Guy just stopped messaging me on OkCupid

  • LoveAndPeace

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    Aug 25, 2013 5:34 AM GMT
    Ok so I started talking to this guy about a couple weeks ago and everything was great.We had started great conversations (although I was the one who started them) *sigh* Anyway..he kept on calling me cute and adorable..I liked it a lot.I wanted to meet him and idk get some coffee and just sit down and have a conversation with him..All of a sudden he says "I'm go ing through a lot of drama right now that I don't want to talk about"I said its no problem and I tried to cheer him up and support him..what did I do wrong?I said Hey 4 or 5 days ago no response..
  • donnygg

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    Aug 25, 2013 7:55 AM GMT
    It's probably not you, so don't take it personally. Everyone has their own personal problems. Maybe he has just broken up with his bf. Maybe his crush officially rejected him. Perhaps he just needs some time to himself to sort out his issues. I'm doing the same thing now in fact. I even put that in my Jack'd profile so people would not contact me LOL. You may never find out what happened to him. Just let him be for the time being and maybe check back in a few weeks. If you still don't get a response, you can only move on and accept that you won't get the closure you want.
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    Aug 25, 2013 9:45 AM GMT
    Sounds like you were catfished.
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    Aug 25, 2013 11:44 AM GMT
    It's probably you.

  • Aug 27, 2013 12:05 AM GMT
    You didn't do anything wrong. You have to perceive that as a rejection and that he was not interested in talking further. If you were genuinely interested, wouldn't you message back within a few days? Now that you made your move, It's up to him now?
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    Aug 27, 2013 4:19 AM GMT
    He didn't join OKC for a chat buddy.

    It's a dating site. You are supposed to make dates.
    If you're into the guy, plan a date or the guy is likely to move on.
  • LoveAndPeace

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    Aug 27, 2013 4:34 PM GMT
    Macaque saidHe didn't join OKC for a chat buddy.

    It's a dating site. You are supposed to make dates.
    If you're into the guy, plan a date or the guy is likely to move on.
    I told him I was gonna be in DC on Monday and if he wanted to meet up and do something we could.He just did not respond and i told him Sunday morning
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    Aug 27, 2013 7:16 PM GMT
    There was a guy on here, or still is but he changed his name.

    We were having some conversions that were showing some promise, icon_biggrin.gif pic exchanges, what we like, don't like, etc. Then..............crickets...........weird!

    I'm not crushed or anything, we didn't even meet. But still. If he found someone I'm happy for him, just don't treat me like dirt because of it, have some manners!
  • LoveAndPeace

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    Aug 27, 2013 7:38 PM GMT
    unckabasa saidThere was a guy on here, or still is but he changed his name.

    We were having some conversions that were showing some promise, icon_biggrin.gif pic exchanges, what we like, don't like, etc. Then..............crickets...........weird!

    I'm not crushed or anything, we didn't even meet. But still. If he found someone I'm happy for him, just don't treat me like dirt because of it, have some manners!
    EXACTLY. That's what I am thinking.If the guy doesn't find me interesting that's fine.I have no problem with it.He should tell me that instead of not saying anything so we can ATLEAST be some type of friends.
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    Aug 27, 2013 8:48 PM GMT
    He's probably not interested. I'm on OK Cupid too. I ignored guys who I didn't want to talk to and/or when they even messaged me. I sent back a couple of replies then Nah, I lost interest completely even after looking at his profile. It's online dating. icon_eek.gificon_redface.gificon_redface.gif