Advice from Psychotherapist Matthew J. Dempsey

  • metta

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    Aug 07, 2013 10:38 PM GMT


    http://www.youtube.com/user/matthewjdempsey/videos


    COMPARE & DESPAIR


  • metta

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    Aug 07, 2013 10:38 PM GMT
    Judgement

  • metta

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    Aug 07, 2013 10:39 PM GMT
    Validation

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    Aug 08, 2013 4:57 AM GMT
    The Judgment vid is very astute, albeit somewhat common sense. Wish I had seen videos like these in my 9th grade health class instead of vids on "female reproduction", would have been much more relevant to my life.

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    Dec 13, 2013 4:30 PM GMT
    IzzyMusc saidThe Judgment vid is very astute, albeit somewhat common sense. Wish I had seen videos like these in my 9th grade health class instead of vids on "female reproduction", would have been much more relevant to my life.


    IzzyMusc, you're hilarious! icon_biggrin.gif
  • metta

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    Dec 13, 2013 4:52 PM GMT
    "Shame & Vulnerability"


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    Dec 13, 2013 5:02 PM GMT
    "Sex"

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    Jan 14, 2015 6:36 AM GMT
    RELATIONSHIPS Part 1: Psychology of Attraction





    http://www.huffingtonpost.com/matthew-j-dempsey/the-psychology-of-attraction_b_6452314.html
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    Feb 03, 2015 2:01 AM GMT
    RELATIONSHIPS Part 2: Finding Love


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    Feb 03, 2015 2:03 AM GMT
    RELATIONSHIPS Part 3: Keeping Love


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    Mar 15, 2015 6:52 AM GMT
    The Bond of Gays & Gals


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    May 30, 2015 5:35 AM GMT
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    May 30, 2015 5:41 AM GMT
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    May 30, 2015 4:36 PM GMT
    Wouldn't all these vids be much more meaningful if he at least took his shirt off?
  • metta

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    May 30, 2015 6:07 PM GMT
    bon_pan saidWouldn't all these vids be much more meaningful if he at least took his shirt off?


    I'm sure that your not the only one thinking that. He said that he takes requests....why not ask him? icon_wink.gif




  • metta

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    Jul 05, 2015 4:09 AM GMT
    The Shirtless Selfie

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    Jul 12, 2015 2:00 AM GMT
    How To Become Friends With An Ex

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    Jul 17, 2015 4:44 PM GMT
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    Nov 21, 2015 6:45 PM GMT
    Gay Men & Racial Preference





    Here is the other video that he mentions about racism:

    I'm Gay, White & Racist
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    Dec 02, 2015 5:00 PM GMT
    Gay Men & Slut Shaming



  • Triggerman

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    Dec 04, 2015 6:27 AM GMT
    I love when a handsome, educated, young, white guy tries to tell other people how to live. He is handsome. Can he relate to someone that really is unattractive to almost everyone?

    He is white? Can he speak to Black people from any experience but a college liberal arts class?

    He is gay I guess? Has he lived in the gay world or the world of academia?

    He is well spoken. Can he relate to someone that is blue collar and never went to college?

    The world is full of people selling/telling people how to be.

    Five bucks to a nickel he gets arrested in the near future.
  • Triggerman

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    Dec 04, 2015 6:31 AM GMT
    if he is not arrested for embezzlement or molesting I will be shocked
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    Dec 13, 2015 5:02 AM GMT
    Identifying with anyone who is not like yourself will always be challenging in some way. In the end this video isn't rubbed in your face, people choose to watch and can equally choose to disregard or ignore them

    Overall having watched a number of his videos, I quite like what he had to say and his approach. I did however, feel less enamored about his take on slut shaming.

    Let's be really clear about this, slut-shaming is a made up term which is used to try to demonise anyone who dares to point out the obvious truth, which is that Gay Men are far more promiscuous than non-gay identifying men.

    The term Slut-Shaming to describe people having a view of what is an acceptable focus on sex in their lives. The reality of what he described is completely applicable to those persons campaigning to replace the concept of having personal morals and high self esteem, instead replace it with a lets go with the lowest common denominator.

    The term has deliberately been chosen to envoke an emotional response, reverse shaming. By judging people who tip the balance in favour of an un-healthy over sexually focused lifestyle, we in essence protect ourselves from STI's, degrading our mental health and we can more easily seek partners who have similar ways of thinking to us and therefore deeper connections.

    I like that he touched on the counter argument but disappointed he has been drawn into the intellectually bereft idea that 'Gay Men should counter shame the moralistic majority'.

  • metta

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    Apr 23, 2016 2:46 AM GMT
    Matthew Dempsey and Jimmy Fowlie Talk Gay Men and The Need To Perform







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    Jul 11, 2016 10:39 PM GMT
    What Actually Makes A Man Attractive?


    Take the quiz here:
    https://www.buzzfeed.com/eugeneyang/what-do-you-find-more-attractive-in-a-man