Toronto's gay community

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    Aug 12, 2013 8:48 PM GMT
    So i've come out a year ago and apart from 2 people, i honestly don't have any gay friends.

    Gay cliques seem to be very exclusive and with too much sex in the way to make actual friendships. What do you guys think?

    Am I right? or am I just lacking social skills? icon_razz.gif
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    Aug 12, 2013 8:50 PM GMT
    Straight guys make great friends, hot or not.

    Gay guys make great fuck buddies, if they're hot.
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    Aug 12, 2013 9:06 PM GMT
    I dont have many gay friends either, all my best friends are straight guys. Statistically speaking most of our friends should be straight not gay. When you live in a country like Canada it makes less sense to resource to security within the gay community.
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    Aug 12, 2013 9:52 PM GMT
    Guess you guys are right. It's not like i mind my friends being straight, but i'm just not sure why i can't seem to get along with other gay guys
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    Aug 12, 2013 10:41 PM GMT
    I don't have many gay friends with most being acquaintances. So don't fret whether or not you have any gay friends. Live your life to its best. And you're still young enough for your circle of friends to grow.
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    Aug 12, 2013 10:45 PM GMT
    Gay friends are too high maintenance.
    you can ignore a straight bud for weeks, show up with a six pack and he's your best friend again.
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    Aug 13, 2013 12:07 AM GMT
    I think you're 20 years old and too young to be thinking this way! Everyone in your age bracket or sometime thereafter is still trying to figure out who they are, much like everyone in their twenties, so it's no surprise they crave the security of a clique and the sexual experiences that may come out of it. You're still trying to figure out who you are too. You've only told two people you're gay, and they're already your friends. Put yourself out there a bit and see where it takes you -- the exciting things in life happen outside your comfort zone.

    Have a go with the cliques and the nightclubs and the sex and enjoy your youth (responsibly)! If you can't, take solace in the fact that in 10 years you will have lots of gay friends whether you like it or not, and after having moved to a quiet streetcar suburb (like Riverdale or High Park) you will be swapping stories over dinners (away from the nightclubs of the village) about how your friends (who have been together for years) have finally found a surrogate mother and are about to have a baby.
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    Aug 13, 2013 12:31 AM GMT
    Oh no no, almost all my friends know. What i meant is that i only have 2 gay friends, but i guess you're right.

    Now to enjoy life and wait until I have to look for a surrogate mother myself when i'm older
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    Aug 13, 2013 1:21 AM GMT
    I have a handful of gay friends and plenty of acquaintances. And that's the way I like it. I would love to have more gay friends whom I'm close to but my work schedule has my personal time in a crunch so I'm happy with what I have.