Cancer of thinking - I AM WHAT I AM...

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    Aug 07, 2013 6:16 AM GMT
    I'm finding personal development one of the most sexy attributes on people. Being someone new - same and stable in good things like values and virtues, but new and refreshing in skills, body shape, ideas and goals. Many people are using I am what I am excuse.,, I don't want to change, because I will lose myself then.''

    Learning new things and selfimproving is not losing the personality. BTW if the personality is unable to develop, is based just on laziness or selfishness, wouldn't be better to lose it and replace it? Children can do it. They are able to change from brats and menaces to charming and emphatic, if they want or until they find that excuse...

    Especially about younger and older guys this topic goes up the surface as time goes. Young guys are not more sexy because of the body (look on many sexy older guys here), but because the ability show every day something new they learned or started to hope for. If they want something, they just change their skills to get it.

    Older guys are mostly older because of the laziness or no vision where to develop. Many young guys have get old this way too.

    Are people born selfish, cruel, ignorant, honest, carrying or focused? I don't think so. They learn it. And if they learned it, is there a time when they can't learn more or different? I don't think so.

    I am NOT what I am. I am what I DECIDED to be...

    What kind of people are You trying to have around You. What kind of person are You trying to be?
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    Aug 07, 2013 6:23 AM GMT
    Good topic. I am working on myself.. and want more positive, creative, and loving people in my love. I'm striving to be a more motivated, creative, physically-fit and financially-accomplished man. Won't lie--I'm at the bottom of the barrel in my life near the age of 40 due to an impulsive decision to remake myself in NYC. But I'm striving now more than ever. I was dreadfully lazy before and hated who I was. I'm on fire now.. from remaking myself. I am striving to be better.
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    Aug 07, 2013 6:32 AM GMT
    PR_GMR saidGood topic. I am working on myself.. and want more positive, creative, and loving people in my love. I'm striving to be a more motivated, creative, physically-fit and financially-accomplished man. Won't lie--I'm at the bottom of the barrel in my life near the age of 40 due to an impulsive decision to remake myself in NYC. But I'm striving now more than ever. I was dreadfully lazy before and hated who I was. I'm on fire now.. from remaking myself. I am striving to be better.


    Wow, cool, man. Good luck with it! :-)
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    Aug 07, 2013 3:59 PM GMT
    I wouldn't exactly call it the cancer of thinking since I think "I am what I am" is good in some scenarios. Think about a gay person who is struggling with his sexuality who wants to become straight. Is it better to say "I am who I am" or is it better for that person to try to change his sexuality? It's always good to have ambition and the desire to become successful, but at the same time people have to be realistic with their ideas and goals.
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    Aug 07, 2013 4:32 PM GMT
    jr17 saidI wouldn't exactly call it the cancer of thinking since I think "I am what I am" is good in some scenarios. Think about a gay person who is struggling with his sexuality who wants to become straight. Is it better to say "I am who I am" or is it better for that person to try to change his sexuality? It's always good to have ambition and the desire to become successful, but at the same time people have to be realistic with their ideas and goals.


    Oh no, trying to change sexuality - it even didn't came to my mind by writing this. This was more about skills and shape and character profile :-)
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    Aug 07, 2013 4:54 PM GMT
    I, personally, am an emotional roller coaster with little to no self-esteem (physically). I, too, hate when people say "I am not going to change who I am," because it is ridiculous. The entire point of life is to grow and learn -- to evolve; without that then society would become stagnant.

    As I earlier mentioned, I suffer from a mood disorder and inferior thinking. That is who I am at the moment but I am actively working on changing that. The mood disorder can't be changed but the way that I approach life and others can be. I am a firm believe in lifelong education and personal growth and think everyone should be. Someone earlier on the thread mentioned that people should be realistic -- I too agree with that -- but I think people she be realistic within reason. There are some things that can be changed that aren't because people do not think they can; that is a self-fulfilling prophecy. As someone who has had his fair share of those, it isn't a good thing to embrace. I guess what I am trying to say is that change is good and people often hold themselves back from being truly great, accomplished, confident, and constantly improving.
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    Aug 07, 2013 5:10 PM GMT
    Well there's a difference between a discouraged artist trying to encourage himself...speaks in front of the mirror "I am who I am"
    and Lady gaga, putting on her meat dress coming to the discouraged artist and sings "Baby we're Born this way!"

    Both has the same meaning, but the former is more meaningful, for it has no weirdness or distractions but only self realization, where as the latter is harmful and unethical and also violent.
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    Aug 07, 2013 5:56 PM GMT
    Harry7785 saidWell there's a difference between a discouraged artist trying to encourage himself...speaks in front of the mirror "I am who I am"
    and Lady gaga, putting on her meat dress coming to the discouraged artist and sings "Baby we're Born this way!"
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    I'm no Gaga hater but that song is patronizing pandering at its worst.
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    Aug 08, 2013 2:20 PM GMT
    Arcturian said
    jr17 saidI wouldn't exactly call it the cancer of thinking since I think "I am what I am" is good in some scenarios. Think about a gay person who is struggling with his sexuality who wants to become straight. Is it better to say "I am who I am" or is it better for that person to try to change his sexuality? It's always good to have ambition and the desire to become successful, but at the same time people have to be realistic with their ideas and goals.


    Oh no, trying to change sexuality - it even didn't came to my mind by writing this. This was more about skills and shape and character profile :-)

    Yeah, I knew what you meant. I was just saying that it's sometimes good to accept who you are and accept your limitations.