Club experience, advice needed, am I too uptight ?

  • itiscool

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    Aug 24, 2013 8:25 AM GMT
    Went to a club with some friends the other day.icon_biggrin.gif Long story short, there was a long line for the bathroom...I waited n a hot guy behind me started a conversation...too drunk ( n the noise) to hear what he said..anyway, I was polite the whole time...then, he grabbed my hand...n held it.icon_eek.gificon_eek.gif.uncomfortable holding hand with a total stranger, I subtley pushed him away . He then said, not like this! Lol..as if I didn't how to hold hands icon_biggrin.gif. Then he wanted to go in the bathroom with me ( actually it was the individual unisex bathroom for one person at a time).. icon_eek.gifHe said something along the line of just staying in side waiting for his turn instead of waiting out side...couldn't hear him too well...when the bathroom door opened, I told him to go in..n closed the door for him, letting him use the bathroom first. Not that I mind somebody staying in the bathroom with me. like at the urinals, I don't have problem peeing with someone's presence...just feel strange n don't want other to think something happened in the bathroom. Anyway, when he came out, he looked upset n walked away. Honestly, I think he was a cute guy..I just did know how to response in a situation like this....kinda feel bad ruin a chance to make a new friend. icon_sad.gifDo u guys think I should react differently? I definately don't dislike the guy, yet I won't want to do anything more than to make a new friend. Thanks for your advice in advance. icon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gif
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    Aug 24, 2013 8:41 AM GMT
    Dude??
    The guy is a classic bar slut! You did nothing wrong.

    Maybe i'm naive.. but I am not aware of any successful or meaningful friendships that started in a men's room stall... at a gay bar.. icon_confused.gif

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  • itiscool

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    Aug 24, 2013 4:30 PM GMT
    Lol @ The gif!
  • itiscool

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    Aug 24, 2013 6:52 PM GMT
    Tks for your advice. Anyone else?icon_cool.gif
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    Aug 24, 2013 7:28 PM GMT
    Gaydom and gar bars have no rules.
    It all sounded pretty SOP except for joining him in the stall alone. That was too much.
    Years ago, I was standing on the stairway of a crowded gay bar with many people. The guy standing next to me admired the chain I had on, picked it up, looked at it, and smiled. He had a chain on too so I picked it up, looked at it, and smiled also. He then turned around and leaned against me. I put my arms around him and started rubbing his body. He started screaming, "This is it! This is it!"
    (I had no idea what that meant.)
    Then his friend came along and said, "You've had too much to drink" and dragged thim away. I looked for him but couldn't find him.
    That's about as far as I'm going to go with someone who I've never had one word with. But I wasn't happy with the cock blocking which seems to be part of the gay bar scene also.
  • Rhi_Bran

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    Aug 24, 2013 7:30 PM GMT
    In gay bars, and bars in general, you shouldn't expect most social norms to hold sway. You need to make and enforce your own limits.
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    Aug 24, 2013 7:40 PM GMT
    If you have to ask.....icon_neutral.gif
  • itiscool

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    Aug 24, 2013 8:20 PM GMT
    Meaning? Yes lolicon_biggrin.gif
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    Aug 24, 2013 8:33 PM GMT
    it was ok for you to not go inside with him and it was not ok for him to be upset with it.
  • madsexy

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    Aug 24, 2013 8:40 PM GMT
    Anocxu saidDude??
    The guy is a classic bar slut! You did nothing wrong.

    Maybe i'm naive.. but I am not aware of any successful or meaningful friendships that started in a men's room stall... at a gay bar.. icon_confused.gif

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    Let's try it - then you'll know of one! icon_twisted.gif

    But for the OP, the "too drunk" part sort of tells you that the whole thing "doesn't count". If you see him again, and you're both unimpaired, then see how it goes with him. Hopefully that'll get you a new friend.
  • itiscool

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    Aug 25, 2013 3:05 AM GMT
    I was drunk, but i was sober enough to not letting him in while I pee....lol too bad, I probably won't see him again...
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    Aug 25, 2013 3:08 AM GMT
    If you wanted to mess around with him in the bathroom you did it wrong. If you didn't you handled this ok.
  • itiscool

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    Aug 25, 2013 3:19 AM GMT
    I don't want to mess around, but neither did I want to reject him as a friend. icon_cool.gif

  • Aug 25, 2013 3:23 AM GMT
    Sounds like he just wanted in your pants IMHO. So, if that wasn't what you were looking for, then you handled the situation perfectly. I wouldn't worry about it!
  • Joeyphx444

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    Aug 25, 2013 3:25 AM GMT
    After the "I was too drunk" part who cares
    I have no sympathy or feelings for the situation
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    Aug 25, 2013 3:35 AM GMT
    Joeyphx444 saidAfter the "I was too drunk" part who cares
    I have no sympathy or feelings for the situation


    Kinda mean..
    Not everyone gets insanely drunk when they go out..
    The OP was very responsible..

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    Aug 25, 2013 4:09 AM GMT
    Oh yeah...that dude wanted to get it in...as my sister says, "bitches are thirsty at the bar (or club)." My part time modeling job requires me to entertain at bars and clubs sometimes...usually shirtless. It sucks that I can only have one drink the entire night when random drunk dudes and girls come up to take pictures with me and touch my no-no places. Sometimes you just gotta draw the line...no means no!
  • itiscool

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    Aug 25, 2013 7:46 AM GMT
    He didn't touch my no-no place...lol just my hands. I wonder if he wants no more than to talk to me in the bathroom. icon_cool.gif
  • itiscool

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    Aug 26, 2013 3:31 PM GMT
    Anyway, thanks. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Aug 26, 2013 3:45 PM GMT
    itiscool saidHe didn't touch my no-no place...lol just my hands. I wonder if he wants no more than to talk to me in the bathroom. icon_cool.gif

    I'm pretty sure he wasn't wanting to go into the bathroom just to hold your hand. He would have been reaching for something else so if that wasn't your desire, then you did the right thing. Once inside, chances are you would have been pushing his hand or mouth away from your dick. Drunk guy, gay bar, behind a hot guy, bathroom for one (or two), you do the math.

    You did the right thing, he probably forgot about you before he ordered his next drink.
  • itiscool

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    Aug 27, 2013 2:57 AM GMT
    Ha...thanks for your response.........lol @your description. Actually I realized I was not clear. I was the one who was drunk, not him. Lol I was not drunk enough to do something I oppose. And no, I didn't want to do anything with him. Just that I was afraid I was too uptight Ina bar setting....it is not like I never had someone pee beside me at urinals and you r right, he definitely forgot me..but I on the other hand are still thinking if I did anything wrong. Speaking of pathetic..!!icon_cool.gificon_redface.gificon_redface.gificon_biggrin.gif