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  • mladri

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    Aug 13, 2013 1:42 AM GMT
    Hi guys icon_smile.gif
    So, I met one guy at my sister`s wedding half a year ago. He is very funny, and very handsome. We drank all night together, and I had that feeling that he is gay, but I was afraid to do the next step, because I am not out yet, and it was my sister`s wedding so I did not want to make some scene.
    4 days ago, I found out that he has a profile on one gay website, and I started to chat with him, but he still does not know who I am. What do you think, should I tell him, and go out wit him? I'm kinda scared because I think that my sister will find out, because he is her friend, and my family is very homophobic icon_question.gif
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    Aug 13, 2013 1:58 AM GMT
    Do you stand to lose a lot if they find out and can you live with it? Answer those questions and you'll have your resolution.
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    Aug 13, 2013 2:49 AM GMT
    Hmmm...Rijeka, Primorsko-Goranska, Croatia??

    Shouldn't you seize happiness where you can?
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    Aug 13, 2013 3:35 AM GMT


    " I found out that he has a profile on one gay website, and I started to chat with him, but he still does not know who I am. What do you think, should I tell him, and go out wit him? I'm kinda scared because I think that my sister will find out, because he is her friend, and my family is very homophobic "

    OK, he is on a gay website. You could make a profile on that site, like you did here, and make friends.
    If he is on a gay site, do you think your sister knows?
    If she knows do you think she has told your family?
    If she knows and did not tell your family, then why would she tell them about you?
    Why would he tell her if he thinks she doesn't like gay people?

    Things to think about. icon_wink.gif
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    Aug 13, 2013 3:37 AM GMT
    Its a hard situation , because sadly, it is a stereotype for gay guys to be loud mouths.... no secrets between a girl and her gay best friend. But at the same time, he should be able to relate or maybe hes in the same situation. you should check on that.
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    Aug 13, 2013 3:43 AM GMT
    I'm guessing he's in the same situation as you. So, if you wanna risk it and really like this guy, I say go for it.
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    Aug 13, 2013 4:44 AM GMT
    It's better to know his true attitude first, before you reveal who you are.
    You can start asking whether he's out or not, how would his family react when they find out, etc.
    Don't reveal yourself hastily, but also don't lie to hide what you don't want to reveal...
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    Aug 13, 2013 4:55 AM GMT
    Wow, don't let him know that you stalked him online. If he does ask, "How did you know that I was gay?" Just say that you had a feeling. It's what I would say.

    Anyways, how do you feel about this person. Do you love him?
  • mladri

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    Aug 13, 2013 9:55 AM GMT
    I know that he is not out yet, and his friends are still trying to find him a girlfriend, sending him on the blind dates.
    Thank you guys for the answers, they helped me a lot icon_smile.gif
  • mladri

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    Aug 16, 2013 9:08 PM GMT
    I told him who am I, and he told me that he had that feeling about me, but that he was afraid to make a first step because we were on my sisters wedding icon_smile.gif
    We will go out tomorrow, cant wait...thank you guys for the advice icon_biggrin.gif