"GAYBROS"

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    Aug 19, 2013 11:15 PM GMT
    So, does anyone use this forum on REDDIT?
    I just read an article about it in my new "OUT" magazine....
    seems like a different approach to the same audience as RJ....

    http://www.reddit.com/r/gaybros/
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    Aug 19, 2013 11:22 PM GMT
    Just a couple clicks and I found this. Crazy.

    http://www.kennethinthe212.com/2013/07/str8-talk-express.html

    EDIT:

    RJ seriously should delete this thread. icon_lol.gif
  • groundcombat

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    Aug 20, 2013 12:06 AM GMT
    Sporty_g saidSo, does anyone use this forum on REDDIT?
    I just read an article about it in my new "OUT" magazine....
    seems like a different approach to the same audience as RJ....

    http://www.reddit.com/r/gaybros/


    I do. Reddit in general is quite fun because there's subs for any and everything. GB is a solid sub. Will never replace RJ though because of the lack of pics alone.
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    Aug 20, 2013 12:42 AM GMT
    Sporty_g saidSo, does anyone use this forum on REDDIT?
    I just read an article about it in my new "OUT" magazine....
    seems like a different approach to the same audience as RJ....

    http://www.reddit.com/r/gaybros/


    Yeah, I met up with a few peeps from that subreddit... However, what I found out after meeting up with them is that just because there's "bros" in the name does not guarantee that they're "bros". (Hint: flamboyant or effeminate)
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    Aug 20, 2013 1:04 AM GMT
    Philibuster saidJust a couple clicks and I found this. Crazy.

    http://www.kennethinthe212.com/2013/07/str8-talk-express.html

    EDIT:

    RJ seriously should delete this thread. icon_lol.gif


    Love it...
    Have a feeling it won't be that uncommon in the future.


    Don't remember why I quit reddit?
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    Aug 20, 2013 3:20 AM GMT
    I'm in the group
  • KingsRansom

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    Aug 20, 2013 3:52 AM GMT
    I want in too
  • HottJoe

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    Aug 20, 2013 4:18 AM GMT
    "Rules for gaybros:

    All are welcome...

    We don't remove posts of unpopular opinion...

    If a topic clearly isn't for Gaybros "What's your favorite Cher song?" we'll remove it..."

  • ThatSwimmerGu...

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    Aug 20, 2013 4:32 AM GMT
    I prefer reddit.com/r/gaybrosgonemild
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    Aug 20, 2013 4:39 AM GMT
    http://www.reddit.com/r/ladybonersgw/ is THE BEST.
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    Aug 20, 2013 5:01 AM GMT
    ThatSwimmerGuy saidI prefer http://www.reddit.com/r/gaybrosgonemild


    fixed
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    Aug 20, 2013 5:15 AM GMT
    aidenMaximus said
    Sporty_g saidSo, does anyone use this forum on REDDIT?
    I just read an article about it in my new "OUT" magazine....
    seems like a different approach to the same audience as RJ....

    http://www.reddit.com/r/gaybros/


    Yeah, I met up with a few peeps from that subreddit... However, what I found out after meeting up with them is that just because there's "bros" in the name does not guarantee that they're "bros". (Hint: flamboyant or effeminate)



    This.

    I really do like the sub, there's good posts, good threads and good guys but there's an overall lack of bro.

    There was a good thread about that the other day, about why r/gaybros should be and stay 'bro'. Here's the thread: http://www.reddit.com/r/gaybros/comments/1j38kh/queering_gaybros/
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    Aug 20, 2013 5:39 AM GMT
    Tazo995 saidThis.

    I really do like the sub, there's good posts, good threads and good guys but there's an overall lack of bro.

    There was a good thread about that the other day, about why r/gaybros should be and stay 'bro'. Here's the thread: http://www.reddit.com/r/gaybros/comments/1j38kh/queering_gaybros/
    Yep. Needless to say, that was my first and last time meeting up with them. The good thing about that forum is that it uses better technology than RJ (RJ website is soo 2002), so it's able to reach out to more people; hence, more bros. The bad thing about that forum is that it operates on anonymity; hence, you don't see them until you meet up with them in person which would be too late. And surprise, surprise... I wish I was able to screen them via their online profile.
  • TheBizMan

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    Aug 20, 2013 4:21 PM GMT
    Those people are absolutely NOT "bros" in the sense that they hope to promote themselves as.
  • HottJoe

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    Aug 20, 2013 4:51 PM GMT
    I read a couple of interesting articles on the site pertaining to perennial RJ topics, such as masc v fem and the preference for buffness. They were good. Interestingly the comments were equal parts gay men, transgendered people and women.

    It's a far cry from the forums on RJ.
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    Aug 20, 2013 7:10 PM GMT
    TheBizMan saidThose people are absolutely NOT "bros" in the sense that they hope to promote themselves as.
    Yep. I had to learn the hard way.
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    Aug 22, 2013 6:01 AM GMT
    aidenMaximus said
    TheBizMan saidThose people are absolutely NOT "bros" in the sense that they hope to promote themselves as.
    Yep. I had to learn the hard way.


    So you went to one of the meetups? How'd it go?
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    Aug 22, 2013 6:39 AM GMT
    Tazo995 saidSo you went to one of the meetups? How'd it go?
    I was expecting that the gaybros would be your typical bros -- sound like a bro, act like a bro. The moment I heard the first of them started talking, I was taken aback, but I was like, "okay, maybe that's just him sounding like that and not all of them."

    Then I met gaybro number 2, 3, 4, and 5... and all of them sounded the opposite of what I was expecting. Some of them even had more elaborate feminine mannerisms. So I was like, "cool, I guess this is what they are," and I just proceeded to socialize with them that night and threw away all of my expectations.

    We bar/club hopped and ended up at dance club next, and one of the gaybros asked me to dance with him. It felt awkward because I don't dance (and most bros I do know don't dance), but these gaybros dance ala gaga. So yeah, that dancing ended quickly.

    Probably the last straw for me was when one of the gaybros dared me to kiss one of the other gaybros. I thought it was distasteful for a first meeting and somewhat disrespectful. (And it's shit like this that give the stereotypical gay a bad rep.)

    A couple of them were cool and respectful, so I had no problems with them. But overall, I felt their gaybro facade was false advertisement. I think gaybros should refer only to masculine and bro-like demeanor. If one sounds like a queen, dances like a queen, acts like a queen, that person ain't gaybro.

    In any case, I don't even want to be associated with the term gaybro for now. I think the interwebz is still trying to grasped this new terminology. I'd say I prefer to associate myself with "straight-acting jocks."
  • killercliche

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    Aug 22, 2013 6:48 AM GMT
    aidenMaximus said
    Tazo995 said "straight-acting jocks."

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    ruh roh!
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    Aug 22, 2013 6:49 AM GMT
    killercliche said
    aidenMaximus said
    Tazo995 said "straight-acting jocks."

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    ruh roh!
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    Hehe. ;-)
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    Aug 22, 2013 6:51 AM GMT
    TheBizMan saidThose people are absolutely NOT "bros" in the sense that they hope to promote themselves as.


    i bet. i think it's common though. my bf acted that way when we first met. he was extremely transparent lol
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    Aug 22, 2013 6:56 AM GMT
    aidenMaximus said
    Tazo995 saidSo you went to one of the meetups? How'd it go?
    I was expecting that the gaybros would be your typical bros -- sound like a bro, act like a bro. The moment I heard the first of them started talking, I was taken aback, but I was like, "okay, maybe that's just him sounding like that and not all of them."

    Then I met gaybro number 2, 3, 4, and 5... and all of them sounded the opposite of what I was expecting. Some of them even had more elaborate feminine mannerisms. So I was like, "cool, I guess this is what they are," and I just proceeded to socialize with them that night and threw away all of my expectations.

    We bar/club hopped and ended up at dance club next, and one of the gaybros asked me to dance with him. It felt awkward because I don't dance (and most bros I do know don't dance), but these gaybros dance ala gaga. So yeah, that dancing ended quickly.

    Probably the last straw for me was when one of the gaybros dared me to kiss one of the other gaybros. I thought it was distasteful for a first meeting and somewhat disrespectful. (And it's shit like this that give the stereotypical gay a bad rep.)

    A couple of them were cool and respectful, so I had no problems with them. But overall, I felt their gaybro facade was false advertisement. I think gaybros should refer only to masculine and bro-like demeanor. If one sounds like a queen, dances like a queen, acts like a queen, that person ain't gaybro.

    In any case, I don't even want to be associated with the term gaybro for now. I think the interwebz is still trying to grasped this new terminology. I'd say I prefer to associate myself with "straight-acting jocks."



    Thanks for the report, I think I'm gonna let my local one slide.

    It still begs the question: why are entities such as RJ and r/gaybros that are specifically created for 'our' demographic, ie "straight acting" guys (which is probably the most accurate descriptive term in this case) always overrun by the more feminine guys?

    Do they think that hanging around masculine guys will make them more masculine? Because neither r/gaybros nor RJ (arguably) are dating sites, but communities geared to people with certain commonalities.

    So question for the feminine, nelly, queeny and otherwise non-straight acting guys: why do you want to join places like RJ and /r/gaybros so bad even when it's clear they don't cater to your crowd?
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    Aug 22, 2013 7:07 AM GMT
    Tazo995 said
    Thanks for the report, I think I'm gonna let my local one slide.

    It still begs the question: why are entities such as RJ and r/gaybros that are specifically created for 'our' demographic, ie "straight acting" guys (which is probably the most accurate descriptive term in this case) always overrun by the more feminine guys?

    Do they think that hanging around masculine guys will make them more masculine? Because neither r/gaybros nor RJ (arguably) are dating sites, but communities geared to people with certain commonalities.

    So question for the feminine, nelly, queeny and otherwise non-straight acting guys: why do you want to join places like RJ and /r/gaybros so bad even when it's clear they don't cater to your crowd?
    I would suggest to still check the local one out because each locality might be different. If they turn out to be queens, you can still either socialize if you have no problems with that (kinda like what I did), or just plain leave.

    I guess, you can still screen them beforehand by asking specific questions. For example, if your definition of a bro is a jock type who lifts weights regularly, then you can ask about their specific workout programs that they use or how much their 1 repMax for squat is.


  • killercliche

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    Aug 22, 2013 7:18 AM GMT
    Tazo995 said
    aidenMaximus said
    Tazo995 said
    Do they think that hanging around masculine guys will make them more masculine? Because neither r/gaybros nor RJ (arguably) are dating sites, but communities geared to people with certain commonalities.

    So question for the feminine, nelly, queeny and otherwise non-straight acting guys: why do you want to join places like RJ and /r/gaybros so bad even when it's clear they don't cater to your crowd?


    The answer is most likely because said person has little self awareness and perceive themselves as "masculine str8 acting bro".

    Also, they could in fact appear more masculine if they socialized with more masculine seeming guys. Masculine and feminine as it relates to our society's perception are really just a set of mannerism that are learned.
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    Aug 22, 2013 7:42 AM GMT
    killercliche saidThe answer is most likely because said person has little self awareness and perceive themselves as "masculine str8 acting bro".

    Also, they could in fact appear more masculine if they socialized with more masculine seeming guys. Masculine and feminine as it relates to our society's perception are really just a set of mannerism that are learned.
    yeah, people seem to think that you're a fratboy if you hang around with fratboys. I guess, these peeps think that gaybro is in a similar way.

    That's why I have a new "personal" requirement if one is to be a jock. A requirement that's not easily accomplished by surrounding one's self with people. That person must be able to squat his own body weight below (or until) parallel. (Ideally 1.5 x bw, but I'm being lenient for now.) This is just my personal requirement. XD