Have you ever just been 'haunted' by someone?

  • linvect96

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    Aug 26, 2013 3:19 AM GMT
    This summer I went through a really tough episode that I'm kind of still shocked about. I think I really fell in love with someone (or the idea of someone) and was obsessed sick about him for months...he in many ways lead me on and I in many ways did not read / didn't want to acknowledge the signs that he wasn't really that interested.

    What's past is past; we had a conversation, we both expressed wanting to be friends with each other. We have a lot of mutual friends and are often going to be bumping into each other. I thought I got closure.

    I find myself genuinely wanting to get to know him better and to develop a real friendship. But I feel like I'm still kind of getting the cold shoulder and I'm the one who always has to initiate. I think he's still awkward about the whole situation...he's dating someone else, supposedly, but that person is in another city and from what I gather they barely ever see each other. It's sad, especially because it's his first ever 'relationship' (and he's 25).

    Anyways, I'm haunted by the idea of him. I'm dating around and meeting other people, but I find myself always thinking about him...and always wanting to talk to him and having to hold it all back.

    I'm convinced, and my gut tells me, that there's something there between us and for some reason he's afraid of it.

    How do I get over him? How do I become friends with him? I really need to move past this...
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    Aug 26, 2013 1:29 PM GMT
    So what you're basically telling us is that you can't get over this guy. Is that it? Look, your situation is no different than the other posters on this site who states they can't get over a guy they met. There's only one way to get over him and that's TIME.

    In your case however, you need to take it a step further. You need to separate yourself from him. Trying to be his friend will put you in a constant struggle with your feelings and you will always question yourself on what it would be like to have a relationship with him. So, you want to move past it? Distance yourself from him.

  • Aug 26, 2013 11:55 PM GMT
    Yeah you can take many drastic measures but time is the answer.