How much do first impressions count?.....

  • TannerMasseur

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    Aug 07, 2013 9:44 AM GMT
    Do u value first impressions? U can only make a first impression once. Everyone always puts their best face forward when they first meet someone new. That firm handshake, that honest straight eye contact, dressed properly, got ur m/o down pat, especially counts a lot for job hunting & on first dates with someone ur into. What u see is what u get. Do u put a lot of trust on first impressions? Or do let that new person prove themselves to u & u to them---an acquired taste? Are ur first impressions correct most of the time or do ur biases & preferences color ur judgement of that new person? Do u judge a book by it's cover or do u give them some leeway & the benefit of the doubt?.....
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    Aug 07, 2013 10:47 AM GMT
    i always try not to do that, but most of the time i stick with my first impression icon_confused.gif

    i truly think it's better to give people some more time and get to know them better, before making your judgement about that.
  • TannerMasseur

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    Aug 07, 2013 2:07 PM GMT
    gentgymdude saidi always try not to do that, but most of the time i stick with my first impression icon_confused.gif

    i truly think it's better to give people some more time and get to know them better, before making your judgement about that.


    Accept for job interviews where u have to be on cue from the get go. Usually one chance to impress with the thousands of applicants vying for the same position. Then there's the callback.....

    Now when it comes to dating u definitely have to give them some rope. Everyone always puts on their best face at first, then u get to see all the idiosyncrasies & unflattering side to everyone.....
  • TannerMasseur

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    Aug 07, 2013 2:09 PM GMT
    failscarf saidIts an excuse for stupid, shallow people.


    Even in the job world....
  • Destinharbor

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    Aug 07, 2013 2:22 PM GMT
    First impressions can be wrong but really, what else do you have when you first meet? I've interviewed and hired lots of people, guys mostly, and I know very well that how someone first presents himself matters a lot but isn't necessarily who he is. Still, if that is the impression he'll be giving to customers, it is relevant information. In the dating world, I think you should be much more resistant to first impressions because you'll naturally be attracted to guys that reflect your fantasy guy. But it may be the guy who surprises you that is the most interesting in the long run.
  • TannerMasseur

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    Aug 07, 2013 2:29 PM GMT
    Destinharbor saidFirst impressions can be wrong but really, what else do you have when you first meet? I've interviewed and hired lots of people, guys mostly, and I know very well that how someone first presents himself matters a lot but isn't necessarily who he is. Still, if that is the impression he'll be giving to customers, it is relevant information. In the dating world, I think you should be much more resistant to first impressions because you'll naturally be attracted to guys that reflect your fantasy guy. But it may be the guy who surprises you that is the most interesting in the long run.


    True icon_smile.gif
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    Aug 07, 2013 2:33 PM GMT
    It depends, sometimes something could be happening underneath the surface that we cant see,and people can always change, that can be for the better or worse
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    Aug 07, 2013 2:59 PM GMT
    They count for a lot.

    With jobs, employers are looking to go through candidates as quickly as possible. Looking your best when you first meet with them shows that you're serious about the position, and are not wasting their time.

    In dating, or even in first meeting guys, first impressions are key as well. If I'm not attracted to a guy in first meeting or seeing him, I'm less likely to want to go any further.
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    Aug 07, 2013 2:59 PM GMT
    CopperDevil saidIt depends, sometimes something could be happening underneath the surface that we cant see,and people can always change, that can be for the better or worse


    Should one judge a book by it's cover or not?.....

    If one leads a healthy lifestyle & takes care of themselves, it says a lot about them as oppose to one who lets himself go. Of course there could be underlying health related issues causing them to gain weight.....
  • TannerMasseur

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    Aug 07, 2013 3:00 PM GMT
    Phillips_73 saidThey count for a lot.

    With jobs, employers are looking to go through candidates as quickly as possible. Looking your best when you first meet with them shows that you're serious about the position, and are not wasting their time.

    In dating, or even in first meeting guys, first impressions are key as well. If I'm not attracted to a guy in first meeting or seeing him, I'm less likely to want to go any further.


    So true.
  • Destinharbor

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    Aug 07, 2013 3:02 PM GMT
    failscarf saidIts an excuse for stupid, shallow people.

    This is a stupid, shallow comment. I mean, really. I see the picture you choose to represent yourself to the world and I think, this guy is really kind of unpleasant and his words are shallow. So I check the profile and my first impression is confirmed. First impressions give you some information about the person. It is a part of who he is. Not necessarily all.
  • TannerMasseur

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    Aug 07, 2013 3:09 PM GMT
    Destinharbor said
    failscarf saidIts an excuse for stupid, shallow people.

    This is a stupid, shallow comment. I mean, really. I see the picture you choose to represent yourself to the world and I think, this guy is really kind of unpleasant and his words are shallow. So I check the profile and my first impression is confirmed. First impressions give you some information about the person. It is a part of who he is. Not necessarily all.


    I always thought it'd be cool to be a ninja, walk around in stealth mode icon_smile.gif .....
  • Destinharbor

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    Aug 07, 2013 3:11 PM GMT
    Ninja yes. Catheters no.
  • TannerMasseur

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    Aug 07, 2013 3:13 PM GMT
    failscarf said
    Destinharbor said
    failscarf saidIts an excuse for stupid, shallow people.

    This is a stupid, shallow comment. I mean, really. I see the picture you choose to represent yourself to the world and I think, this guy is really kind of unpleasant and his words are shallow. So I check the profile and my first impression is confirmed. First impressions give you some information about the person. It is a part of who he is. Not necessarily all.


    I deleted my profile text.
    Do you really think anyone cares what I put in my profile?



    It's one way of getting first impressions about u icon_smile.gif .....
  • TannerMasseur

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    Aug 07, 2013 4:08 PM GMT
    Destinharbor saidNinja yes. Catheters no.


    Sounding rods is another story icon_smile.gif ....
  • TannerMasseur

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    Aug 07, 2013 5:30 PM GMT
    failscarf said
    Destinharbor saidNinja yes. Catheters no.


    Let's be serious, who really finds catheters attractive?
    A forum and fitness site is not a place I want to find a date on.


    I've met some cool hot guys from RJ icon_smile.gif Came & visited me, literally icon_smile.gif .....We keep in touch & they've revisited icon_smile.gif .....
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    Aug 07, 2013 5:31 PM GMT
    First impressions are everything to me....
  • TannerMasseur

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    Aug 07, 2013 5:33 PM GMT
    BlackCat90 saidFirst impressions are everything to me....


    It's foretelling.....
  • MisterT

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    Aug 07, 2013 5:44 PM GMT
    First impressions certainly play a part, though they are not an end all for me. I may end up being friends with someone I didn't click well with at first.

    I know i don;t always make a great first impression, but people that get to know me usually stick around, and remain friends.
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    Aug 07, 2013 5:49 PM GMT
    MisterT saidFirst impressions certainly play a part, though they are not an end all for me. I may end up being friends with someone I didn't click well with at first.

    I know i don;t always make a great first impression, but people that get to know me usually stick around, and remain friends.


    Always give a leeway. They might be having an off day or they're stressed out, faklempt & flippant.....
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    Aug 07, 2013 5:52 PM GMT
    I feel they vary in importance depending on who you are meeting... however still important in every situation
  • TannerMasseur

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    Aug 07, 2013 6:08 PM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidI guess it all comes down to how you define a "first impression." My idea of one has much to do with tuning into my intuitive side. Once I look someone in the eye for the first time I can almost always tell if we'll hit it off or not. If a person is a bullshitter or a manipulator I can sense that right off the bat and then I move on. The times I didn't follow my instincts I always regretted it later.

    In contrast, people are usually wrong about me first impression-wise. They perceive me as a big guy who 'probably does meth' due to his medical history, gay orientation and overly tattooed appearance. But this was even the case well into my high school years when I was much younger.

    Life is interesting...


    Yes, we're mostly all intuitive & can deduct a lot just by observing people's mannerisms & physiognomy & the way they conduct themselves in public & in private.....
  • TannerMasseur

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    Aug 07, 2013 8:40 PM GMT
    k3l3k0 saidI feel they vary in importance depending on who you are meeting... however still important in every situation


    True.