How did it happen for you?

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    Nov 14, 2008 9:37 PM GMT
    Let's hear some success stories. How did you meet your current boyfriend/partner?
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    Nov 14, 2008 11:24 PM GMT
    i fell asleep and had a wonderful dream
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    Nov 14, 2008 11:26 PM GMT
    I had just been through a bad break up with a guy when I went online and was looking at the personals on yahoo. Actually I was doing it to make fun of people on there to make myself feel better! haha


    Anyway, I saw this man and he just captivated me!! My mouth dropped open and I wrote to him never expecting to hear back from him. Well I did.

    We talked for about a month and then met. From the very first meeting we have been head over heels in love with each other. That was 4 years ago.

    Yes we have had our issues and problems and still have things to work through but I can honestly say he is the love of my life and I love him dearly.

    Next month is our 4 year anniversary, out of anyone I have ever been involved with or known he is the most incredible friend, husband and stepfather (i have 3 kids) that i could have ever asked for.

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    Nov 14, 2008 11:43 PM GMT
    We actually met at bar briefly one night. He was trashed so nothing, no number or anything.
    Then he started working at the same place I work.

    We became really good friends. We talked on the phone alot, went to lunch together, etc. . .

    About six months passed and I was getting transfered. So I texted him "Rule number one about dating. Don't date someone you work with. I'm getting transferred in two weeks."

    So, we talked it over about dating each other. We decided to just remain friends. That our friendship was too valuable.

    Another month passed and we met up for dinner one night. I was tired so he said just come over to my place and watch a movie. The movie was on for maybe a minute or two before I leaned over and kissed him.

    We never stopped having sex.
    So friends first. I think it's a great way. Ohyeah, we just got engaged too.
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    Nov 14, 2008 11:52 PM GMT
    I saw him at a gay sports bar, liked what I saw, walked up to him and introduced myself. The drag show was loud so talking was not so easy. I was uncomfortable some of the time trying to find stuff to talk to him about - we didn't really start right into chit-chat mode. He can be quiet and so can I at times. I just stuck with him. Hung out, drank beer, people watched. We played Wii bowling with a couple of his friends then ended up at a dance club where we had a good time. He was a bit prudish about touching while dancing, but I behaved when he told me to back off. I gave him my number at the end of the night and he called me the next day.

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    Nov 14, 2008 11:56 PM GMT
    Gay recreation volleyball league. Thought he was Chinese at first, until I saw his spanish last name. Then the light bulb went off. He was Filipino. We played on the same softball league and became friends, but actually did not start going out until 15 months after first meeting. Our 11th anniversary is fast approaching (January 3rd).
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    Nov 15, 2008 12:24 AM GMT
    Met my guy through an aquaintance of ours celebrating the aquaintance's birthday. The birthday boy went home early and I hung out with the BF and his friends. We've known each other about two years now and together for almost 1 year. He's my Boo-Boo Bear and I love him. icon_cool.gif
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    Nov 15, 2008 12:44 AM GMT


    Y'know how I met Bill? I decided to go out almost every night (hey I lived in downtown Vancouver)for often only 10 minutes. Weird? not really. My rule was that I would have to talk with one person, any person, and then I could go home. In 5 years I spoke with the young ,the old, both genders, the transgendered, the fit, the disabled, the healthy and the ill. By the time I met Bill I not only had a sense of recognition, but somehow knew what to say without stumbling. I also gained a huge love for people in general. I think it showed.
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    Nov 15, 2008 12:49 AM GMT
    meninlove said

    Y'know how I met Bill? I decided to go out almost every night (hey I lived in downtown Vancouver)for often only 10 minutes. Weird? not really. My rule was that I would have to talk with one person, any person, and then I could go home. In 5 years I spoke with the young ,the old, both genders, the transgendered, the fit, the disabled, the healthy and the ill. By the time I met Bill I not only had a sense of recognition, but somehow knew what to say without stumbling. I also gained a huge love for people in general. I think it showed.



    Doug, you are so cool.... and I think you teach a valuable lesson. We're all so busy trying to rush into relationships these days when sometimes there are things we need to focus on before we're ready for that one special person.
  • DCEric

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    Nov 15, 2008 12:59 AM GMT
    He was my first (and thus) only hook up. I was still trying to figure my sexuality out. I guess he help.

    Sure glad too, the whole hook up thing really turns me off now.
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    Nov 15, 2008 1:14 AM GMT
    I'm currently single, but wouldn't be funny if someone said they met their boyfriend on craigslist?
  • ueatzit

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    Nov 15, 2008 1:21 AM GMT
    redbull saidI had just been through a bad break up with a guy when I went online and was looking at the personals on yahoo. Actually I was doing it to make fun of people on there to make myself feel better! haha


    Same here! Well sort of...

    I too met my guy on yahoo personals back when it was free. I was getting out of a screwy relationship, I was stressed out at work, and felt like I needed to take time off from a lot of things to focus on developing myself. When I looked on yahoo I really had no desire to hook up or to shack up. All I really wanted was a friend to hang out with. At that time I was flying to a neighboring city for my birthday so I took a peek at the guys with ads in that city. There was an ad from a sweet sounding guy (no pictures were posted) so I responded basically asking that I thought he sounded like a nice fun guy and that I would like to hang out so he could show me around the place.

    ...two weeks later and a few days before flying to his city I finally get a reply and he gives me his phone number so I could contact him when I get in. When I arrived I called him up and we had a really good conversation and on a whim he invited me over to meet him. When I pulled up at about 9am I was quite surprised, he was a very sexy guy, totally my type! We made all these plans to tour around town and do all sorts of things. Instead we hung out all day, until dinner time really, talking about stuff. When the sun began to set, we realized that we got along so well and were so comfortable in each others company that this was like nothing else we've experienced before.

    We've been together ever since and over these last 8 years we have grown and complemented each other in fun times and difficult times. The sexual spark is still there for us (but the butterflies and honeymoon are over, that is a fact of life). He is my best friend and my sexy manimal.
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    Nov 15, 2008 1:29 AM GMT
    I experienced fission and split in two.
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    Nov 15, 2008 3:36 AM GMT
    styrgan said
    meninlove said

    Y'know how I met Bill? I decided to go out almost every night (hey I lived in downtown Vancouver)for often only 10 minutes. Weird? not really. My rule was that I would have to talk with one person, any person, and then I could go home. In 5 years I spoke with the young ,the old, both genders, the transgendered, the fit, the disabled, the healthy and the ill. By the time I met Bill I not only had a sense of recognition, but somehow knew what to say without stumbling. I also gained a huge love for people in general. I think it showed.



    Doug, you are so cool.... and I think you teach a valuable lesson. We're all so busy trying to rush into relationships these days when sometimes there are things we need to focus on before we're ready for that one special person.


    Well said! A lesson learned on my part...
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    Nov 15, 2008 4:24 AM GMT
    flex89 saidI'm currently single, but wouldn't be funny if someone said they met their boyfriend on craigslist?


    I met my current boyfriend off gay.com 4 years ago. While it isn't as pathetic as craigslist, it is just as seedy. We were both at our respective parents' homes for the holidays. He ran out of paperbacks and I ran out of gin so we went to the next best dulling thing we could think of: gay.com.

    Three weeks later we had a very civil first date with no hanky panky and a month later we were an official item.
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    Nov 15, 2008 4:36 AM GMT
    meninlove said

    Y'know how I met Bill? I decided to go out almost every night (hey I lived in downtown Vancouver)for often only 10 minutes. Weird? not really. My rule was that I would have to talk with one person, any person, and then I could go home. In 5 years I spoke with the young ,the old, both genders, the transgendered, the fit, the disabled, the healthy and the ill. By the time I met Bill I not only had a sense of recognition, but somehow knew what to say without stumbling. I also gained a huge love for people in general. I think it showed.

    That's about the most brilliant and inspirational thing I've read in a while.
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    Nov 15, 2008 4:51 AM GMT
    I met my bf at a wedding. I was with someone else at the time, but he said I impressed him.

    I ended the relationship a year later. A month after that I ran into him at a club in D.C. We talked and hoked up that night. Been inseparable since.

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    Nov 15, 2008 4:54 AM GMT
    he messaged me on myspace a few days before my birthday, on a friday, we went for a dinner date on saturday, then he to my place and he uhm, stayed a while. then on wednesday was my b-day. so we put our anniversary as two days before my b-day which is a few days before halloween icon_smile.gif

    all in all, a very sweet week at the end of october icon_biggrin.gif
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    Nov 15, 2008 5:25 AM GMT
    My right hand introduced me to my left hand and it was love at first sight. icon_lol.gificon_razz.gificon_twisted.gif
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    Nov 18, 2008 6:18 AM GMT
    It was quite strange actually. My bf was out here in LA for business and although he was here for about a month it was his first night out to West Hollywood to the gay bars that we met... at closing.

    I was quite drunk and at the Motherlode. I was with some friends of mine. My bf was outside with his friend from work when a random guy came up to him and said you have got to meet this girl. This girl was my friend who is the biggest gay magnet ever. She has big red hair and she's tall. They call her Big Red.

    Sooo my bf is talking with her, she notices him checking me out, she asks who he is looking at and he tells her. She says that she knows me, calls me over and we meet.

    I invite him to go with us to IHOP and him and his friend joined us. Afterward, he invites me back to his hotel in beverly hills, we hook up and the next day I don't ever imagine seeing him again.

    He calls me a day or so after to ask where some other bars were that I mentioned to him the night we met. I told him.

    The next time he calls me was to ask me out on a date. I can't remember if it was the first call or this call when he told me he really enjoyed hanging out when we first me.

    Well the date went well, it was with his coworkers/friends bowling at Lucky Strike in Hollywood.

    Ever since that night, we hung just about every night from then on.

    I was about to graduate and move back home to SF and he was being transferred to another location.

    We both stayed in LA and we have been together for almost 3 years icon_smile.gif
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    Nov 18, 2008 7:42 PM GMT
    I was in the grip of a seriously whorish period, celebrating my freedom from a previous relationship. I had no intention of being involved with anyone at an emotional level at all.

    An acquaintance of mine was having a pre-funk session/housewarming party at his place one night. The party was boring, so I wandered toward the kitchen to get another drink and two guys caught my attention because they were debating squamous cells. This intrigued me because (a) I have an inner science geek, (b) its not something you typically hear debated on a Friday night in a college town at a house party, (c) it was the first sign of intelligent life in the room, and (d) one of the guys was cute.

    Anyway, we chatted a bit. It was fun. I didn't really think anything of it, though.

    Fast forward a few hours. We'd all moved down the hill to a bar. I was doing my thing, dancing my ass off, drinking myself stupid, and generally being a hot mess, as I was prone to do at the time. At some point, I ran into the cute squamous cell guy again. Since we were blind drunk now, we naturally started madly making out and dancing scandalously, and that continued until the bar shut down. Clearly, I wasn't about to drive home at that point, so we staggered to another party. At this point my memory gets patchy, but suffice it to say we got friendlier.

    Next morning I woke up in a bed that wasn't mine, thought 'oh shit...not again...' and rolled over to see who I was with. It was the cute squamous cell guy, and I relaxed a bit. He woke up, we realized we had been too tired to actually have sex the night before, we remedied that, and he walked me down the hill to my car. We went to my place, I showered, and we properly introduced ourselves over breakfast before I dropped him back off at his place. Two months later we were officially a couple, and somehow, almost a year later, things are peachy keen. For once, I don't feel claustrophobic in a relationship. We're even planning to pack up and move across the country together at some point in the not so distant future, so I suppose things are going well.

    Moral of the story: not all randoms are bad things.
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    Nov 30, 2008 10:30 PM GMT
    That is an awesome story. If someone used the word "squamous" and I wasn't at a medical party, I'd definitely be intrigued.
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    Nov 30, 2008 11:24 PM GMT
    The story of meeting my late partner is more interesting, but here's how I met my current partner, per the thread topic:

    The second day after I arrived in South Florida on an indefinite house hunting visit last year, a friend introduced me to a couple of men at an outdoor gay cafe. It was a passing pleasantry to which I gave only polite attention, although both were supposedly very well known locally.

    About 2 months later I was in Central Florida, still house hunting, killing some time one night visiting gay AOL chat rooms. One guy had a screen name that incorporated a "Fort Lauderdale" abbreviation, and as I was thinking about returning there to continue looking for places, I chatted him.

    He was very pleasant and we instantly hit if off. We met online again the next night, and decided to talk on the phone. That led to the surprising realization that this was one of the same guys I had met in the gay cafe 2 months earlier. Small world!

    When I did go down to Fort Lauderdale a week or so later I phoned him, and he invited me over to his place. I ended up staying the night. In fact, I slept with him for the next 2 weeks.

    By now I had decided to relocate to Fort Lauderdale, having checked out several other Florida cities that weren't nearly gay enough for me. My new BF helped me find a place to rent, while I resumed my search. But I continued to spend more time in his bed than in my own.

    After 5 months of this arrangement he simply told me one day he had fallen in love with me, and he wanted me to live with him. My feelings were the same, so I moved my things over within days.

    Fortunately I was paying rent to a friend of his, and my agreement had been monthly, presenting no problem with moving out suddenly. I just didn't expect it would be with him.

    I'm still interested in finding a house, but now one big enough for both of us. Prices are right, but haven't found the dream house we want yet.

    Funny how I stepped off a plane and ran into my future partner within 24 hours. And BTW, it turns out he IS very prominent socially, and I walked right into a whirlwind of engagements, functions, community involvement, and non-stop activity. I went from stranger to community activist almost overnight. Life can be strange, but almost always good to me.
  • TmanAveen

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    Nov 30, 2008 11:29 PM GMT
    We met in a party...
    One would think that it's not the place to find your spouse, still - it was another gay party in a club on the beach... danced till the sun rise. We are together sins, and it is 8.5 years now, married for more then 5...

    From all the places, in a gay club...
  • blkdevil66

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    Nov 30, 2008 11:44 PM GMT
    We were both Store Managers for Petco animal supplies he had moved to LA from Phoenix. He did not have any friends but when we found out we lived close to each other we started hanging out, That was April 97. By June of that year we were dating. And now 11 yrs later we are preparing to adopt. There was a bunch more fun stuff in the middle there.