Shy Guys

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    Aug 14, 2013 3:50 AM GMT
    What I love about shy men: Shyness comes off as sweet and loving. They bring out my out going side.

    What I hate about shy men: They tend to have serious insecurity issues. Their shyness can be a mask for avoidant personality disorder.

    Do you like shy guys?
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    Aug 14, 2013 4:08 AM GMT
    Avoidant Personality Disorder (APD)is one thing..
    ..On the other hand insecurities can be linked to so many other psychological profiles.

    ..So many people are shy based on a circumstantial lack of familiarity..This is why we constantly hear "Shy At First".

    .. I love shy guys!

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    Aug 14, 2013 4:12 AM GMT
    I used to think it was cute ....... not anymore
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    Aug 14, 2013 4:13 AM GMT
    Nobody has time for shy people.

    What are you, twelve years old and in middle-school?
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    Aug 14, 2013 1:16 PM GMT
    As long as a guy is willing to meet me halfway from the very first date/conversation, I don't care if he is shy. If we go out on a date, I am going to pause several times during the conversation to make sure he gets to be heard. If he fills in those gaps, even with babble, or questions, that's great. It he fills in those gaps with just silence and smiles... uh ohh... One way conversations are not fun.
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    Aug 14, 2013 7:39 PM GMT
    First off, I have to say I like shy guys. I'm not all that excited about the idea of dating an "open book." I guess I like the 'chase' too when it comes to getting to know them. I understand their plight when it comes to making small talk, so I often take the lead when it comes to talking to help them feel less awkward.

    Secondly, people often misconstrue being shy with introversion. I'm an introvert. When I was younger, I was shy... now, no.

    Now, I just blatantly don't want to talk to you about mindless, pointless chatter. The art of small talk has been something I have battled with developing for years, and I think I've made decent headway. Though, at the end of the day, if I don't find you or whatever you are talking about interesting, I probably would not interact with you. It doesn't mean I am rude because I will acknowledge you, but I definitely won't be going out of my way to make you my new BFF which extroverts (at least the ones I know) claim to have in abundance. Introverts don't hand out friendship.

    Thirdly, I don't think shy guys have "serious insecurity issues," let alone a personality disorder.
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    Aug 15, 2013 12:28 AM GMT
    These?

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    Oh, never mind then.

    Yes. But only if they are willing to open up and let me in. Otherwise, two shy guys trying to get along is really awkward.
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    Aug 15, 2013 12:56 AM GMT
    Im too shy for this thread
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    Aug 15, 2013 1:05 AM GMT
    As a somewhat shy guy myself, I like shy guys too. But the type of shy guys I like are the ones who may appear quiet and shy at first but once you get to know them, they tend to open up and show their personality.

    I'm like that. I can be shy and a little quiet but when I get to know someone, I feel safe in letting my guard down and showing my personality (even if it isn't the outgoing party type of person). icon_smile.gif
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    Aug 15, 2013 1:08 AM GMT
    My three closest friends are all on the shy side, which is different from lacking self-confidence. I anticipate that the man of my dreams will be on the shy side as well.
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    Aug 15, 2013 1:17 AM GMT
    Extremely shy icon_sad.gif
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    Aug 15, 2013 1:37 AM GMT
    I'm glad the man who made this threat is not shy and he doesn't have any private pics....
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    Aug 15, 2013 1:58 AM GMT
    I'm on the shy side myself but I work at not letting it be too much of an issue in terms of not being socially handicap.
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    Aug 15, 2013 2:04 AM GMT
    Shy but deadly.

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    Aug 15, 2013 2:08 AM GMT
    Myol saidAs long as a guy is willing to meet me halfway from the very first date/conversation, I don't care if he is shy. If we go out on a date, I am going to pause several times during the conversation to make sure he gets to be heard. If he fills in those gaps, even with babble, or questions, that's great. It he fills in those gaps with just silence and smiles... uh ohh... One way conversations are not fun.


    This...

    I don't mind shy guys, as long as the burden of coming up conversation isn't completely on my shoulders. It's difficult enough to make conversation with someone you don't know... when the other person isn't contributing much, it's so much harder.
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    Aug 15, 2013 2:39 AM GMT
    BIG_N_TALL saidFirst off, I have to say I like shy guys. I'm not all that excited about the idea of dating an "open book." I guess I like the 'chase' too when it comes to getting to know them. I understand their plight when it comes to making small talk, so I often take the lead when it comes to talking to help them feel less awkward.

    Secondly, people often misconstrue being shy with introversion. I'm an introvert. When I was younger, I was shy... now, no.

    Now, I just blatantly don't want to talk to you about mindless, pointless chatter. The art of small talk has been something I have battled with developing for years, and I think I've made decent headway. Though, at the end of the day, if I don't find you or whatever you are talking about interesting, I probably would not interact with you. It doesn't mean I am rude because I will acknowledge you, but I definitely won't be going out of my way to make you my new BFF which extroverts (at least the ones I know) claim to have in abundance. Introverts don't hand out friendship.

    Thirdly, I don't think shy guys have "serious insecurity issues," let alone a personality disorder.


    This guy gets it. I give you my shy guy approval.
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    Aug 15, 2013 2:57 AM GMT
    Wink saidI'm glad the man who made this threat is not shy and he doesn't have any private pics....


    1. I didn't make a threat. icon_razz.gif
    2. I'll put some pics and info up when I'm done with some legal stuff.
    3. OP is in no way a vilification of shy men. Far from it.
    4. Every personality test I've ever taken says I'm an introvert.
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    Aug 15, 2013 5:11 AM GMT
    I also don't like the fact that some guys mistaken shyness for snobbery. I'm an outgoing guy. You can take me anywhere and I'll talk to people I've never met before.

    However, when it comes to hot guys, I just get really shy for some reason. And I've been told I can come across as snobby. If they only knew... icon_cry.gif
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    Aug 15, 2013 5:38 AM GMT
    Im an odd mix of Shy an not shy.. what makes it odd is that I can go from 95% shy to 95% outgoing in a matter of minutes and slight setting change or based on whose around me or how I am feeling.. just so odd.. icon_confused.gif

    And when people happen to see one side of e more thye find it hard to believe I could possibly any other way.. How You gonna tell me about myself! icon_neutral.gif
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    Aug 15, 2013 5:42 AM GMT
    hellass saidI also don't like the fact that some guys mistaken shyness for snobbery. I'm an outgoing guy. You can take me anywhere and I'll talk to people I've never met before.

    However, when it comes to hot guys, I just get really shy for some reason. And I've been told I can come across as snobby. If they only knew... icon_cry.gif


    Me too. Over the years I've learned to take take advantage of that "snobby" part, brighten it up, and now it looks more like I'm outgoing than snobby.
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    Aug 15, 2013 7:35 PM GMT
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    Wink saidI'm glad the man who made this threat is not shy and he doesn't have any private pics....


    1. I didn't make a threat. icon_razz.gif
    2. I'll put some pics and info up when I'm done with some legal stuff.
    3. OP is in no way a vilification of shy men. Far from it.
    4. Every personality test I've ever taken says I'm an introvert.


    good for you but I totally don't agree with you about shy guys and insecurity problems, that's it!
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    Aug 15, 2013 8:48 PM GMT
    Wink said
    GooberGeek said
    Wink saidI'm glad the man who made this threat is not shy and he doesn't have any private pics....


    1. I didn't make a threat. icon_razz.gif
    2. I'll put some pics and info up when I'm done with some legal stuff.
    3. OP is in no way a vilification of shy men. Far from it.
    4. Every personality test I've ever taken says I'm an introvert.


    good for you but I totally don't agree with you about shy guys and insecurity problems, that's it!


    I don't think they all have insecurity issues.

    I'm speaking from experiences.

    I understand people can have the opposite experience and judge from that.

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    Aug 15, 2013 8:49 PM GMT
    ThatGuy78 said
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    Posting this was my only purpose for coming into this thread. And now I have none.
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    Aug 15, 2013 9:31 PM GMT
    Im ridiculously shy!
    But cos im 6"4 tall and smart, i sort of pull my shyness with a different stunt.
    Especially at the gym, i have a straight face, earphones plugged, dont talk if i dont have to.... And cos i have a lazy eye(insecurity)... I never make eye contact.... Ever! lol
    Lots of people definitely think I'm hardcore and arrogant, but im just so shy and a really sweet softy icon_redface.gif

    Dont really know how to deal with this issue of mine lol
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    Nov 09, 2013 2:22 AM GMT
    I've gone on dates recently with shy guys. But they made the effort to talk versus focussing on trying to say the right thing perfectly. It's worked out well so far and one of them has really come out of his shell.