In defense of sleeping solo: 60 percent of you prefer your own bed

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    Aug 10, 2013 12:08 PM GMT
    We have this solo sleep discussion in RJ from time to time, mostly approached as a matter of personal preference. Now a study says our sleep is sounder when we're in separate beds, even rooms. Until the next study comes along, I'm sure. (I'm a skeptic about studies in general, many seem written on chalkboards, to be erased and overwritten by the next study that comes along)

    This study says some of us may prefer to GO to sleep together (like me), but once we close our eyes we don't sleep well when in the same bed with someone, according to monitoring with sleep telemetry.

    I dunno, I wake more often when my husband is away, even having insomnia, but sleep without interruption when he's next to me. Yet the study says older people like us suffer more from sleeping together than young people do. Could there be a gay factor involved, since their subjects appear to have been entirely composed of straights?

    http://www.today.com/health/defense-sleeping-solo-60-percent-you-prefer-your-own-bed-6C10885410
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    Aug 10, 2013 12:51 PM GMT
    My ex snored like a son-of-a-bitch! I've slept alone for too long. You get used to it.
  • jayatl56

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    Aug 10, 2013 3:05 PM GMT
    The guy I've started seeing recently loves sleeping up against me. I can't stand it. His body temp is slightly higher than normal and mine is slightly lower than normal so next to him is like being on fire. Plus he sweats! It's a king size bed already! Sleep on your side and I'll sleep on mine and never the twain shall meet - until morning! icon_smile.gif
  • SF2PS

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    Aug 10, 2013 4:11 PM GMT
    My husband and I have a second bedroom. We start out together most nights, but often (one night in three or four) end up in separate bedrooms.

    It is kind of the best of both worlds.
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    Aug 10, 2013 4:14 PM GMT
    I NEED TO HUG SOMETHING, I DONT GIVE TWO SHITS, IF YOU'RE SLEEPING WITH ME EXPECT TO BE HUGGED AND WRAPPED, MY BODY GETS TOO COLD DURING THE NIGHT I NEED HEAT!


    that is all.
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    Aug 10, 2013 4:25 PM GMT
    charlitos saidI NEED TO HUG SOMETHING, I DONT GIVE TWO SHITS, IF YOU'RE SLEEPING WITH ME EXPECT TO BE HUGGED AND WRAPPED, MY BODY GETS TOO COLD DURING THE NIGHT I NEED HEAT!


    that is all.


    Come on over. I can deal with it.
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    Aug 10, 2013 4:26 PM GMT
    ^^
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    Aug 10, 2013 4:27 PM GMT
    We share a kingsize bed and comforter. Husband likes to fall asleep cuddling, once he's hitting the zzzzzs I move over so I can fall asleep without any touching.
    Sometimes he moves to our second bedroom when my snoring wakes him or he wants to read some and I'm already asleep.

    I love waking up together and cuddling for a few minutes before getting up.
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    Aug 10, 2013 4:33 PM GMT
    charlitos saidI NEED TO HUG SOMETHING, I DONT GIVE TWO SHITS, IF YOU'RE SLEEPING WITH ME EXPECT TO BE HUGGED AND WRAPPED, MY BODY GETS TOO COLD DURING THE NIGHT I NEED HEAT!


    that is all.


    I'm okay with this.
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    Aug 10, 2013 4:37 PM GMT
    I knew a gay couple who had a snoring issue, and so they normally slept in 2 separate bedrooms. Yet they could manage a single bed when camping in their fifth-wheeler, which had just one bedroom, taking occasional turns on the sleeper sofa in the living room as needed. Had been together 17 years already when I last heard from them, with no expectation they might not remain partners forever.
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    Aug 10, 2013 4:41 PM GMT
    bhp91126 saidWe share a kingsize bed and comforter. Husband likes to fall asleep cuddling, once he's hitting the zzzzzs I move over so I can fall asleep without any touching.
    Sometimes he moves to our second bedroom when my snoring wakes him or he wants to read some and I'm already asleep.

    I love waking up together and cuddling for a few minutes before getting up.

    That pretty much describes our own sleeping routine (minus the comforter in South Florida, just a thin blanket). I'm the cold one who needs the warm cuddling at times. But not all night.

    We usually fall asleep touching, if not cuddling, and start to touch each other again in the morning as we wake. We typically hold hands and arms for about a half hour before one of us finally gets up to start our day. In all seriousness I really think it helps us to bond better. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Aug 10, 2013 4:43 PM GMT
    Just for perspective...Paul Newman and his wife Joanne Woodward slept in separate bedrooms because of his snoring and horrible farting. (he supposedly drank a case of beer a day...which he counteracted with 500 sit-ups every day.)
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    Aug 10, 2013 11:09 PM GMT
    turbobilly saidJust for perspective...Paul Newman and his wife Joanne Woodward slept in separate bedrooms because of his snoring and horrible farting. (he supposedly drank a case of beer a day...which he counteracted with 500 sit-ups every day.)

    Common knowledge BUT . . . Only a woman would NOT sleep with Paul Newman given the chance! DUH!!!!!!!
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    Aug 10, 2013 11:32 PM GMT
    Well, in the final analysis, I suppose what's best is what works for YOU. And also what works best for ME, which may not be the same thing as for you. I'm always dubious of a "one size fits all" solution in the many aspects of relationships.

    I really do love to sleep alongside my man. I think he likes to sleep alongside me. I also know guys who do it differently.

    So I posted this thread to prompt us to think about this subject, and consider all our options. There is no textbook right or wrong answer, so long as what we choose works best for us.
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    Aug 10, 2013 11:38 PM GMT

    ugh!....icon_sad.gif I feel terrible all of you! icon_evil.gif
  • Benjamin93

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    Aug 10, 2013 11:45 PM GMT
    I have to be spooning someome, hate sleeping alone. If I am sleeping alone I will be spooning my pillows
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    Aug 10, 2013 11:48 PM GMT
    I would be Sooo worried I would move too much.. sweat too much... Just Everything you don't want to happen.. I think would happen to me.

    I'd probably be kicked out and sent back home before the night is over icon_cry.gif
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    Aug 10, 2013 11:49 PM GMT
    Benjamin93 saidI have to be spooning someome, hate sleeping alone. If I am sleeping alone I will be spooning my pillows


    You can spoon the entire night comfortably?
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    Aug 11, 2013 12:06 AM GMT
    I love the idea of falling asleep in someone's arms.

    However... the reality...

    I'm a restless sleeper that needs pretty ideal conditions to sleep well. A hot body next to me would be fun for about 15 minutes, and then I would get overheated or my position would get uncomfortable. I'd wake up wanting a glass of water or needing to pee, suddenly have to wiggle out of his arms to avoid waking him.

    I like cuddling, but when it comes time for sleep, I need my space.
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  • MikemikeMike

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    Aug 11, 2013 12:09 AM GMT
    We both sleep very heavy and seem to get better sleep when we are together. Both snore hahaha. We still have separate homes, so I can do either or cause I sleep like a rock.

    We actually had to sleep together in a twin at a shore house when we were younger. We still both say it was one of the best sleep sessions. Guess it was a long day at the beach good meal, both so tired, and he's not a small guy either. A friend of ours thought this was not possible. The room did have a noisy AC- that helped.
  • madsexy

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    Aug 11, 2013 12:24 AM GMT
    Sex - duo
    Sleep - solo
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    Aug 11, 2013 12:27 AM GMT
    madsexy saidSex - duo
    Sleep - solo


    Sex - duo, trio, or groupo

    Sleep - solo

    Cuddling - duo, and familio

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    Aug 11, 2013 12:32 AM GMT
    I recall having first starting "sleeping" with my man, and he said, "It's not that I don't love ya, but when it's time to sleep I gotta sleep." I was relieved. I feel the same. And thank God for king size beds. My arm usually falls asleep lying under someone, and I sleep on my stomach with my arms around 4 pillows and create a cocoon with the blankets. I know you'll say it doesn't beat a man, but I can twist and turn all night without disturbing anyone.
  • madsexy

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    Aug 11, 2013 12:47 AM GMT
    i2ci2i said
    madsexy saidSex - duo
    Sleep - solo


    Sex - duo, trio, or groupo

    Sleep - solo

    Cuddling - duo, and familio

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    LOL thanks for the ASSist! icon_surprised.gif
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    Aug 11, 2013 12:47 AM GMT
    i can't sleep in one position all night long.

    sometimes its spooning, sometimes touching only hands or head on shoulder, other times hanging off the side of the bed. sometimes its too hot, sometimes its too cold, and sometimes i can't find a comfy position.