New Circle of Friends

  • Latenight30

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    Aug 19, 2013 3:01 PM GMT
    My partner and I have been together for 12 years. We love each other and try to spend as much time together as possible. He is a Flight Attendant so he is only home 4 days a week.
    In the past month I started going out to our local leather bar The Eagle and have really been accepted into their fold. I get along with the Puppies, the SIrs and the Boys. Now I'm not sure where in all that I fit, but I have made a new circle of friends my partner isn't familiar with. He usually starts his work week on Saturday which makes going out on a Friday not his main priority. He has been very generous in allowing me to go out and socialize.
    My question is how do I get him to meet these guys, if this scene isn't his cup of tea? How do I approach the subject?
    For me it's all very innocent, a little hands-y but nothing serious.
    I don't want to feel I'm hiding anything but if he doesn't understand the group I'm worried he will take anything I say as inappropriate.
    My home personality is completely different than my social going out personality. But that is more who I am. I'm a very outgoing person.
    Happy Monday and I appreciate anyone's time and insight.
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    Aug 19, 2013 8:28 PM GMT
    Jonathan, if your partner may not want to go with you to the leather bar you've recently found - to meet and get to know the new guys you're meeting, how about having some of them stop by your house for a beer, or a bar-b-que some night when your partner is home? I had a similar situation here. My s.o. is from out of state and I wanted to introduce him to all my friends from various clubs and groups. It was easier to have small groups over to the house so he and they could meet each other and hang out in a comfortable setting around the patio - or on cold nights - around the fireplace. This worked well - and my s.o. has gotten to know all my friends, and they've become his friends too.