Asexual and Gay?

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    Aug 18, 2013 7:32 AM GMT
    Hey guys
    I know I'm gay but I'm not that crazy about sex. I haven't had in four months and I don't miss it all. Is it possible to be both asexual and gay? or maybe it's just a phase?
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    Aug 18, 2013 7:50 AM GMT
    Asexuality means you have NO carnal urges whatsoever. You may have had a dry spell and you might not miss it, but assume a scenario where you had to have sex, with someone you find attractive, you'd probably enjoy it. That isn't asexuality, it's simply not prioritising sex.
    So no, you can't be certified asexual and gay as well.
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    Aug 18, 2013 9:58 AM GMT
    Araneidude saidAsexuality means you have NO carnal urges whatsoever. You may have had a dry spell and you might not miss it, but assume a scenario where you had to have sex, with someone you find attractive, you'd probably enjoy it. That isn't asexuality, it's simply not prioritising sex.
    So no, you can't be certified asexual and gay as well.


    +1

    You are not Asexual.
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    Aug 18, 2013 10:04 AM GMT
    Something tells me YOU are not Asexual..
    Your profile clearly indicates oozing sexuality and a clear sexual role.
    .. I think you are still under going changes as a young adult.. Sometimes you'll feel hot..and other times you'll feel cold..
    All apart of the process of sexual maturity. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Aug 18, 2013 4:01 PM GMT
    What do you define as sex? If it just involves the ass, then you have a very narrow definition of sex.
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    Aug 18, 2013 4:35 PM GMT
    do you masturbate ... that actually counts as sex
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    Aug 18, 2013 4:37 PM GMT
    Can a eunich - a castrated person with no sexual urges - be gay? Can a straight person with no sexual urges be straight? If either, so can you.
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    Aug 18, 2013 4:51 PM GMT
    Don't worry, Some have less libido and others have very high libido.
    The former can live much peaceful life more easily, because, they can focus on other necessary things much easier with much concentration.
    You probably are the former one. Just make use of it & enjoy the benefits you have. ;)
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    Aug 18, 2013 4:52 PM GMT
    Sometimes I think I'm asexual and gay too. Having a relationship with a man is very important to me. Sex is fun but not as important. Gay is a state of mind and sex is an act.
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    Aug 18, 2013 6:16 PM GMT
    I've noted before and will again as I see the topic arise that I've a cousin in a loving, asexual "we're-not-lesbians" partnership for probably more than 30 years now. I don't know for sure but my sense is that one is lesbian and the other is str8. When they visit I give them not just separate beds but separate rooms yet they are inseparable. We would never consider inviting one without the other. They are a female, married (though not officially) couple. No doubt about it.

    It is entirely obvious that neither would ever leave the other for anyone else. It's beautiful that they have this yet a frustration that they don't let us celebrate their successful relationship. Society is so fucked up and they sadly let that affect them. Their dishonesty to others about how they present their relationship is my frustration as I an unable to allow myself to be closer to those who refuse to be real. But I love knowing them and I wish them every happiness.

    Yes, you can be asexual and gay. And partnered. And happy.
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    Aug 18, 2013 6:24 PM GMT
    Harry7785 saidDon't worry, Some have less libido and others have very high libido.
    The former can live much peaceful life more easily, because, they can focus on other necessary things much easier with much concentration.
    You probably are the former one. Just make use of it & enjoy the benefits you have. ;)

    VERY off topic, but I beg to differ! Libido doesnt necessarily have to come either-or with concentration. I have a fairly strong libido, yet, I manage to maintain my annual percentage in college at 85-88%, I head two research projects at the age of 19, and volunteer under at least 5-6 others in a year, not to mention a moderately active social life, gymming for 6 days a week, occasional tv and sports. I even manage to read a book or two each week.
    I repeat, Libido and concentration CAN coexist. And quite frankly, I'm of the opinion that, the notion suggesting that the two cannot co-exist, parallels claims that homosexuality is unholy and unnatural- both in its absurdity and its stemming from adamant ignorance.
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    Aug 19, 2013 2:49 AM GMT
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    Harry7785 saidDon't worry, Some have less libido and others have very high libido.
    The former can live much peaceful life more easily, because, they can focus on other necessary things much easier with much concentration.
    You probably are the former one. Just make use of it & enjoy the benefits you have. ;)

    VERY off topic, but I beg to differ! Libido doesnt necessarily have to come either-or with concentration. I have a fairly strong libido, yet, I manage to maintain my annual percentage in college at 85-88%, I head two research projects at the age of 19, and volunteer under at least 5-6 others in a year, not to mention a moderately active social life, gymming for 6 days a week, occasional tv and sports. I even manage to read a book or two each week.
    I repeat, Libido and concentration CAN coexist. And quite frankly, I'm of the opinion that, the notion suggesting that the two cannot co-exist, parallels claims that homosexuality is unholy and unnatural- both in its absurdity and its stemming from adamant ignorance.

    Well...I said 'more easily' in trivial expression as I don't want to go towards scientific explanation, but I didn't mean that people with high libido cannot concentrate!
    If you like to, we can discuss about it profoundly.
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    Aug 19, 2013 3:08 AM GMT
    Asexuality is complicated, as some asexuals can be completely uninterested in sex, but still want romance or emotional connection. Homoromantic is the term for non-sexual attraction. To the OP, you probably aren't asexual, but more someone that can take it or leave it when it comes to sex. Lots of folks can really put it out of their mind and not even have intense urges.