How do you find a guy when you are not out yet?

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    Aug 12, 2013 5:54 AM GMT
    I can't go to bars since I'm not age appropriate yet. How do you fibd a guy to have a relationship with if you're not out yet?
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    Aug 12, 2013 6:34 AM GMT
    A headless torso pic on Grindr MIGHT work.
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    Aug 12, 2013 6:35 AM GMT
    You Don't.... icon_neutral.gif
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    Aug 12, 2013 6:49 AM GMT
    I'm licensed in finding and bringing closet homosexuals and my rates are relatively cheap. Just give me a descriptions of your desired partner but I heard gingers boyfriends are really popular right. My key weapons are my gaydar which is real in a literally sense seeks them and I bring them in by seductive them in a harmless way Though they deny their sexuality, they partake in gay culture and will listen to lady gaga and generally hang out in gay stores and this is usually their hot spots. Once I come barging in equipped with my cowboy uniform, their eyes look at me and I see fear. They make a run for it like a prey fleeing from a predator would and I chase after them. My gaydar goes after them like a heat-seeking missile and latches onto their back and freezes them. "That was simple." I say. I would bring them back to you but you'll have to pay me. I can do all of this or you can simply come out of the closet yourself and make it easier on everyone.
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    Aug 12, 2013 6:52 AM GMT
    The_Tango saidI'm licensed in finding and bringing closet homosexuals and my rates are relatively cheap. Just give me a descriptions of your desired partner but I heard gingers boyfriends are really popular right. My key weapons are my gaydar which is real in a literally sense seeks them and I bring them in by seductive them in a harmless way Though they deny their sexuality, they partake in gay culture and will listen to lady gaga and generally hang out in gay stores and this is usually their hot spots. Once I come barging in equipped with my cowboy uniform, their eyes look at me and I see fear. They make a run for it like a prey fleeing from a predator would and I chase after them. My gaydar goes after them like a heat-seeking missile and latches onto their back and freezes them. "That was simple." I say. I would bring them back to you but you'll have to pay me. I can do all of this or you can simply come out of the closet yourself and make it easier on everyone.


    The staying closeted part sounds A Lot more interesting... icon_lol.gif
  • AMoonHawk

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    Aug 12, 2013 6:53 AM GMT
    Fate and luck
  • mybud

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    Aug 12, 2013 1:26 PM GMT
    So what's stoppin ya...You can be out in the gay community for now and then come out to your family later.
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    Aug 12, 2013 1:51 PM GMT
    I found it easier to be out and find someone. when you are in the closet you have certain insecurities that don't make up for a good relationship. that's what I learned in my little experiance with relationships. and go out meet new people even if it's not dating. network!
  • Destinharbor

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    Aug 12, 2013 3:55 PM GMT
    mybud saidSo what's stoppin ya...You can be out in the gay community for now and then come out to your family later.

    Ya, this. You're away from home. Create a space for yourself to be gay in. Don't worry about what the folks in Houston know or don't. Just live your life in Austin which is a pretty good gay city. You can come out to family once you're out of school. Don't even think about them. Create the real you.
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    Aug 12, 2013 4:00 PM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidFate and luck

    yup!
    me & my BF are not out, but we met, we love each other. icon_redface.gif there's a good story to tell about us.

    but the thing is, when you're not out, you have to take the first step.
  • SFGeoNinja

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    Aug 12, 2013 4:49 PM GMT
    Come out first! You won't meet anyone worth dating if you're not comfortable in your own skin.

    I mean...if you just wanna hit it and quit, you could try being a Craigslist hooker for awhile. But don't confuse the guys you meet online casually for "dates". They are casually FB's generally, and it sounds like you want something more than that.

    Try coming out in baby steps...one friend at a time until you're more comfortable. If they're really your friends, they probably have already figured it out. Good luck!
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    Aug 12, 2013 5:07 PM GMT
    You don't, not if you want a relationship. In a relationship, not being out can be an elephant in room and could put strain on said relationship. If you get serious about a guy and he is serious about you, he's not going to want to be your secret.
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    Aug 12, 2013 8:58 PM GMT
    Most of them use apps or craigslist.
  • BloodFlame

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    Aug 13, 2013 9:46 PM GMT
    I won't be judgmental as I've been out since I was a teenager.
    Really, the best thing is to just look. If you aren't totally in the closet, why not try going to a gay hangout spot and try to meet a guy there? But then... You might get found out...

    So you could always try the net. There are tons of DL, discreet guys all over... Good luck~