Why It’s OK To Be Upset About Someone You Didn’t "Officially" Date

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    Aug 15, 2013 3:01 AM GMT
    We've all been there! icon_lol.gif

    http://www.buzzfeed.com/syounus/why-its-okay-to-mourn-someone-you-didnt-official-de74
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    Aug 15, 2013 3:08 AM GMT
    This is why I just "enjoy the moment" and don't put any expectations on relationships. And, by "relationships" I mean any interaction with another person.

    Sometimes it's just nice to share real, authentic time and conversation with people and let things go from there.

    The term "date" sounds so formal, contrived, and "goal oriented".
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    Aug 15, 2013 3:22 AM GMT
    Just because you may not be officially bound to someone in a relationship title dosent mean your feelings for someone isnt strong enough to equal the same reactions that an official relationship would
  • PR_GMR

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    Aug 15, 2013 3:40 AM GMT
    Gotta agree with the article. Some of the most significant interactions in my life have been with people who never became 'a boyfriend' or 'girlfriend'.. but who meant something. It's about the interactions and not trying to define something all the time.
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    Aug 15, 2013 5:08 AM GMT
    Shit. That, unfortunately, resonated with me 100%.
  • TroyAthlete

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    Aug 15, 2013 5:31 AM GMT
    Of course it is. If dudes who date dudes waited until things were "official" to have genuine feelings for another dude, we wouldn't feel anything.
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    Aug 15, 2013 6:39 AM GMT
    I'm not upset that it didn't work out. I respected that he didn't want to date me and I was cool with staying friends. I really appreciate what he did for me. He made me feel beautiful, like I was something incredible, and I felt so comfortable with him (I'm usually kind of buttoned up). I went about my business afterward, even went out with someone else the next week.

    I'm upset that 2 weeks later, he called me while driving drunk (way out of character for him) and told me he missed me, but not like he wanted to date me, and he wanted to set me up with his friend, and he asked about this guy I went out with after him, and if we're going to be friends why couldn't I go into detail, and it ended with him telling me everything that was wrong with me...and I'm not sure he believed everything he was saying...I still don't understand why he called in the first place (I know, alcohol)...and except for a couple of texts, I haven't heard from him again...
  • Trauts

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    Aug 15, 2013 11:04 AM GMT
    Wow, this is probably the only buzzfeed list that is annoyingly accurate
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    Aug 15, 2013 11:17 AM GMT
    this whole thing is the results of cowardice and lack of communication. Neva enter into a deal u dnt understand. People should stop supplying chocolate box to every person who enters the store.
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    Aug 15, 2013 2:03 PM GMT
    The thing I hate the most is that when there is blatant chemistry between two people and the other person is too chicken shit to even try dating.
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    Aug 15, 2013 5:53 PM GMT
    Honestly - having just been "let go of" by someone I was "dating, though we didn't REALLY label it much" (though EVERYONE thought we were so cute together - such a nice match... and he always insisted on holding hands everywhere we went(!)) - I honestly didn't understand the "point" of that GIF-drama.

    Was it: People are afraid to express their true feelings?