So I just got stood up...

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    Aug 23, 2013 5:35 AM GMT
    I was talking to this guy on grindr, and I thought it would be cool to get coffee, and he agreed. I don't know what happened, but he didn't show up, and after an hour, I left.

    I know it's definitely not the worse thing to have happened. I don't even know the proper term for it (catfished[?]) But he won't return my text messages or anything like that.

    Has anything happened to people on here? What can I do to avoid it? I rarely get guys my age to agree to hang out with me at all, but I suppose I should've seen this coming. Does this say something about my attractiveness? Hmmm....
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    Aug 23, 2013 5:42 AM GMT
    Oh let it go!! it happens to the best of them.
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    Aug 23, 2013 5:48 AM GMT
    A Grindr "date" is always kind of risky/tricky -- mostly because you don't have the connivence of someones direct line to call.

    But I agree with him (^) you didn't say you guys were dating and maybe he got "busy" or just didn't take it seriously. Yeah just keep it moving. He will 9 times out of 10 hit you back with some bullshit reason that you can either believe or ignore.

    Your call.
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    Aug 23, 2013 5:51 AM GMT
    If they waste your time there not worth it.

    grinder is kinda hit and miss anyway.
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    Aug 23, 2013 6:12 AM GMT
    That sounds awful to be stood up after waiting for an hour. If he did that, he's doesn't sound like a good person. For attractiveness, people usually know how good-looking they are so I think you would know.

    You know a lot more to the story than us and can tell us a lot more.
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    Aug 23, 2013 6:14 AM GMT
    Grindr is for getting laid...not coffee. No wonder you got stood up.
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    Aug 23, 2013 6:37 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidGrindr is for getting laid...not coffee. No wonder you got stood up.


    I wish I can get laid and have coffee.
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    Aug 23, 2013 6:48 AM GMT
    The_Tango said
    paulflexes saidGrindr is for getting laid...not coffee. No wonder you got stood up.


    I wish I can get laid and have coffee.
    That's what Starfucks is for.
  • Suetonius

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    Aug 23, 2013 7:58 AM GMT
    From what I hear, it happens all the time. Take a book with you next time.
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    Aug 23, 2013 12:15 PM GMT
    The_Tango said
    paulflexes saidGrindr is for getting laid...not coffee. No wonder you got stood up.


    I wish I can get laid and have coffee.


    Lmfao!
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    Aug 23, 2013 12:19 PM GMT
    Next time ask him to go for a beer instead. Chances are he will show up.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Aug 23, 2013 12:21 PM GMT
    My reaction in being stood up (and this is really more based on professional prospective client experience rather than personal, but I think it really is applicable). Confirm the time with them if made in advance, show up on time, wait 20 minutes after the time of the meeting and if they haven't shown up, either call immediately and see whats up (or text if personal) or you can wait. Text or call one time. If they don't respond, you move on. Don't dwell on it, don't overanalyze.... and don't you EVER do it to someone else!
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    Aug 23, 2013 12:35 PM GMT
    The_Tango said
    paulflexes saidGrindr is for getting laid...not coffee. No wonder you got stood up.

    I wish I can get laid and have coffee.

    At the same time?
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    Aug 23, 2013 3:52 PM GMT
    Sucks, we've all been there. Chalk it up to experience, don't take it personally and move on. If he's truly interested or had a legitimate reason for not showing, he'll contact you otherwise try and find a 'block asshole' button on Grindr!
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    Aug 23, 2013 4:28 PM GMT
    Premature ejaculatory.
    It happens.
    Got so turned on at finally getting some, he shot off in his pant on the drive over.
    By the time he went home to change...
  • Import

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    Aug 23, 2013 4:46 PM GMT
    Don't sweat it, boo.
    brush yo shoulders off and talk to someone hotter, younger, and with a bigger cock.
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    Aug 23, 2013 4:51 PM GMT
    paulflexes said
    The_Tango said
    paulflexes saidGrindr is for getting laid...not coffee. No wonder you got stood up.


    I wish I can get laid and have coffee.
    That's what Starfucks is for.



    Ohhhhhh I've heard of that place..... ( 0_0)
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    Aug 23, 2013 5:56 PM GMT
    The_Tango saidI wish I can get laid and have coffee.

    Bring a thermos.
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    Aug 23, 2013 5:59 PM GMT
    TheRece25 said
    paulflexes said
    The_Tango said
    paulflexes saidGrindr is for getting laid...not coffee. No wonder you got stood up.


    I wish I can get laid and have coffee.
    That's what Starfucks is for.



    Ohhhhhh I've heard of that place..... ( 0_0)


    Don't Tell me.

    Let me guess

    Is it in Uruguay?
  • JoeKIngJay

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    Nov 25, 2013 10:36 PM GMT
    I know how you feel. I got stood up again last night, icon_cool.gif. I've been stood up a few times from guys I've meet online. I don't take it personally, or as an attack on my attractiveness (or lack of it, lol). I see it as a character issue of the other party.

    Before I meet up with anyone I've been talking to online I always make contingency plans icon_lol.gif.

    p.s. You're cute - his loss!
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    Nov 25, 2013 10:38 PM GMT
    A_Montax1 saidI was talking to this guy on grindr, and I thought it would be cool to get coffee, and he agreed. I don't know what happened, but he didn't show up, and after an hour, I left.

    I know it's definitely not the worse thing to have happened. I don't even know the proper term for it (catfished[?]) But he won't return my text messages or anything like that.

    Has anything happened to people on here? What can I do to avoid it? I rarely get guys my age to agree to hang out with me at all, but I suppose I should've seen this coming. Does this say something about my attractiveness? Hmmm....


    He probably did you a favor. Don't get hung up on this. A lot of guys on those apps are fakes or flakes.
  • madsexy

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    Nov 25, 2013 10:41 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidGrindr is for getting laid...not coffee. No wonder you got stood up.

    Actually, that's pretty true. Although there are plenty of flakes on Grindr, you're less likely to get stood up if you're hooking up for sex - at least then you know it's more likely there's definite motivation. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Nov 25, 2013 10:49 PM GMT
    My advice is don't rush meeting up guys on dates, there are a lot of jerks and retards out there so you need to be selective on who you meet, and the selection process takes time and getting to know. Don't meet up a guy if something seems off about him, you will always have bad surprises later on.
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    Nov 25, 2013 10:53 PM GMT
    Catfished is if you went to meet someone who was using a different person's pics. Which incidentally is a much more likely explanation than him walking in and back out or anything like that.
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    Nov 25, 2013 11:23 PM GMT
    it happens...but dont schedule another date from that app. try okcupid instead.