Just met an awesome guy and I'm moving......

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    Aug 12, 2013 5:47 AM GMT
    WTF?!

    Thought it was just going to be like a hookup since we were going to experiment with ropes... icon_twisted.gif

    Turns out he's the sweetest guy I've met in quite sometime and i move in one week to Rochester from Atlanta!

    Funny thing is I know he's not the right guy for me, but man I've fallen hard for him just to fall even harder when I make my move and settle into a brand new city alone.

    I'm going to need some good advice/friends to help me through the mess I am going to become very soon.
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    Aug 12, 2013 6:59 AM GMT
    How are you 28?

    Anyway, you better have a good safety net if something goes wrong. Can you move back? Can you establish yourself by yourself in a new city?

    You seem aware of the variables and pitfalls. So be aware of what you need if you need it.
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    Aug 12, 2013 7:13 AM GMT
    Well I am 28 according to the conception and birth from my biological parents. Hahah

    I'm moving for work. Relocation and everything is paid for thankfully and cost of living isn't going to change much. If worse comes to worse I can move back.

    As far as establishing myself, well I am quite unsure, but I am aware of circumstances that may or may not occur. I suppose I need a way of moving forward when it gets the hardest.

    What do you guys tend to do? Those who have been in the situation single, new city, and no friends?
  • Destinharbor

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    Aug 12, 2013 3:43 PM GMT
    I've moved around at lot over the years and usually enjoy the challenge of a new place. You'll meet people through your work and new neighbors and new doctors and bartenders and dry cleaners and, well, everything. Dating takes a little longer to figure out but then it isn't much different even when you never move. A new city allows you to reinvent yourself to a degree. Figure out some things that are interesting to do in or around Rochester that you really didn't do in Atlanta but have always been interested in. Now is a good time to reorganize how you spend your free time and try something you've always been interested in. Maybe it is just going to the gym every day for two hours. I'm not quite sure what there is to do there and being a Georgia native, I'm tempted to make a joke, but honestly, I've found everywhere I've lived to be a good place in some way and I've always made good friends. Think if it as an adventure! And as to your new guy, ask him to fly up after you've been there, say, one month. The two of you can explore together. The place and each other.
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    Aug 12, 2013 5:37 PM GMT
    chompsticks saidWell I am 28 according to the conception and birth from my biological parents. Hahah

    I'm moving for work. Relocation and everything is paid for thankfully and cost of living isn't going to change much. If worse comes to worse I can move back.

    As far as establishing myself, well I am quite unsure, but I am aware of circumstances that may or may not occur. I suppose I need a way of moving forward when it gets the hardest.

    What do you guys tend to do? Those who have been in the situation single, new city, and no friends?


    I am sure you will make friends at work, it is often the easiest place to meet people you can get along with since you are all in a similar line of work, which can lead to having similar interests, things to talk about, etc.

    You can also look into Meetup groups that is more focused on doing one type of activity; that way, if you have a particular hobby that you've kept up with for a while, you can meet other people who enjoy that hobby as well through the meetup group.

    Other good occasions/places to make friends via include volunteering/fundraiser events, group fitness classes, local recreational sport groups, and cafes.

    Good luck with the move!
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    Aug 12, 2013 6:28 PM GMT
    We are the most approachable and the most free with our emotions when we know that nothing lasting is possible.
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    Aug 12, 2013 7:55 PM GMT
    chompsticks saidTurns out he's the sweetest guy I've met in quite sometime and i move in one week to Rochester from Atlanta!

    Are you talking Rochester as in upstate NY? Oh, mercy boy…you're in for some winter shock….pack those heavy sweaters! LOL Unless there's another Rochester, like Arizona or Florida you're talking about, you better like winter!
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    Aug 12, 2013 8:00 PM GMT
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    chompsticks saidTurns out he's the sweetest guy I've met in quite sometime and i move in one week to Rochester from Atlanta!

    Are you talking Rochester as in upstate NY? Oh, mercy boy…you're in for some winter shock….pack those heavy sweaters! LOL Unless there's another Rochester, like Arizona or Florida you're talking about, you better like winter!


    There's a Rochester in Minnesota, home to Mayo Clinic. Even worse when it comes to winters.
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    Aug 12, 2013 8:24 PM GMT
    Nivek saidWe are the most approachable and the most free with our emotions when when know that nothing lasting is possible.



    Seems to be true. Been doing things lately I don't normally do.

    Yes I am going to Rochester ny... Yikes! Hopefully my first year in Canada will help me adjust quickly. Haha

    Thanks for the advice. I know I want to try out skiing or snowboarding!

    Anyways, I know the type of person I am and how winters can affect me. I just know I need and should surround myself with good people (if I can find them) thankfully I'm only a train ride to NYC and 3 hours from toronto.
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    Aug 12, 2013 8:27 PM GMT
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    eb925guy said
    chompsticks saidTurns out he's the sweetest guy I've met in quite sometime and i move in one week to Rochester from Atlanta!

    Are you talking Rochester as in upstate NY? Oh, mercy boy…you're in for some winter shock….pack those heavy sweaters! LOL Unless there's another Rochester, like Arizona or Florida you're talking about, you better like winter!


    There's a Rochester in Minnesota, home to Mayo Clinic. Even worse when it comes to winters.

    Oh that's right, forgot about that one! LOL
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    Aug 12, 2013 10:25 PM GMT
    You'll meet people.

    I'm hoping to eventually find a position in Pittsburgh, and I've been there often enough to know that there are plenty of things to do and ways of meeting people. Thinking about starting fresh somewhere is exciting, so try to think about the positives of moving.
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    Aug 12, 2013 11:44 PM GMT
    chompsticks said
    Nivek saidWe are the most approachable and the most free with our emotions when when know that nothing lasting is possible.



    Seems to be true. Been doing things lately I don't normally do.

    Yes I am going to Rochester ny... Yikes! Hopefully my first year in Canada will help me adjust quickly. Haha

    Thanks for the advice. I know I want to try out skiing or snowboarding!

    Anyways, I know the type of person I am and how winters can affect me. I just know I need and should surround myself with good people (if I can find them) thankfully I'm only a train ride to NYC and 3 hours from toronto.


    Hope you arent goingt o work for Bausch & Lomb - they are moving from ROC to NJ!
  • mybud

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    Aug 13, 2013 3:21 AM GMT
    You know he's the wrong guy for ya so you move there anyway...This has train wreck written all over it.
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    Aug 13, 2013 5:33 PM GMT
    mybud saidYou know he's the wrong guy for ya so you move there anyway...This has train wreck written all over it.



    He lives in Atlanta. I'm moving to Rochester for work.

    I'm very much excited and nervous because I don't know what to expect. Hopefully I'll love the city and if not I can always move with the company again next year.

    Curious to know if anyone know what the scene is like in Rochester.

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    Aug 13, 2013 5:43 PM GMT
    Mark my words and I experienced it myself in moving someone up from ATL to NYC.....DO NOT DO IT!!
    Lesson learned but EPIC FAIL on every level.
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    Aug 16, 2013 9:02 PM GMT
    Phillips_73 saidYou'll meet people.

    I'm hoping to eventually find a position in Pittsburgh, and I've been there often enough to know that there are plenty of things to do and ways of meeting people. Thinking about starting fresh somewhere is exciting, so try to think about the positives of moving.

    Pittsburgh? Jesus, have you ever been there? My lord, people don't move to Pittsburgh, they move away from it, and then seek expensive therapy. Are you in some sort of witless protection program?

  • josephmovie

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    Aug 16, 2013 9:13 PM GMT
    I say do it. Even if it doesn't work out, when you are older you can look back and know that there was a time in your life when you laid everything on line for love.
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    Aug 24, 2013 8:15 PM GMT
    Rochester won't be bad when college is in session. RIT is there... smart smart smart guys. Many of whom are cute. I dated one.

    From what I know, there's an active GLBT community in Rochester (New York state is very liberal and a magnet for gay people.) They have a weekend-long pride festival. And, there is at least one gay night club, which my friend said is fun.

    The winters are atrocious, but you're in a nice part of the country that will allow you to be in NYC, Philly, DC, Pittsburgh, and other cities in just a few hours (for driving trips or short flights.)

    Enjoy it!
  • tuffguyndc

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    Aug 24, 2013 8:57 PM GMT
    well there is a saying: the best way to get over someone is to get under or on top of someone else.
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    Aug 24, 2013 9:29 PM GMT
    well done, hope everything goes well. I moved in with my boyfriend only two months after we met. Its been 3 years now and were engaged icon_smile.gif