What do y'all think of thin/toned guys?

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    Nov 13, 2008 5:02 AM GMT
    A lot of the guys on here are really big and muscular. Someday i wish to put on some muscle like you guys. I've tried for about a year but i'm just naturally a hardgainer so it takes me quite a while to put on muscle or weight for that matter. I do a lot of running and swimming, but I don't really put on a lot muscle from those two.

    Anyways I just wanted to ask: are most of you more muscular guys attracted to muscular guys as well?
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    Nov 13, 2008 5:40 AM GMT
    Personally I like skinny lean guys, I'm incredibly jealous about how easy it is to lose the fat though.

    Skinny can be hot, buff can be hot, you just gotta work it right.
  • postyork

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    Nov 13, 2008 5:42 AM GMT
    I'm actually curious about this too. Seems like the aesthetic around here is definitely one of bigger is better (or at least, medium sized muscular is best). And while that's great (hell, I like it best), I'm curious to see how many of those guys or others like slim/toned guys.
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    Nov 13, 2008 6:37 AM GMT
    I definitely prefer bulk... which is why I'm here. heh Not so much into the really bulging muscle gods tho. Heck, a bit of tummy is a plus for me icon_razz.gif. But yeah, since this pretty much could be classified as a 'muscle' site, doubt you'd get much love for still growing guys like us here. icon_wink.gif

    Not that that's a bad thing. I see it more of a challenge. Hardgainer here too, so still a while to go. icon_razz.gif
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    Nov 13, 2008 2:37 PM GMT
    Be happy with the body you've got. There are many guys (me included) who think you have a very attractive physique. I'm definitely more into the lean and tone look rather than big and bulky.

    By the way, I think people here have two opposing definitions of "hard gainer". For you and Sedative, I think you mean it's hard for you to gain muscle.

    For others, weightlifters, I think they're referring to a heavy duty workout and diet routine designed to gain a lot of muscle.

    If I'm wrong, someone correct me.
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    Nov 13, 2008 2:53 PM GMT
    you don't have to be big and muscular and strong and powerful and able to hold a guy close in your arms so you can smell his sweet man scent before he kisses you like his life depended on it and your heart pumps and your head is about to explode with excitement and then he turns you over and prepares to plunge his thick 8 inch......sorry, what was the question again? icon_lol.gif


    no you look fine as you are mr cutie! but if you do want to put on some weight you'll have to cut down or even out the running and swimming for a while. arch enemies of the hardgainer.
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    Nov 13, 2008 3:06 PM GMT
    Learn to love your genetics. Some guys, like rugby players, are naturally big. I personally don't think I could get 'big' without hitting the roids/prohormones.

    It's definition rather than size that's sexy IMO, although horses for courses.
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    Nov 13, 2008 3:32 PM GMT
    I personally like slim and toned better. That's my body frame, and I like guys who are the same way. My boyfriend is slim and toned like I am, and the best part is my wardrobe tripled when we started dating. Though the muscle boys are fun to look at.
  • Timbales

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    Nov 13, 2008 3:38 PM GMT
    I'd love to be slim. Even when I get down to my bodyfat % goal, I won't be slim. It's just not my body type.
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    Nov 13, 2008 3:51 PM GMT
    Don't know that I belong in the muscle boy category just yet but I personally prefer men with some mean on them. I'm not attracted to skinny or ultra lean guys.
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    Nov 13, 2008 4:02 PM GMT
    BORGEOUS:

    Slim, skinny and thin is GORGEOUS!!
  • sfnicolas

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    Nov 13, 2008 4:13 PM GMT
    i love 'em, bring 'em on! icon_biggrin.gif
  • shoelessj

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    Nov 13, 2008 6:30 PM GMT
    i think it is less about body makeup than personality, how one carries oneself and a cute face!

    when i meet bigger/muscular guys, its more like a kinship with them, like we cans peak the same language, so it might be [if i was single] easier for something to happen there, but mainly i appreciate being able to chat about mutual areas of interest and training and eating and all that with them. just because guys who share the same body type can get along easier maybe, doesn't necessarily mean there is or has to be a sexual attraction - sometimes people like opposites...you know...opposites attract and all that.

    that being said, there's some really gorgeous slimmer guys here [and everywhere], and the 'odd couple' mix of the two different body types can be fun sometimes.icon_wink.gif
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    Nov 13, 2008 6:50 PM GMT
    Generally speaking, most "Real Jocks", are of athletic build. That is, to meet with much success in about any athletic endeavor, one has has to have a degree of muscular development (chess and shooting not included). Now, McPhelps (my making fun of his poor diet) is a gifted swimmer, but, nonetheless, he's athletic in build. In the very physical sports, most of the guys are what I'd call "hunky", with an abundance of strength and conditioning specific to their sport. In the power sports, and sports of cosmetics, like bodybuilding, size, and strength, along with great lines, are the hallmarks of their sport.

    No one can argue that a guy 5'10, and 135 is muscular. He may have a level of cardiac endurance, but, likely, is not "fit" in other areas of fitness. A basketball player at the collegiate level is clearly athletic, however, and almost certainly is trained with resistance, and has a wide number of factors that make him very "fit", much as a competitive bodybuilder is EXTREMELY fit from doing hours of a wide variety of training from endurance cardio, cardio intervals, to circuit training to strength training. They, truely, are amongst the fittest of the fat.

    Guys that are well-built (a product of testosterone (the male hormone), and years of work, as well as a careful nutrition and training), are often exceptionally fit when they include cardiac activity in their training (their cardiac threshold becomes extremely high due to all the muscle and support systems they have).

    The lack of food, and the lack of testosterone, encourage small, weak, and frail; typically with much less confidence, but not always. For me, a well-built, fit, and bright, man is so much better than an under confident, weak, skinny, and frail, .... part of a man. If I wanted to date women I would. Being muscular, confident, built, witty, and fun, are all part of what testosterone (maleness) brings.

    To me, someone who won't; who doesn't engage in physical work (be it weights, or labor), and who is meek and frail, is just the weaker of the species. They typically are whiney, as well, and very self-centered, in my personal experience. It's just not something I'm personally attracted to. I'm not attracted to fat folks, either, however, because, to me, they represent laziness, a lack of action / discipline, and willing self-abusive behavior (you don't wake up one morning 400 pounds)...folks who fail to take personal responsibility for their health. It's a huge turn off. When I look at them I see lazy, and unwilling to help themselves...it's a huge turn off.

    You asked, and I answered. I like them big, and strong, and confident, and fit, and witty, and bright, and smiling, and fun, and out, and a good time. Skinny, whiney, low-esteem guys...well...someone else can have them.
  • EricLA

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    Nov 13, 2008 6:54 PM GMT
    I like thin/toned guys just fine and prefer them to overly muscular guys. There's a point where muscles become too exaggerated and, for me, a turn off.

    You look just fine in that shot of you on the bed, Borgeous.
  • josephmovie

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    Nov 13, 2008 7:03 PM GMT
    Young and thin is good. Old and thin is not so good. I'm really put off by men over 35 with manboy physiques.
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    Nov 13, 2008 7:13 PM GMT
    I prefer lean toned.them. If you want to bulk up do what navy seals do...super set squats.. They will reset your whole metabolism. I seen 30 lbs gains in 3 months; of course you will want to eat like a horse too.
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    Nov 13, 2008 7:26 PM GMT
    lilTanker saidPersonally I like skinny lean guys, I'm incredibly jealous about how easy it is to lose the fat though.

    Skinny can be hot, buff can be hot, you just gotta work it right.


    liltank said it PERFECTly...icon_cool.gif
  • kinetic

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    Nov 13, 2008 8:05 PM GMT
    I've been skinny since, well, always.
    I'm definitely not as much as when I was younger, but that's because I've been in the gym a few years now...
    I have to say though, I am definitely a hard gainer and it often frustrates me.
    Generally I am happy with my body, but being one of the smaller guys at the gym when I'm putting in just as much time as everyone else can really get on my nerves sometimes.

    Although, I really am starting to believe that the grass is always greener on the other side.
    For example, just last weekend at my work (gay bar) I had someone come up to me and introduce me to his group of friends. They mentioned how they saw me the previous weekend (Halloween) dressed up w/ no shirt on (most of the staff was half naked..). They were all like OMG I wish I was thin like you etc.
    This was coming from a group of guys that I would be more than happy to trade metabolisms with!
    So I guess the trick is not to let it bother you so much by remembering that even though it is harder for guys like us to put on weight; there a plenty of people out there that are envious of our figures.
    I know, easier said than done!

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    Nov 13, 2008 8:17 PM GMT
    kinetic saidI guess the trick is not to let it bother you so much by remembering that even though it is harder for guys like us to put on weight; there a plenty of people out there that are envious of our figures.

    Exactly, and also remember that there are guys who think your slim build is their ideal of what is attractive.
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    Nov 14, 2008 2:54 AM GMT
    i shouldnt be one to talk, although i lift im paranoid about adding weight and fat around the belly.

    when i think of thin and gay i think 12 year old girl with a penis. nothing personal but it kinda defeats the purpose of being attracted to a guy. im just dealing with my own self image issues, but id prefer to be more bulking than dangerously skinny. plus theres a certain level of discipline and hard work that makes one over the other more admirable. being skinny is easy, being bulky takes discipline and hard work.
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    Nov 14, 2008 3:07 AM GMT
    I ONLY am attracted to smooth, skinny, toned guys.... like SEDATIVE, Postyork,
    and you too, Borgeous.

    Although I have a great appreciation for muscled guys as I know the discipline, hard work and determination to get there, I have no sexual interest in that kind of body.
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    Nov 14, 2008 3:33 AM GMT
    ^^^ yea what he said
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    Nov 14, 2008 4:19 AM GMT
    TallGWMvballer saidI ONLY am attracted to smooth, skinny, toned guys.... like SEDATIVE, Postyork,
    and you too, Borgeous.

    Although I have a great appreciation for muscled guys as I know the discipline, hard work and determination to get there, I have no sexual interest in that kind of body.



    haha sweet! One day i'll be muscley, i promise!
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    Nov 14, 2008 4:29 AM GMT
    i think you will, if you focus on it.... and you might be content once you get there.

    or

    your perception of what is attractive might change and you will reminisce about how naturally attractive and athletic your body used to be.

    or

    maybe you'll find the middle ground.

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