Avoiding guys who are "too hot"

  • christastic

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    Aug 12, 2013 1:48 AM GMT
    I was at a club with my friends, and one of them told us to check out this universally super hot guy a few feet away. My other friend asked him "do you wanna talk to him?" The first friend hastily said no, but it was too late, and the other friend was already trying to be wingman and introducing the first friend to the hot guy. Obviously it didn't go far beyond the initial handshake, and the first friend was annoyed at the second friend, saying along the lines of "let me tell you something about leagues..." The second friend was like "well there is a small possibility..." First friend: "it doesn't look good to cast a wide net for every remote possibility... only creepy people do that"

    Everyone agreed with the first friend. It seems like an unspoken rule that I and everyone I know probably follow, except that my friend was the first to verbalize it so bluntly (he's honest to a fault). Anyway, just wondering what people's thoughts are on not approaching people who appear well above your league?
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    Aug 12, 2013 1:51 AM GMT
    The second friend was like "well there is a small possibility..." First friend: "it doesn't look good to cast a wide net... only creepy people do that"

    Ha ha only loosers that think lowley of themselves do that and end up forever alone

    Anyway, just wondering what people's thoughts are on not approaching people who appear well above your league?[/quote]

    There is no such thing as leagues, talk to all and any you may be surprised.
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    Aug 12, 2013 1:52 AM GMT
    At times, I feel put-off from being attractive to exceptionally attractive people but not for the reasons you're thinking. The only reason I like them is because they were hot in the first place, that I liked them on the outside and not the inside.
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    Aug 12, 2013 1:53 AM GMT
    I usually don't talk to guys who are attractive. I'm terribly shy, and not very good at the first hello's.
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    Aug 12, 2013 2:01 AM GMT
    But as long as you're casting a wide net try not to come off as if you are by opening with "'sup."
  • deep388

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    Aug 12, 2013 2:04 AM GMT
    I'm generally too shy to approach any sort of guy, so I just hope and pray by chance that when I do the bend and snap trick, he will look my way hehe: icon_lol.gif


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    Aug 12, 2013 2:09 AM GMT
    christastic said
    Anyway, just wondering what people's thoughts are on not approaching people who appear well above your league?

    When I was dating I was correct to assume that almost every guy I saw was out of my league. That is, I wasn't as attractive as him, and perhaps failed on other levels, as well.

    But what did HE think, what did HE want? Maybe it wasn't a clone of his hunky self. Well, there's only one way to find out...

    I believed I had some strengths, in personality, smarts, conversational skills, experiences, and so forth. My looks were weak, and I was older, I understood those drawbacks. But I'd never know how HE rated me unless I tried. Why disqualify myself? That's HIS job.

    Sure, some guys dissed me. I was no trophy and I knew it, and I could deal with rejection. But I DID appeal to some lovely guys you wouldn't have thought would waste their time with me. Not for me to second-guess their choice, but to simply enjoy it. icon_biggrin.gif

    So I'm a proponent of approaching almost any guy, whatever "league" he's in. And if he looks down his nose at me, well honey, I just saved myself a stuck-up, superficial narcissist who'll be breaking somebody's else's heart before long, not mine. icon_cool.gif
  • HottJoe

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    Aug 12, 2013 2:11 AM GMT
    It's always best ignore people you're attracted to. Being gay is so creepy, after all.icon_rolleyes.gif
  • whytehot

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    Aug 12, 2013 2:14 AM GMT
    boomerangOz saidThere is no such thing as leagues...


    Yes Christatic, now go forth and hit on everyone; if more guys did as you've just been advised, the old antisocial forumers would blend right in.
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    Aug 12, 2013 2:15 AM GMT
    HottJoe saidIt's always best ignore people you're attracted to. Being gay is so creepy, after all.icon_rolleyes.gif


    I ignore somebody for four years and still counting.
    What about you?
  • HottJoe

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    Aug 12, 2013 2:16 AM GMT
    The_Tango said
    HottJoe saidIt's always best ignore people you're attracted to. Being gay is so creepy, after all.icon_rolleyes.gif


    I ignore somebody for four years and still counting.
    What about you?

    No. I don't ignore anyone I like.
  • HottJoe

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    Aug 12, 2013 2:18 AM GMT
    whytehot said
    boomerangOz saidThere is no such thing as leagues...


    Yes Christatic, now go forth and hit on everyone; if more guys did as you've just been advised, the old antisocial forumers would blend right in.

    So you think Christatic shouldn't hit on the guys he likes???

    Give. Me. A. Break, troll.icon_rolleyes.gif

    Next!
  • HndsmKansan

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    Aug 12, 2013 2:20 AM GMT
    I've never ignored anyone.. if I'm interested, I let him know. I hope others would do the same with me. I don't understand this "league" bs at all.

    However there seems to be something to it. I was chatting with an RJ friend on FB and had pointed out a local guy who was interested in me sexually. The comment back was.. he isn't nearly as hot as you, you can certainly do far better.. The guy who's interested in me is actually a very nice guy.. I was like wtf?

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  • whytehot

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    Aug 12, 2013 2:21 AM GMT
    HottJoe saidSo you think Christatic shouldn't hit on the guys he likes???


    platitudes are always so simple
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    Aug 12, 2013 2:24 AM GMT
    Sooner you learn a lot, A LOT, of vgl guys have low self esteem the better;
    also, someone with lodes of it, is ridiculously HOT.

    at the very least pity-fucks are given upon request.
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    Aug 12, 2013 2:26 AM GMT
    There's never any harm in trying, because sometimes giving it a good try can yield good response.
  • HottJoe

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    Aug 12, 2013 2:29 AM GMT
    whytehot said
    HottJoe saidSo you think Christatic shouldn't hit on the guys he likes???


    platitudes are always so simple

    Are you jbrody's sock account, or is it the other way around?
  • Sakura

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    Aug 12, 2013 2:35 AM GMT
    Idk, I think confidence is one of the most attractive qualities in a guy. If you can be charming and confident the success rate will shoot up.
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    Aug 12, 2013 2:36 AM GMT
    Who cares? Jeez, just go talk to the guy.
  • TroyAthlete

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    Aug 12, 2013 2:39 AM GMT
    christastic saidIt seems like an unspoken rule that I and everyone I know probably follow, except that my friend was the first to verbalize it so bluntly (he's honest to a fault). Anyway, just wondering what people's thoughts are on not approaching people who appear well above your league?


    Your friend's honesty -- as opposed to the kumbaya -- is refreshing to me. Until there's a parade of super hot gay dudes dating dudes who are not "in their league" (there isn't), then I'll have to agree with him.
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    Aug 12, 2013 2:39 AM GMT
    I do avoid guys who are too hot. I don't want to make things awkward - it's consideration.

    And furthermore, while living 'Man of La Mancha'-style and dreaming the impossible dream is great, I feel like too many people chase these absurdly hot guys as totems for sexual attraction. In the meanwhile, many nice guys pass up the chance to date other people who might be great matches. icon_idea.gif
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    Aug 12, 2013 2:48 AM GMT
    As long as you are within the same age group, it will not appear to be creepy. A lot of us have some insecurity--even hot guys. I think he will be flattered that you made a move on him.

    If I get hit on, but not interested, I still give the other person credit for trying. The immature ones will probably make you feel bad, so you have to use good judgement before you take that step.

    I know it's easier said than done. At the end of the day, who cares if you get turned down. NEXT!

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    Aug 12, 2013 2:50 AM GMT
    TroyAthlete said
    christastic saidIt seems like an unspoken rule that I and everyone I know probably follow, except that my friend was the first to verbalize it so bluntly (he's honest to a fault). Anyway, just wondering what people's thoughts are on not approaching people who appear well above your league?


    Your friend's honesty -- as opposed to the kumbaya -- is refreshing to me. Until there's a parade of super hot gay dudes dating dudes who are not "in their league" (there isn't), then I'll have to agree with him.


    you've been in WeHo to long.
    --kumbaya
    didn't think you were old enough to use that word--seriously, are you ever going to age?
  • HottJoe

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    Aug 12, 2013 2:53 AM GMT
    TroyAthlete said
    christastic saidIt seems like an unspoken rule that I and everyone I know probably follow, except that my friend was the first to verbalize it so bluntly (he's honest to a fault). Anyway, just wondering what people's thoughts are on not approaching people who appear well above your league?


    Your friend's honesty -- as opposed to the kumbaya -- is refreshing to me. Until there's a parade of super hot gay dudes dating dudes who are not "in their league" (there isn't), then I'll have to agree with him.

    I can't imagine you ignoring someone because of this league business, or being outright rude if someone you're not interested in hits on you.icon_confused.gif
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    Aug 12, 2013 2:53 AM GMT
    HottJoe saidIt's always best ignore people you're attracted to. Being gay is so creepy, after all.icon_rolleyes.gif


    You're handsome and I'd talk to you icon_razz.gif