Dating to Relationship back to Friends

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    Aug 22, 2013 4:07 AM GMT
    I recently got dumped but he wanted to remain friends and then said maybe next week or in a month we can date then get back in a relationship.... I'm lost. I knew we rushed a bit to be n the relationship but to end it and start the whole process again and act as if we weren't in a relationship really doesn't settle well with me.



    Would you be okay with being friends with someone who ended something you thought was special?
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    Aug 22, 2013 4:20 AM GMT
    No, not really. That stuff only happens in sitcoms. If I thought.someone was special but it didnt work out, I wouldnt be able to hang with them too openly.
    I'm lost just reading your post. This guy needs to make his mind up.
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    Aug 22, 2013 4:20 AM GMT
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    sorry
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    seriously, he thinks this could happen.
    --"Hey, met this guy, gonna try it on...if it don't work"
    BRB
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    Aug 22, 2013 6:02 AM GMT
    Your guy is full of nonsense!!!!!!period. Stay or go, it that simple.
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    Aug 22, 2013 2:32 PM GMT
    SKM2 saidYour guy is full of nonsense!!!!!!period. Stay or go, it that simple.



    Yeah I agree. Just a waste of time maybe all he wanted was to fool around
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    Aug 22, 2013 2:36 PM GMT
    as if hed give you up haha
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    Aug 22, 2013 2:38 PM GMT
    Nope.
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    Aug 22, 2013 3:09 PM GMT
    ANDEXC saidI recently got dumped but he wanted to remain friends and then said maybe next week or in a month we can date then get back in a relationship.... I'm lost. I knew we rushed a bit to be n the relationship but to end it and start the whole process again and act as if we weren't in a relationship really doesn't settle well with me.



    Would you be okay with being friends with someone who ended something you thought was special?


    He just wants to fuck around some more but not technically cheat. Settling down at 21 is a bet restrictive. It's probably better in a long run if you both experience other men...... that is what youth is for.
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    Aug 22, 2013 5:33 PM GMT
    LOL,so OP u r the spare tire he kept for cold and lonely night.If only together as friends,then it is all good,but when sex is involved,this ia a booty call!!

  • Aug 22, 2013 6:16 PM GMT
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    ANDEXC saidI recently got dumped but he wanted to remain friends and then said maybe next week or in a month we can date then get back in a relationship.... I'm lost. I knew we rushed a bit to be n the relationship but to end it and start the whole process again and act as if we weren't in a relationship really doesn't settle well with me.



    Would you be okay with being friends with someone who ended something you thought was special?


    He just wants to fuck around some more but not technically cheat. Settling down at 21 is a bet restrictive. It's probably better in a long run if you both experience other men...... that is what youth is for.



    Actually, I dated some in his 40s who did the same thing. I, too, thinks he wants to fuck around, but the guy I dated was 40!
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    Aug 22, 2013 11:24 PM GMT
    I'm lost too..
    What makes this guy think he can toss you to the side and pick you up at his will??

    He's delusional?
    ..Or ..these are the signals your'e sending??

    If he needs a doormat ..send him to sears.

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    Aug 23, 2013 12:32 AM GMT
    It depends on how ugly the break up is. But in general, I don't like to burn bridges, so I'll be friends with the ex unless he did something horrible that I never want to hear from him again.
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    Aug 23, 2013 12:40 AM GMT
    Fuck it, you gave him a chance and he messed it up. Let things cool down for a bit, but let him go. I know it hurts, but someone out there will treat you better. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Aug 23, 2013 1:37 AM GMT
    Not close friends no.Would bother me too much.Ry
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    Aug 23, 2013 1:49 AM GMT
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    sorry
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    seriously, he thinks this could happen.
    --"Hey, met this guy, gonna try it on...if it don't work"
    BRB


    That is what it sounds to me as well. Stay friends only if you want to be friends not because he wants you to be.
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    Aug 23, 2013 2:04 AM GMT
    I've remained friendly, and sometimes friends with all of my exes. I've never had a nasty breakup, because I always worked at the relationship diligently. Once I found that all avenues had been travelled in making it work, and it still didn't, I took the initiative to end the relationship myself.

    It depends on the individuals. I would leave the door open if you want something, but also move along with your life. Date other guys if you feel like it, and not just to kill time. Count on him not coming back, though. Most often, when someone has come back to me for a second try, I was in a completely different place in my life, so I have declined to reconnect.

    Hope this helps. It is a tough situation, and I wish you well.