The 5% difference between winning or losing on Prop 8 may seem like a mountain to some, an insult to others, or to some, abject failure on the part of the "NO" side. I don't think it's any of those things.
It's half a million votes out of more than 10 million cast. It's a loss, to be sure, but it's a pretty fair representation of how America feels about same sex marriage, according to polls. (The same polls that show a healthy majority in favor of gay rights other than marriage and military ... which suggests that some convincing still needs to be done, but we shouldn't be thought as defeated by the various "save traditional marriage" initiatives that passed across the country this year (contrary to S Palin's belief that those wins show true conservatism is alive and well.)
The no side on Prop 8 gathered about 300K more votes than the yes side on California's Prop 22 of 2000 (the earlier "save str8 marriage" initiative) Looked at another way, the Yes side gathered about 770K more votes than last time. The NO side (our side) increased their total by more than 2 million votes. In 2000 the margin of defeat was about 13.5 % - so we have an 8.5% improvement.
These are promising trends, no two ways about it. As always with a loss, the reasons need to be examined, and a new strategy devised. But "blaming" every convenient target from the winning side for betraying us isn't as useful as looking at where we failed to put across our message - or, indeed, where we succeeded, so we can repeat that strategy elsewhere.
Now, as to director Scott Eckern, whether he should have paid with his job is one thing. The drama he faces his lesbian sister ... priceless.