Have you ever been introduced to a guy's parents on a 1st or 2nd date?

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    Aug 25, 2013 6:33 PM GMT
    So...I'm still trying to wrap my head around the fact that I met this guy's parents, and if I went about it the right way. I can probably say that I have not been introduced to a date's parents...probably since a guy who I dated when I was 18 took me to his mom's marriage reception with another woman.

    So, you can imagine I started to feel a little timid about the whole situation. Not to mention it was his mom and sister. I acted normal, I greeted the mom with a kiss (they're Latin), and had a quick chat with his sister while my buddy was upstairs with his mom.

    Although I felt like really special that he felt I was acceptable enough to meet 'mom', at the same time I didn't feel I was really ready. Like, we were at his house (he lives with roommates), and his mom and sis were just coming to drop by for a bit. I stayed for maybe 15-20 minutes once they arrived, but then since I had already spent the night with him and it was turning afternoon time...I wanted to head home.

    As I was leaving, he seemed disappointed by it. At the same time, he was kinda in the 'zone' so to speak, he was really emotional about seeing them again for some reason. I just felt, they needed to have 'family' time together, and I didn't feel it would have been appropiate for all of us to spend too much time together after only meeting him twice. He hasn't answered my call or texts since yesterday afternoon.

    I'm just like, was I wrong to leave? And not even just that..I'm like wondering about the whole interaction. Like what if his mom or sis 'didn't approve' so to speak? I know I shouldn't jump to conclusions, but when you meet someone's parents, you never know what values/beliefs they may have...ESPECIALLY when you're dealing with a different ethnicity lol. I can't really think of any reason they wouldn't think I'm right for them, so all I can think of is that I made a good impresison. They were really nice to me, and no probing, so I don't know icon_confused.gif
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    Aug 25, 2013 10:14 PM GMT
    There'd usually be some pretext for me to meet them by the 5th (after I met most of his friends), if not sooner. I always "passed."
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    Aug 26, 2013 12:09 AM GMT
    Only one BF's parents were living nearby us. We went to their house to have dinner with them after we'd been dating a while and I moved in with him. But his parents were in denial about his being gay, I was just supposed to be his good friend. He assumed his mother really knew, though (never-married son at 40 living with a guy), while his father probably was really clueless.

    My main concern was the terrible stories he'd told me, of how nasty his parents were, and to prepare myself for a terrible experience. Because it was ME who wanted to meet THEM. I just thought it was the right thing to do, and he did say they'd been asking about me, since seeing me around his property.

    Well, they turned out to be charming & lovely. Nothing like his horror stories at all, and we got along great. After that he begged me to come to their weekly family dinner, or more often, because he claimed his parents became so much nicer around me, made the evening go better. I thought it was his own imagination about them, him reliving family conflicts from his youth.

    But whatever, we all began to go out to restaurants together, even went bowling! And at Christmas Eve I was invited over to open presents, the extended family there from around the area, me the only non-relative present. I even got presents from them!

    So I'm an advocate of facing the lion in his den. And if the lions don't like me, well, I don't think they can devour me, I'll survive the experience. Although one awkward incident was his mother walking in the front door of his house unannounced and catching us in the act. icon_eek.gif

    After that there could be little doubt she knew about us. A funny story in itself which I've written about, entitled "Squeaky Hinges". But she continued to invite us to dinner. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Aug 26, 2013 3:42 AM GMT
    eagermuscle saidThere'd usually be some pretext for me to meet them by the 5th (after I met most of his friends), if not sooner. I always "passed."


    Why is that?

    ART_DECO said
    So I'm an advocate of facing the lion in his den. And if the lions don't like me, well, I don't think they can devour me, I'll survive the experience.


    I'm okay with meeting the parents...but at that point in time, I only had 30 minutes to prepare myself. I know sometimes family/friends like to 'size you up'. And that tends to put me on edge. BUT...neither his mom or sister went in deep about much of anything, but at the same time...I didn't really allow that to happen.

    But at the same time, I'm wondering if perhaps I maybe didn't allow enough time to make a good impression maybe? Like I know they say it only takes 2 minutes or 15 seconds or whatever...but I mostly only talked to his sister, not his mom. I mean, what could I have said after only meeting this guy twice and only in a bar setting? We haven't even had our 1st real date, even though he's expressed his desire to do that and to have a boyfriend.

    And this isn't just some ordinary guy you all. This guy is my type in every way IMAGINABLE. He's extremely hot, and has treated me VERY well. So for something to not go right this early in the game, I want to do everything to make it work out and avoid ANYTHING to make it not work out. Like this here, this SHOULD be the real thing finally. I'm telling myself, I don't care if the last 20,000 dates I've been on have not gone anywhere at this point...I want THIS to go somewhere.