That first date

  • sollasollewmn

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    Aug 08, 2013 12:37 PM GMT
    For you personally, how far is too far on a first date?
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    Aug 10, 2013 10:03 PM GMT
    If I go back to their place or they are desperate for me to go back with them, I find it hard to stay interested the next day.
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    Aug 10, 2013 10:09 PM GMT
    Um....Just had one a week or so ago. We just made out for 10 mins....And that for me is the furthest anyone should go on a first date.
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    Aug 10, 2013 10:11 PM GMT
    Depends on the chemistry. Ive kissed guys on first dates and ive slept with guys on first dates. All depends. Just cause u sleep with them on first date doesnt have to be bad
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    Aug 10, 2013 10:12 PM GMT
    RadRTT saidUm....Just had one a week or so ago. We just made out for 10 mins....And that for me is the furthest anyone should go on a first date.


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  • Just_Tim

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    Aug 21, 2013 5:07 PM GMT
    I recently went all the way with a guy before we even had a first date. It was nice.
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    Aug 21, 2013 5:31 PM GMT
    I'd advise just going slowly and not doing anything on the first date but perhaps a hug good bye and maybe a kiss to show genuine interest if it's there. Spend time the first few dates having fun, getting to know each other, talking, talking, talking…..leave the sex until after you get to know the person, then you'll know if they're really interested in you or just you for sex.
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    Aug 21, 2013 9:21 PM GMT
    You should do what is appropriate for you and your date. Ask yourself that question, then the answer is your moral compass, if you think it should be 3 days or 3 months.....stick to it.

    I pretty much expect sex on the first date. Every once-and-awhile it isn't and that's OK too. I have morals, just not on a time schedule!


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    Aug 21, 2013 9:41 PM GMT
    sollasollewmn saidFor you personally, how far is too far on a first date?
    Marriage
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    Aug 21, 2013 9:47 PM GMT
    Lord_Trollileo said
    paulflexes said
    sollasollewmn saidFor you personally, how far is too far on a first date?
    Marriage
    What's your ring size?
    Extra large. Make it platinum, too, so I can cum into money.

    Oh wait, you are talking about cock ring, right?
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    Aug 22, 2013 2:22 AM GMT
    eb925guy saidI'd advise just going slowly and not doing anything on the first date but perhaps a hug good bye and maybe a kiss to show genuine interest if it's there. Spend time the first few dates having fun, getting to know each other, talking, talking, talking…..leave the sex until after you get to know the person, then you'll know if they're really interested in you or just you for sex.

    Good advice, in many cases. The classic dating model, whether gay or straight.

    BUT... every time I had a date, and I mean a real date, not a trick, we ended up having sex. He wanted it, I wanted it. So why not?

    And almost every one of those dates began an LTR. I tricked all over the place, had a blast, but when I had a date, I was looking at getting serious. And I usually did.

    Not every LTR turned into a partner. Only 2 ever did. But sex was part of the process, how I think it was how he (and I know I) judged the long term suitability of the other. Plus it was just fucking fun (pun intended).

    So I dunno. You don't have to jump a guy on the first date. But if you do, what's the problem? Sex happens, and has its own rules. I'd hate to meet a guy dragging a bunch of rules along with me, what we can or can't do. One of my favorite Army expressions - "go with the flow".
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    Aug 22, 2013 3:41 AM GMT
    BROTIE saidI spend my first dates sitting back to back, then when the date is over I force him to close his eyes as I walk a way and follow it up with a text.

    A smiling emoticon means we can see each other on the next date.

    A frowning emoticon means stay away

    I refuse to talk via text, phone or webcam until after the 2nd date, this creates tension.

    After the second date we have sex for 3 days.


    Huh have you gathered/written down any statistics towards this algorithm? It's quiet intriguing icon_razz.gif
  • LEANDRO_NJ

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    Aug 22, 2013 4:49 AM GMT
    ART_DECO said
    eb925guy saidI'd advise just going slowly and not doing anything on the first date but perhaps a hug good bye and maybe a kiss to show genuine interest if it's there. Spend time the first few dates having fun, getting to know each other, talking, talking, talking…..leave the sex until after you get to know the person, then you'll know if they're really interested in you or just you for sex.

    Good advice, in many cases. The classic dating model, whether gay or straight.

    BUT... every time I had a date, and I mean a real date, not a trick, we ended up having sex. He wanted it, I wanted it. So why not?

    And almost every one of those dates began an LTR. I tricked all over the place, had a blast, but when I had a date, I was looking at getting serious. And I usually did.

    Not every LTR turned into a partner. Only 2 ever did. But sex was part of the process, how I think it was how he (and I know I) judged the long term suitability of the other. Plus it was just fucking fun (pun intended).

    So I dunno. You don't have to jump a guy on the first date. But if you do, what's the problem? Sex happens, and has its own rules. I'd hate to meet a guy dragging a bunch of rules along with me, what we can or can't do. One of my favorite Army expressions - "go with the flow".


    For me is being the other way around! every guy I've had sex with on the first few dates, whether they were hookups or LTR, I usually ended up loosing interest in them; I can't explain why? but for me that has been the case. My current BF and I did not have sex until a little over a month! in that time period before sex we both enjoyed a casual friendship that slowly evolved from a close one to a mutual love interest for each other. To be honest in the beginning I didn't think he was my type at all! It annoyed me that he was way too needy and touchy feeling! although he was the total opposite of my previous BF, who I felt was often distant, cold, and very in-matured for a 46 yr old grown man. My current BF has proved me to be genuinely loving, caring, very affectionate, and sexually responsive to his and my needs; qualities that I love in my ideal man. I take an old fashioned dating ritual any day! love the anticipation and the agonizing seduction that comes along with it!!
  • cavecanem10

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    Aug 22, 2013 7:14 AM GMT
    I agree with the chemistry aspect, but I do think that sleeping over probably is too far. Sleeping with is fair game though! I think it's important to scope it out, put all the cards on the table. Then you'll both know if you're interested or not.
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    Aug 22, 2013 8:14 AM GMT
    sollasollewmn saidFor you personally, how far is too far on a first date?


    Tops tend to want to unload on the first date if their date is hot and they are are feeling it. Bottoms tend to want to push it out in order to insure a second or third date.