hiding your secrets and life details from your friends,is it considered a friendship anymore?

  • meezo

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    Aug 26, 2013 5:46 PM GMT
    hiding your secrets and life details from your friends>>is it considered a friendship anymore?
    I usually find out that if I don,t want anybody to know about something>and I told a friend I trust about it >that someone I don,t want him to know about it knows about it
    does hiding a lot of your life details and info that u don,t want any body to know from my friends will affect my friendship?
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    Aug 26, 2013 5:50 PM GMT
    Its still a friendship and no one should be an open book, especially when they know they are friends with a person who has a lose mouth..

    The secrets you chose to hide may effect your relationship with the person but in the end if you were true friends you will work it out.

    If the secret is something like your gay but don't want to tell them yet they find out and they get upset then Forget Them!!! That's your own Personal info that has nothing to do with them....
  • meezo

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    Aug 26, 2013 6:01 PM GMT
    TheRece25 saidIts still a friendship and no one should be an open book, especially when they know they are friends with a person who has a lose mouth..

    The secrets you chose to hide may effect your relationship with the person but in the end if you were true friends you will work it out.

    If the secret is something like your gay but don't want to tell them yet they find out and they get upset then Forget Them!!! That's your own Personal info that has nothing to do with them....

    thank u TheRece25
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    Aug 26, 2013 6:01 PM GMT
    No, secrecy of personal details or info is not an issue for you or anyone to consider the relationship between friends as not friendship.
    unless that secrecy somehow puts the other person in danger.
    If your life details will not put him in trouble or danger then there's no need to worry about.
  • cephalopod

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    Aug 28, 2013 3:42 AM GMT
    There are different kinds and levels of friendship. It's a lot to expect of another person to completely accept everything about you.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Aug 28, 2013 3:51 AM GMT
    If you hide the most important thing about yourself, then, I guess they're not really that close of a friend
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    Aug 28, 2013 6:02 AM GMT
    Your questions are more applicable to a longterm relationship than friendships. For example, lets say that a guy gets genital warts (gross) and went to a doctor's office to have the lesions removed (yuck). Why would the guy need to tell his friend this? Situational information such as those need only to be distributed if you're in a relationship.
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    Aug 28, 2013 7:43 AM GMT
    Somethings are best kept a secrets, the truth does not always frees it sometimes kills
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    Aug 28, 2013 8:32 AM GMT
    Life details and secrets are two different things and disclosure of these both depends only on the person to whom they belong. Everyone wants some space in life and not every life detail is meant to be shared with everybody while secrets themselves say that they should remain secret.

    So it should not effect your friendship with someone if you don't share it with someone. But if you are good friends with someone then they expect you to reveal some of your life to them; for you to go along with that expectation, you should be confident in that person and of his friendship. If what you tell reaches someone that you don't want to know then obviously that person is just another gossip mongrel and nothing more.

    If someone is truly your friend, then they would be upset at first that you hid something from them, but later they will understand your reasoning and support you instead of berating you.

    Well that's my opinion.
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    Aug 28, 2013 2:27 PM GMT
    One of my best friends has a secret. He won't tell me where he is! He punched a policeman and then went into hiding.