Opposite of Body Dysmorphic Disorder: IS THERE ANY HARM IN HAVING AN INFLATED SELF OPINION?

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    Aug 07, 2013 11:17 PM GMT
    Some guys think of themselves as fat when they look like sculpted works of art. We envy and pity them.

    But it's the too self satisfied, completely delusional guys who are just as fucked-up in the opposite way, IMHO.

    Reading 2 profiles made me think of this. One guy is 58 but his "friends say I look 35", (CLUE: None of your friends think you look 35)

    The other guy is 56 and says he doesn't work out much but has gotten his body fat to 15%, down from 23%. (http://www.builtlean.com/2010/08/03/ideal-body-fat-percentage-chart/). At 56, a body fat of 15% is world class(he's average at best).

    So your opinion please. Are these guys deluding themselves in a harmless way or are they undermining their potential for improvements?
  • HottJoe

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    Aug 07, 2013 11:19 PM GMT
    Yes, of course. People often have a skewed perception of themselves.
  • josephmovie

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    Aug 08, 2013 12:47 AM GMT
    Inflated egos don't tend to age well. It's interesting to see guys that were really hot in their youth still possessing the same ego when physically they are just not even average anymore. There is a guy like that at my work. Always trying to hang out with the hot young guys. They are polite to him but do laugh about him behind his back.
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    Aug 08, 2013 1:58 AM GMT
    Neither extreme will make you an attractive person personality-wise. If I had to pick the lesser of two evils I'd prefer guys who think they're less attractive/less in shape than they really are, because I can't stand cocky in the least. But if it's an extreme case where they're huge and ripped and they constantly go on and on about how fat/skinny they are it's a deal breaker. I don't give a shit what you look like, just have your head on straight.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Aug 08, 2013 2:09 AM GMT
    Depends where you are looking at it form ... if you are looking at it from 22 they are delusional ... if you are looking at it from 65, they are spot on
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    Aug 08, 2013 2:24 AM GMT
    josephmovie saidInflated egos don't tend to age well. It's interesting to see guys that were really hot in their youth still possessing the same ego when physically they are just not even average anymore. There is a guy like that at my work. Always trying to hang out with the hot young guys. They are polite to him but do laugh about him behind his back.


    Uh.....so a guy has an inflated ego if he's trying to hang with the young bucks?

    -intrigued

    " They are polite to him but do laugh about him behind his back."

    Ugh, when I was young I used to avoid guys that did that to older guys.
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    Aug 08, 2013 2:29 AM GMT
    meninlove said
    josephmovie saidInflated egos don't tend to age well. It's interesting to see guys that were really hot in their youth still possessing the same ego when physically they are just not even average anymore. There is a guy like that at my work. Always trying to hang out with the hot young guys. They are polite to him but do laugh about him behind his back.


    " They are polite to him but do laugh about him behind his back."

    Ugh, when I was young I used to avoid guys that did that to older guys.


    Wonder what they're saying about Joseph.. icon_confused.gif
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    Aug 08, 2013 2:48 AM GMT
    "Remember, when we look in the mirror, we see only a reflection. All the world sees us as we really are. Rarely does our self-perception match that of others of ourselves." —Me
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    Aug 08, 2013 3:00 AM GMT
    The harm is always mitigated by endorsing your first check from the reality show crew that's chronicling your adorably disastrous life.

    Maybe when your underpaid bodyguard murders you. Maybe that's the harm.
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    Aug 08, 2013 3:10 AM GMT
    I have an ex buddy who could only picture himself with an extremely good looking guy. On anyone's scale he's a 4 to a 5 in good lighting. Of course, he's alone and probably always will be.

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    Aug 08, 2013 3:13 AM GMT
    BackToTop saidI have an ex buddy who could only picture himself with an extremely good looking guy. On anyone's scale he's a 4 to a 5 in good lighting. Of course, he's alone and probably always will be.



    Is that from an inflated ego or one so damaged and low that he requires an adonis for validation of his own worth?

    -intrigued
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    Aug 08, 2013 3:23 AM GMT
    Is that from an inflated ego or one so damaged and low that he requires an adonis for validation of his own worth?

    Sad story. I think it's a mixture of both, with perhaps the damaged ego causing him to compensate.

    He's could achieve financial success and in most ways was very practical.

    At the same time he had this unrealistic vision of who he could attract. And that made him rule out guys he might stand a chance with.

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    Aug 08, 2013 3:52 AM GMT
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    Reverse dysmorphia's much better. My nephew grew up with the friends of his two older sisters telling him how cute he was so he thinks he's George Clooney. He's not but that confidence scores him a lot of hot girlfriends.
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    Aug 08, 2013 3:58 AM GMT
    BackToTop saidIs that from an inflated ego or one so damaged and low that he requires an adonis for validation of his own worth?

    Sad story. I think it's a mixture of both, with perhaps the damaged ego causing him to compensate.

    He's could achieve financial success and in most ways was very practical.

    At the same time he had this unrealistic vision of who he could attract. And that made him rule out guys he might stand a chance with.



    Ironically, if he pays more attention to what a person is like, and what he himself is like (as opposed to looks)he stands a better chance of ending up with someone who resembles his vision. The way a person's insides animate their outsides can make a plain person extremely handsome, and an extremely handsome appearing person very plain.
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    Aug 08, 2013 4:01 AM GMT
    That's the image above.

    To a limit it's good to see yourself in the mirror with the physical proportions you'd like to have but don't yet.

    I like to visualize myself as more muscular and leaner than I currently am. Yet I also want to maintain a non ego-clouded view of the actual condition of my body.

    If I'm too self satisfied I don't feel the need to hit the gym.

    OTOH if I can visualize myself better yet objectively determine that I'm not there yet, I will push myself harder.
  • FitGwynedd

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    Aug 08, 2013 12:00 PM GMT
    TerraFirma said"Remember, when we look in the mirror, we see only a reflection. All the world sees us as we really are. Rarely does our self-perception match that of others of ourselves." —Me