I am dating a priest!


  • Aug 07, 2013 3:38 PM GMT
    I already know I'm going to get hated on... But I don't know what to do...

    We met online an i didn't know his job, and went on a few dates... And after a little while he told me what he did, an said I we ever had anything serious it would have to be on the download bcuz of him bein a priest...

    I don't know what to do, I'm Christian an I really relieve I love him... But this news is so big and I don't know what to do... Feel like I am going to hell...

    But then I looked it up and the laws just keep bouncing around saying they can marry saying they can't, and I'm just flustered...

    What do I do, end it or do I keep it going... I feel awful, but we have strong feelings for each other... I don't want him to choose his profession over me... I would never want to put anyone through that... Thinking ending it is all I can do... But I love him and want the best...

    As you can see I'm a mess and keep going from side to side about what I am doing, that's why I new your advice...
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    Aug 07, 2013 3:44 PM GMT
    I don't understand why you are feeling so guilty !
    He has chosen his path , not you , he is responsible of his own actions and desires , you are not ..
    I don't see where the big deal is , love him , relax and enjoy your relationship ...
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    Aug 07, 2013 3:46 PM GMT
    Let me ask you this: how do you feel about a relationship that will ALWAYS be on the downlow? In other words, are you okay with not ever introducing him to your friends, family and not being seen in public together? Of course, you can lie about your relationship with him by saying he's just a good friend but then again, you are a Christian and he's a priest.

    Answering these questions and follow your instincts on what you believe is right for you.
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    Aug 07, 2013 3:47 PM GMT
    He's a priest? At 21, I'm surprised you're not too old for him!

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    Aug 07, 2013 3:51 PM GMT
    What's wrong with dating a priest?
    I don't see anything scary or foolishness in it!

    Well, don't depend completely on other person's opinions, that includes me! just decide for yourself whether your life will be happy or not if you chose to be with him.

    And while deciding, Look at the man but not his profession or any other...try to ignore everything else. If you're not sure about anything, ask him directly.
    Honesty always saves the time and also gives you respect.

    All the best!
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    Aug 07, 2013 3:55 PM GMT
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  • Fable

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    Aug 07, 2013 4:00 PM GMT
    YOU DONT LOVE HIM END IT AND MOVE ON
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    Aug 07, 2013 4:00 PM GMT
    There is nothing wrong in dating a priest. I dated one for a while but then we seemed to outgrow each other when I turned seven.

  • Aug 07, 2013 4:01 PM GMT
    Harry7785 saidWhat's wrong with dating a priest?
    I don't see anything scary or foolishness in it!

    Well, don't depend completely on other person's opinions, that includes me! just decide for yourself whether your life will be happy or not if you chose to be with him.

    And while deciding, Look at the man but not his profession or any other...try to ignore everything else. If you're not sure about anything, ask him directly.
    Honesty always saves the time and also gives you respect.

    All the best!



    Thank you I really appreciate your response!
    It just worried me because he is "married to god"... Will I ever be happy, idk...
    I want kids ad a family, but I'm more of a pleaser and will always put my life on hold for the man I love and I think I love him... I have never met someone more passionate or sweet...

    I also don't want to get hurt or cost him his job...
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    Aug 07, 2013 4:08 PM GMT
    Don't listen to the haters.
    Enjoy your love.
    It's not against the law to date a priest so you can't get in trouble. The church is changing quickly and you can be a productive part of it.
    God bless you both!
    I call dibs on writing your story though.

  • Aug 07, 2013 4:12 PM GMT
    JohnSpotter saidDon't listen to the haters.
    Enjoy your love.
    It's not against the law to date a priest so you can't get in trouble. The church is changing quickly and you can be a productive part of it.
    God bless you both!
    I call dibs on writing your story though.



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    Aug 08, 2013 8:03 AM GMT
    Value yourself and what you want to achieve in life, if you stay with him you won't get any of that. What's more important to you? , your search and striving for happiness or satisfying his life choices that (ultimately) don't include you, I mean really he has his life sorted (albeit screwed up) and can and will, just keep stringing along naive young guys one after the other as they discover (i.e. grow up) their own self worth and move on.
  • Fargo

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    Aug 08, 2013 2:52 PM GMT
    Well, if there are no threesomes with altar boys I don't see any problems with this kind of relationship.
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    Aug 08, 2013 3:40 PM GMT


    " I don't want him to choose his profession over me... I would never want to put anyone through that"

    Don't worry, you aren't and you can't. The only person with the power to do that to him is...............


    ...................him.

    Love and love well; if it becomes toxic for YOU end it and tell him why.

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    Aug 08, 2013 6:46 PM GMT
    boomerangOz saidValue yourself and what you want to achieve in life, if you stay with him you won't get any of that. What's more important to you? , your search and striving for happiness or satisfying his life choices that (ultimately) don't include you, I mean really he has his life sorted (albeit screwed up) and can and will, just keep stringing along naive young guys one after the other as they discover (i.e. grow up) their own self worth and move on.

    I disagree, because you won't be "staying with him" for life. You're only 21. Your relationship with him won't last. (If you even have one yet - it seems like you might not even have slept together yet.) If you do have a relationship with him (rather than a yet unsatisfied infatuation), enjoy it while it lasts, and get from him what you can. You will have other relationships in the future.
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    Aug 09, 2013 4:37 PM GMT
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    Oh god, my mom used to be sitting on the sofa, crying, watching The Thornbirds...
    Anyway, a priest? A Catholic priest? He might get defrocked.
    Or is this a priest from another Christian Church?
  • mybud

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    Aug 09, 2013 4:59 PM GMT
    You keep saying you don't want him to give up this and that..What about you bro? Would he do the same for YOU? Start asking him questions, " Where do you envision our relationship in 2 years"? Ask him, " You made a commitment to God when you signed up as a priest...What is your commitment to our relationship?...If he answers these and related questions to your satisfaction, no one should judge ya hence they be judged.If he clams up or bullshits his way through answers..Drop him like a bad habit.
  • Amelorn

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    Aug 09, 2013 9:31 PM GMT
    I can't foresee this ending well.

    The hypocrisy is just one issue. Every time he leads the Mass, he is the face of an incredibly homophobic institution.

    Second, a downlow relationship is fraught with implied shame. Are YOU something to be ashamed about?

    You're 21. Regardless of whether one should be committed or playing the field at your age, I am a firm believer that members of our generation shouldn't be skulking around. We've inherited a much more open world courtesy of those who came before us. We should use it.

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    Aug 09, 2013 10:51 PM GMT
    Next time, choose an Episcopalian priest. No more living on the D.L., you and he could be yourselves. Episcopalians don't 'tolerate' gay people, we embrace, accept, and love them. We not only have Episcopalian priests, but bishops who are gay......plenty of them.

    I know that is shameless plugging, guys.
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    Aug 31, 2013 4:48 PM GMT
    Okay I'm curious. How did this turn out?
  • Sentinel53

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    Sep 01, 2013 3:46 AM GMT
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    Harry7785 saidWhat's wrong with dating a priest?
    I don't see anything scary or foolishness in it!

    Well, don't depend completely on other person's opinions, that includes me! just decide for yourself whether your life will be happy or not if you chose to be with him.

    And while deciding, Look at the man but not his profession or any other...try to ignore everything else. If you're not sure about anything, ask him directly.
    Honesty always saves the time and also gives you respect.

    All the best!



    Thank you I really appreciate your response!
    It just worried me because he is "married to god"... Will I ever be happy, idk...
    I want kids ad a family, but I'm more of a pleaser and will always put my life on hold for the man I love and I think I love him... I have never met someone more passionate or sweet...

    I also don't want to get hurt or cost him his job...


    So your dating someone who is aligned to a group of people who enforces the very challenges your posting in this treat about. Not entirely sure if I would be able to date someone who willingly aligns to a group of people who doesn't enable him/me to seek and appreciate love openly. Its like being a jew in the 1940s and dating... nah, thats probably a unfair comparison.
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    Sep 01, 2013 5:05 AM GMT
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    Sep 04, 2013 1:59 AM GMT
    Knowing the Buffalo Valley (Williamsport & Lewisburg) fairly well I don't know how he can expect to keep the relationship private. Why don't you hook up with a Bucknell dude instead?