Funeral etiquette

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    Nov 16, 2008 2:06 PM GMT
    Yesterday I saw a funeral procession driving through the streets. The lights turned red while they were still driving through the intersection. I was appalled as to what I saw next. Other cars were tring to drive through them to get across the intersection. I wanted to run in the middle and start directing cars to stop and let ALL the cars that were part of the ceremony through. That is so rude...there were even horn honking. Are people not aware of how they are suppose to act when their is a funeral driving through the streets? Is there a set rule not to drive through or is it just based on the other drivers if you let them by?
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    Nov 16, 2008 3:51 PM GMT


    Hey gymguy1,

    This seems to be happening with ambulance etiquette as well. Holy Toledo. (hmmmm, don't know why I keep saying that, there doesn't seem to be too much holy about Toledo these days)

    -Doug of meninlove

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    Nov 16, 2008 3:58 PM GMT
    If they are going to have such a long procession, they need to have to coordinated by the police.
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    Nov 16, 2008 5:04 PM GMT
    Most processions include police escort in certain cities (depending on population versus personnel). I believe most are aware of funeral etiquette, but we all know people that hate funerals and refuse to attend. As such, there are probably plenty of people unaware of funeral etiquette. It's not in the DMV handbook in CA, at least since I got my license, but perhaps it should be in drivers' handbooks. icon_idea.gif
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    Nov 16, 2008 5:05 PM GMT
    My father passed away a few weeks ago and we had the same issue. People where trying to weave in between the cars and get ahead. There is simply no resepct anymore for anything..
  • cowboyathlete

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    Nov 16, 2008 5:08 PM GMT
    It is not simly a matter of respect, it is also flat out against the law in many places to cut in on a procession. At least in my home state of Indiana, I have heard several stories from funeral home directors of the police escort pulling over such idiots to give them a ticket.icon_exclaim.gif
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    Nov 16, 2008 5:19 PM GMT
    Nothing surprises me in traffic anymore. I'm serious. I've seen so many acts of stupidity, disrespect, and dangerous recklessness that it would take up too much bandwidth to list it all.
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    Nov 16, 2008 5:26 PM GMT
    It speaks to the character of the person doing that sort of thing. I think it shows a lack of respect for one's self. It's a shame. I hope those in the procession weren't too upset over it.
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    Nov 16, 2008 6:29 PM GMT
    I have seen maybe three funeral processions in my life and all three where when I lived on a street that had a dozen churches and the largest graveyard in the area. Since I moved three blocks West I have yet to see another.

    So, not knowing how the damn thing works is somewhat understandable. But, a little common sense would tell a driver not to drive through a procession. The dead have a mighty appetite for vengeance.
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    Nov 16, 2008 6:50 PM GMT
    MunchingZombie saidI have seen maybe three funeral processions in my life and all three where when I lived on a street that had a dozen churches and the largest graveyard in the area. Since I moved three blocks West I have yet to see another.

    So, not knowing how the damn thing works is somewhat understandable. But, a little common sense would tell a driver not to drive through a procession. The dead have a mighty appetite for vengeance.


    This guy would know, he IS a zombie you know
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    Nov 16, 2008 7:31 PM GMT
    Global_Citizen saidNothing surprises me in traffic anymore. I'm serious. I've seen so many acts of stupidity, disrespect, and dangerous recklessness that it would take up too much bandwidth to list it all.


    Yeah....even my older brother, who is a sweet guy.......turns into a fucking raving lunatic when he drives. I won't be in the car with him anymore.

    I'm a very asertive, but safe driver. And when other drivers do stupid things, or when they are assholes and impatient, I take the opportunity to be completely the opposite and remain calm.....it's an exercise in "anger management".

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    Nov 16, 2008 8:50 PM GMT
    Having had a great number of older clients and relatives/friends of our family, I have been to more than 40 funerals (actually lost count). Most funerals do not involve a procession but for those that do, the mortuary should give each car a sticker for the front window saying *Funeral* and each car should have headlights on. The cars should all stay close to the car in front of them - and if there are a lot of cars - say more than 20 or so, police should lead the procession - even driving ahead to stop traffic at upcoming intersections. Most people know they shouldn't get mixed up in a procession (if they aren't part of it) and the thing to do is treat it like a train - just give it a minute or two and it'll be out of your way. (I don't mean to come off like Miss Manners or something - but ya gotta admit, I've been to a whole bunch of funerals!)
  • Puppy80

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    Dec 27, 2008 10:19 PM GMT
    About a month ago I saw a funeral procession comming through an intersection, when they where most of the way through the light turned red and I was polite and let them go on sitting at the green with some ass behind me honking his horn. I was respectful, but then they got to another light further down the street and stopped at a red light, and they kinda where disrespectful of others by splitting from one line to blocking both lanes of traffic
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    Dec 27, 2008 11:57 PM GMT
    Funerals in larger towns & cities either have official police escort through intersections, or utilize private escort services (often motorcycles if the weather permits) that are deputized to legally control traffic. Private cars in the funeral motorcade are advised to turn on their headlights, and may have window, antenna or magnetic flags to identify them. To "crash" a funeral procession is the height of trashy behavior.

    As for emergency vehicles, the latest tech is radio-controlled traffic signals, that force a green signal for the approaching fire truck or ambulance. An earlier method relied on flashing the headlights to override the traffic signals, but "civilians" learned that trick and abused it.
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    Dec 28, 2008 12:12 AM GMT
    Here in North Carolina it is a State law you have to stop for Funeral Procssion.
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    Dec 28, 2008 12:26 AM GMT
    My grandmother died in 2005 and some ass was weaving inbetween the procession to get ahead and I swear I almost jumped out of the car and pulled him out of his to beat his ass....how rude!!!! so disrespectful... I usually dont pull over like some people used to do, but I would NEVER intentionally get in the middle of one.
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    Dec 28, 2008 12:26 AM GMT
    My grandmother died in 2005 and some ass was weaving inbetween the procession to get ahead and I swear I almost jumped out of the car and pulled him out of his to beat his ass....how rude!!!! so disrespectful... I usually dont pull over like some people used to do, but I would NEVER intentionally get in the middle of one.
  • GQjock

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    Dec 28, 2008 11:11 AM GMT
    If they don't have a Police or Security escort
    from the Funeral Home
    and when the procession is large it's hard to tell where the procession ends
  • leatherman05

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    Dec 28, 2008 11:52 AM GMT
    dont be so self rightous. how do u tell that it is a procession and not just ordinary traffic backed up behind one?
    and a procession of cars is not a state occassion of some sort - it is just a lot of people using cars to get to a cemetary. they are not participating in a ceremony but are en route to a ceremony. not the same thing.
    and u dont know what urgent matter concerning the living may motivate those who "crash" the funeral.
    the funeral is about the corpse and not about the living in the following cars who mostly are luxurating in the relief that they are not leading the "procession" while looking suitably mournful.
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    Dec 28, 2008 1:01 PM GMT
    Here in Fairfield, Iowa, the cars in a funeral procession all have little flags on magnetic bases on the hood. And, larger funeral processions have police escorts at the front and back. It's always very obvious which cars are part of the funeral.
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    Dec 28, 2008 1:58 PM GMT
    when i was 17, i wore a red knit body stocking and a black sombrero to a funeral. it's one the few decisions in my life that makes my skin crawl with shame. at least the hat was black.
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    Dec 28, 2008 2:21 PM GMT
    Outing the dead is prob not good funeral etiquette either.

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    Dec 28, 2008 3:14 PM GMT
    It's a law in Arizona,too. You can't cut into a funeral procession unless they are blocking your way into either a Starbucks, a Walgreens, or a gun store...in which case you are free to blare your horn, cut in and/or run people over..

    I think there's legislation proposed to add Nico's Tacos to that list, but I'm not sure...

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    I mean seriously...GET THE FUCK OUT OF THE WAY, DEAD GUY! I NEEDS ME SOME TACOS!!
  • MSUBioNerd

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    Dec 28, 2008 3:22 PM GMT
    I know it's a part of etiquette to allow a procession through, but when the procession is really long it gets irritating. A couple of months ago I got stuck at a major intersection with a procession going perpendicular to the street I was on, and as I was the first car at the light I let them pass. I sat essentially parked through 4 cycles of the traffic light before they were all through. About a third of the cars weren't using any visible flags or stickers, nor did they have their headlights on, and there was no police escort. The only way I could tell it was a procession was looking further down the line and seeing other cars with their flags, and that none of them even slowed down when their light turned red.

    Eventually respect being a two way street needs to kick in. When a funeral procession reaches a certain length, a police escort really is necessary, and the fact that it is transportation to the cemetery rather than an integral part of the ceremony means that it should be possible to move perpendicular to the line. I think a good compromise would be that if the length of the funeral procession is greater than the distance between two consecutive traffic lights on the major street(s) of the route, the procession should be broken into two smaller processions spaced a couple of minutes apart.
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    Dec 28, 2008 3:34 PM GMT
    you really are a nerd, huh?

    you realize when you throw phrases like "move perpendicular to the line" and "greater than the distance between...", you've just lost the average cop.