Straight men looking to build muscle? What's the point?

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    Aug 17, 2013 9:26 PM GMT
    I really don't understand why so many straight men want to be as buff and ripped as possible. I was talking to my straight coworker who is already in shape and he said that he wants to get even bigger. Some straight guys who aren't even professional bodybuilders do research on how to build muscle and dedicate their entire lives to it. I just don't see the point of it unless you want to go into the sport of bodybuilding which most of them don't. It's obviously not to impress girls since most girls dont like an overly muscular guy. They aren't doing it for health reasons because most of them eat like shit and they don't even bother with cardio. It's not because they enjoy it because most of them don't even want to go most of the time. Is it purely because of self-esteem issues?
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    Aug 17, 2013 9:37 PM GMT
    Fitness is a personal goal for most guys, as it should be, you shouldn't do all that work just to impress other people. You should do it for yourself.
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    Aug 17, 2013 9:47 PM GMT
    If not for any other reason, people make a fuss over bodybuilders all over.

    (I'm recalling one of my past jobs where one of my friends there also went to the gym. He had big arms but was kind of chubby. One of the women said to me in front of him, "You go to the gym too, John. Why don't *you* look like *him?*
    I was so pissed off that I couldn't say, "If I had all that fat hanging off of me I'd kill myself" because he was my friend.
    I never figured out what a good response would have been to that rude comment. Can you imagine a guy saying something like that to a woman?)
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    Aug 17, 2013 9:49 PM GMT
    somersault saidyep, same reason gay people do it icon_lol.gif


    Well given my track record. I have to get those squats and lunges in to keep the ol' underparts tight.

    I'd hate to accidentally fart myself into orbit.. icon_sad.gif
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    Aug 17, 2013 9:52 PM GMT
    I can't tell if this thread is serious. All of my female friends love muscular guys. Most guys who go to the gym won't look like Jay Cutler, whose body type is what a lot of females consider "too muscular". But, anything less than that is fair game.

    Do gay people only work out to look better? Of course that is a factor, but I personally knew having greater physical strength would help me as a nurse, and in general. Being able to lift a sofa without struggling helped my ego and had practical benefits, for example.

    Not to mention it makes you feel better all around.
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    Aug 17, 2013 10:41 PM GMT
    I don't think I have ever met a guy - straight or gay or in-between - who doesn't wish they were more muscular, or at least in better shape.

    It's a fairly natural human desire.
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    Aug 17, 2013 10:50 PM GMT
    Girls hit on me all the time. So yes, girls love muscles and straight guys love to look strong for their girls.
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    Aug 17, 2013 11:29 PM GMT
    Remind him about the whole "Straight Fit is the Gay Fat" thing to help put it all into proportion and perspective.
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    Aug 18, 2013 1:24 AM GMT
    Most of the women I talk to are into fit guys like Cristiano Ronaldo. When I show them the types of guys that I'm into (big guys) they are grossed out. I guess some girls that are into that though.
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    Aug 18, 2013 1:43 AM GMT
    blkapollo saidFitness is a personal goal for most guys, as it should be, you shouldn't do all that work just to impress other people. You should do it for yourself.


    Fitness =/= Bodybuilding

    I also think that the strength necessary to almost anything (including lifting a sofa) is frankly not very much. If it's so heavy that I can't lift it, Bob Bodybuilder probably shouldn't try to lift it himself anyways.
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    Aug 18, 2013 1:48 AM GMT
    CFL_Oakland said
    blkapollo saidFitness is a personal goal for most guys, as it should be, you shouldn't do all that work just to impress other people. You should do it for yourself.


    I also think that the strength necessary to almost anything (including lifting a sofa) is frankly not very much. If it's so heavy that I can't lift it, Bob Bodybuilder probably shouldn't try to lift it himself anyways.


    No, it isn't, but when you have never been very athletic and reach the point where you feel like you can call yourself 'strong', then it is a great milestone in your journey.
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    Aug 18, 2013 1:50 AM GMT
    I read a really interesting book called "The Adonis Complex"

    It was really interesting to read about people who had bodies that I dreamed of having, but still felt small and insignificant. Got me thinking about how appearance isn't all that matters and how unrealistic it is to compare yourself to other people. Especially in a time where so much marketing pushes the "inadequate" button. Or maybe we push the inadequate button on ourselves.


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    Aug 18, 2013 3:25 AM GMT
    Lots of people find competitive bodybuilders too gross to sleep with but they seem to be fascinated enough to want to approach them. So maybe straight guys do it for the reason most people do - for attention and validation.

    I don't hang out around or observe a lot of muscular guys outside the gym but they garner more than their share of attention. There's a bodybuilder who's like catnip at my local dog run. Butterfaced, middle-aged, smoking a cigarette and walking with his small unremarkable dog but always in a skin-tight tank top revealing a suspiciously jacked, bulging, veiny thin-skinned body. My show dogs ran up to greet his dog once with me in pursuit (as always) and we spoke for a few minutes. He mentioned that sometimes his girlfriend walked the dog for him, but he was nothing special in the personality department. Yet it's comical seeing how many people - old women, couples, other guys, etc. - obviously fall over themselves to "casually" make a beeline for him and fuss over his dog. Just standing there in his underarour tank in the middle of the busy or empty field, he's like the Pied Piper - he doesn't approach people, they approach him.
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    Aug 18, 2013 3:37 AM GMT
    Girls like a man who can beat them to inch of life, why else would there be so much misogyny and domestic abuse around the world?
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    Aug 18, 2013 3:55 AM GMT
    SkittleGangsta saidGirls like a man who can beat them to inch of life, why else would there be so much misogyny and domestic abuse around the world?


    Alternatively, they like guys who could beat other men to a pulp for disrespecting her.
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    Aug 18, 2013 3:57 AM GMT
    Read what you posted and I sense a lil jealously.
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    Aug 18, 2013 4:03 AM GMT
    because chicks think that's hot that's why. Also it boosts your self esteem
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    Aug 18, 2013 4:04 AM GMT
    I don't understand what so hard to understand. Many, many guys want to look as strong as they can. Chicks like muscles and although I am not the most muscular guy in the world, girls flirt with me because they think I have a nice body. Guys like to get laid, gay or straight. This is not hard.
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    Aug 18, 2013 4:05 AM GMT
    It could be anything. Self-esteem issues, past body issues, society telling them to look more muscular in order to become more desirable, or their own desire to push themselves.

    Regardless of the reason, there is always a point. It may vary by person, but there is always a reason. It may not make sense to us though.
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    Aug 18, 2013 4:09 AM GMT
    Dude, are you even for real? That whole blab blab is just rife with foolishness. Um, like the modern age of bodybuilding is all credited to Joe Weider. He's kinda of a straight guy, and had a lot of gorgeous pussy. Dude, get a life
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    Aug 18, 2013 4:10 AM GMT
    Myol saidI don't understand what so hard to understand. Many, many guys want to look as strong as they can. Chicks like muscles and although I am not the most muscular guy in the world, girls flirt with me because they think I have a nice body. Guys like to get laid, gay or straight. This is not hard.

    My point was that I feel like girls and gay guys have different tastes in men. Most gay guys seem to like guys with a more muscular build, whereas girls seem to like guys with a more athletic build. Maybe I'm wrong about that, but that's what it seems like to me.
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    Aug 18, 2013 4:10 AM GMT
    aserialkillerskiller said
    Myol saidI don't understand what so hard to understand. Many, many guys want to look as strong as they can. Chicks like muscles and although I am not the most muscular guy in the world, girls flirt with me because they think I have a nice body. Guys like to get laid, gay or straight. This is not hard.


    i've heard otherwise from many females. most females don't like that shit at all. they say it's gross.

    Exactly
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    Aug 18, 2013 4:11 AM GMT
    The idea that bodybuilding is only "practical" for homos is simply me screaming at the top of my lunges "you are a puss filled sore" Its preposterous.
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    Aug 18, 2013 4:12 AM GMT
    aserialkillerskiller said
    Myol saidI don't understand what so hard to understand. Many, many guys want to look as strong as they can. Chicks like muscles and although I am not the most muscular guy in the world, girls flirt with me because they think I have a nice body. Guys like to get laid, gay or straight. This is not hard.


    i've heard otherwise from many females. most females don't like that shit at all. they say it's gross.


    I think girls are telling you that they don't like ├╝ber muscular guys, they're not saying they want no muscles at all.
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    Aug 18, 2013 4:13 AM GMT
    Mirror Mirror on the wall...how many sr8 guys like to flex and show it off most of all......

    I can say just as many as possible. If you got it flaunt it......

    Look how it's taken over MtV and reality TV.....

    Jersey Shore.......

    Now we need more gay flicks!