up in the head in one way or another and I know it's because of how society treats them differently. Exceptionally good looking people get a free pass on many things in life and they come to expect that kind of treatment.
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    Aug 06, 2013 8:41 PM GMT
    Spiritreaver saidI'm not even sure if I am qualified to answer the second question... because well that kind of answers it?

    Even if I had a more handsome face, better body, and Superman's charm, I don't think I'd ever think I were all that hot. Heck, every rejection I get makes me feel like a bowl of mush.

    Also I've never dated anyone incredibly good looking. Well to clarify, never dated anyone that fits my idea of very good looking.

    EDIT: These threads. Everyone should go out and hug someone they think is hot.


    On my way to Oklahoma. Get ready for a bear hug!
  • AMoonHawk

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    Aug 06, 2013 8:47 PM GMT
    Physical beauty only last for a year then you go back to being normal, so you really never get a chance to appreciate it or realize you have it, and by the time you do, it is too late. And if you scrutinize it enough, you will many times see that it is merely an illusion.
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    Aug 06, 2013 9:05 PM GMT
    Spiritreaver saidI'm not even sure if I am qualified to answer the second question... because well that kind of answers it?

    Even if I had a more handsome face, better body, and Superman's charm, I don't think I'd ever think I were all that hot. Heck, every rejection I get makes me feel like a bowl of mush.

    Also I've never dated anyone incredibly good looking. Well to clarify, never dated anyone that fits my idea of very good looking.

    EDIT: These threads. Everyone should go out and hug someone they think is hot.
    I feel like most people underestimate their looks (unless they're extremely self-centered). Even very good looking people probably don't always perceive they're that good looking, even if others tell them they are. And yes, rejection always enhances those feelings of mediocrity even if it's not really anything wrong with you.
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    Aug 06, 2013 9:30 PM GMT
    I've dated one extremely good looking guy. He had it all: charm, great smile, personality and a deep voice that so many guys went nuts over. It didn't bother me that guys gawked at him in public. And he was intelligent too and did well during his years in academia.

    So what was the problem? He was a whore! He slept with everyone he met and two weeks into the relationship, he was already proposing a 3-way. It was so sad because I really wanted an LTR with this guy. But I had to do what was best for me which was....

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  • ThatSwimmerGu...

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    Aug 06, 2013 11:14 PM GMT
    I've never believed the " out of your league" saying. In reality it should not be only about looks. It should be about personality too.
  • heyom

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    Aug 06, 2013 11:37 PM GMT
    I know many many ridiculously good-looking women that are not like that, but only in my direct family. On the whole, it is true I rarely talk to very good-looking guys. Women maybe, but there is no sexual tension there, so I do not care.