Online Arranged Marriages in India

  • heyom

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    Aug 17, 2013 7:16 AM GMT
    Hahah, now THIS is marriage material: "son is handsome, fair, teetotaler, non-smoker, 6 feet, doctor, holding a dual citizenship."





    Edit: the second guy "I like wearing colourful clothes. I want a wife to have a colourful personality"
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    Aug 17, 2013 7:49 AM GMT
    Ha! I remember watching this a month ago, it was hilarious and also weird & also hints how much our society is degraded.
    How desperate they are!
    strange demands they propose.

    Few months ago, My dad was offered by someone whom I don't know to marry their daughter and they also offered 0.5million dollars as dowry(Very common in south Asian countries)
    And when my dad asked me (only to know my opinion, not serious), I boldly said, I'm young and I don't want to marry till I reach 32Years (I'm not out to anyone)

    I'm just disgusted with arranged marriages these days, in the past...marriage used to be(at least more often than now) not just the union of 2 people, but 2 families...Now it's just pure business.

    The girl is good? but not rich? No!
    The boy is bad? but super rich? YES!
    Most of the people are blinded by money & social status icon_sad.gif
  • heyom

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    Aug 17, 2013 7:54 AM GMT
    Awww, I am sorry to hear you do not like the arranged marriages. But you are right, most people say its all about salary and such.

    This little video gives a very different view.



    Of course, this is modern times where the couple has the option to meet and say no or yes. In the past, like in most societies in the world, you met each other at the wedding itself.
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    Aug 17, 2013 8:15 AM GMT
    heyom saidAwww, I am sorry to hear you do not like the arranged marriages. But you are right, most people say its all about salary and such.
    This little video gives a very different view.
    Of course, this is modern times where the couple has the option to meet and say no or yes. In the past, like in most societies in the world, you met each other at the wedding itself.

    It's more complicated than that, & sadly this kind of interaction between couples before marriage is more commonly seen in urban ares.
    I've seen many couples who were arrange married & still love each other and stayed together till their death & I have also seen many love marriages who get divorced.
    The success of marriage solely depends on the couple.

    BTW, some claim that, the divorce rate is very low in arranged marriages because, it's considered as a taboo.
    you can see that most of the divorces takes place is in urban areas when compared to rural...there's some strong co-relation.

    Generally the problem arises when people give much importance to money over the bride and groom or wife and husband.
    Personally I can't give my view on that very accurately, at least not yet.
  • heyom

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    Aug 17, 2013 8:16 AM GMT
    somersault saidyeah and they still throw babies off a roof for good luck


    Not as much good luck as your pretty eyes bring you, because they are averting me from throwing you off a roof myself, "baby"
  • heyom

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    Aug 17, 2013 8:17 AM GMT
    Harry7785 said
    heyom saidAwww, I am sorry to hear you do not like the arranged marriages. But you are right, most people say its all about salary and such.
    This little video gives a very different view.
    Of course, this is modern times where the couple has the option to meet and say no or yes. In the past, like in most societies in the world, you met each other at the wedding itself.

    It's more complicated than that, & sadly this kind of interaction between couples before marriage is more commonly seen in urban ares.
    I've seen many couples who were arrange married & still love each other and stayed together till their death & I have also seen many love marriages who get divorced.
    The success of marriage solely depends on the couple.

    BTW, some claim that, the divorce rate is very low in arranged marriages because, it's considered as a taboo.
    you can see that most of the divorces takes place is in urban areas when compared to rural...there's some strong co-relation.

    Generally the problem arises when people give much importance to money over the bride and groom or wife and husband.
    Personally I can't give my view on that very accurately, at least not yet.


    Honestly, it would be extremely interesting to find out if indeed it is the taboos that are influencing these numbers. My grandmother refused to divorce and long persuaded my mother not to, because of that strong taboo. She has changed her mind by now, btw, and most people in my family divorce freely without paying any mind. Their well-being is much more important
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    Aug 17, 2013 10:17 AM GMT
    lol it was funny to watch the "REQUIREMENTS" and "CONDITIONS" for the first time in Youtube icon_smile.gif I never knew they existed!

    It gets funnier as they are conveyed dramatically. lol
    The first guy's nodding head in an indian way to the woman's speech was funnyicon_smile.gif and so is "Pooja chaturvedi icon_smile.gif

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    Aug 17, 2013 12:04 PM GMT
    Just yesterday an article was posted on Slate.com about arranged marriages. The author was born and raised here in the states, but her parents were raised in India. She does a great job describing how the arrangement affected her relationship with her husband. Her parents told her they chose to love instead of falling in love.

    Good read, not too long. http://www.slate.com/articles/life/family/2013/08/arranged_marriage_in_america_my_parents_moved_here_from_india_raised_me.html
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    Aug 17, 2013 3:43 PM GMT
    Okay I admit it, this is totally attention whoring but topic reminds me of the "Write A Scary Story starring the Guy Above You" thread where I actually came up with a quick cheesy one about an arranged Indian marriage. It's not great, but the RJ member it's about liked it:

    "Curiosity Kills"

    Bicuriouscool was unhappy in his two year arranged marriage but Pune, despite being a metropolis, was surprisingly uncosmopolitan even for India, a place where prospective father-in-laws would accost new arrivals at the train station to see whether those men would make suitable husbands for their daughters. He'd have been ostracized had its denizens known about his, er, proclivities. Despite Wahita, a softspoken woman to whom he'd been joined since the age of 18, he was becoming increasingly a slave to his forbidden desires but fancied himself discreet and capable of hiding his homosexuality. That ended, of course, with a cat.

    Bicurious would regularly get off on RealJock, an online community for gay jocks and their admirers. It began with a meme here, a photo comment there, and before he knew it he was posting to the forums daily. Influenced by one too many lolcats he brought a real one home to Wahita, hoping to fill her childless void, christening it with the unfortunate name of Mister Mistoffelees, at which point Wahita had a Missus Epiphany. She decapitated the cat, removed the bindi from the center of her forehead and applied one in cat's blood to her cheek like a beauty spot, ran out into the street, twirled the carcass about by the tail like a purse and sashayed her hips, alternately lisping "Hijra! My husband's a bloody poofter!" and singing the line "Oh! Well I never! Was there ever a cat so clever as magical Mr. Mistoffelees!" from "Cats."

    He wasn't sure what was worse, being outed so shamefully by his love for musical theatre, being the cause of his wife to go starkers, or witnessing the murder of his beloved Mister Mistoffelees, but of one thing he was certain. Curious as to whether he'd be jinxing his cat by doing so, against his better judgment he'd posted in a RealJock thread of scary stories which seemed unusually rife with cat references.

    Wahita wasn't to blame - Bicuriosity killed the cat.

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    Aug 22, 2013 6:31 AM GMT
    I am no Male chauvinist but this guy's style of response video is hilarious!

    Watch this response