Does working out make you more attractive?

  • BlakeWind

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    Aug 26, 2013 6:35 PM GMT
    Hey guys, this might a very stupid question, but do you think bulking up would make me more attractive? or do you think i would look weird? I don't think I am very good looking, but I would like to change that if I can. A lot of people tell me I have a baby face. Does your face look any different when you are bulked up? I dont want to be like HUGE, but Swimmer/model body. But I try to imagine my head on a fit body and I think it looks weird lol. It's generally pretty hard for me to find guys. Not many people seem too interested in me on on grindr and whatnot, and I recently got dumped after 2 dates, so that obviously tore away any little confidence I had left( that fucker ). So I am feeling pretty low/insecure at the moment. Hoping that will boost me back up. But yea my main questions to my fellow gays are as follows-
    1- Do you think bulking up will make me look good or weird?
    2- Does working out change your face at all? It seems that fit people have a muscular face... Like I can usually tell someone is fit by generally looking at there face. I tried to google that but no answer came up.
    3- Do you guys think If I got bigger more guys would be interested in me?

    Again sorry if these are stupid questions. But they are honest ones. I am very new to this ( I am a late bloomer ) so any ( non-sarcastic ) answer will be very appreciated. Thank you!
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    Aug 26, 2013 7:41 PM GMT
    If anything ti will do wonders for your elfesteem.

    A confident guy, now that's sexy.

    Confidence trumps a ripped body

    And if you have both... oh wellicon_smile.gif
  • Destinharbor

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    Aug 26, 2013 8:00 PM GMT
    Yeah, buddy, I think it would. And shave that silly facial hair off. Get bigger and buff and go clean cut. You'll feel better and have more self confidence, too. And be healthier. The pic of you on the couch says it all. You have a cute face (when shaved) but the body language is shrinking violet. You're not comfortable with your presentation so give it a shot. I spent a big percentage of my life wishing I was bigger and more muscular and not feeling confident with my shirt off. Then one day I started working out. Now I love the way it makes me feel and feel pretty good in a group of shirtless guys. So I'm more talkative and more outgoing. Start now while you're young and it will come more easily. You should start seeing results in about six months though you'll feel better much sooner. Take a protein supplement with at least 30 grams of protein and no more than 100 calories immediately after working out (keep it in your gym bag with a shaker cup). Work out five days a week and work hard. I separate the days into chest, shoulders, arms, back and legs. Give each part one hour and then do some aerobic. Make it an every day thing. I go every day after work. Go for it! Oh, and the face thing? Yeah, it will make a difference. In a positive way, but it won't change what you look like, which you don't need. But you're right-- look at a the face of a fit guy and you can usually tell.
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    Aug 26, 2013 8:02 PM GMT
    Yes it does, guys will notice you more.
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    Aug 26, 2013 8:04 PM GMT
    I personally think so. I have EXTREME BABY FACE syndrome. I was really fat before, and I could not imagine myself becoming toned or fit AT ALL. When I dropped the fat, I still looked awkward. I recently began working out (about 2 months ago) and my gains have already been phenomenal, and Im noticing my body will naturally shape itself, to the point where imagining myself as muscular is pretty easy now. And the load of self confidence I feel... is amazing. Granted, I only have seen results quickly because my predisposition is to gain muscle quickly, but also to gain fat extremely quickly as well. But since youre already skinny, you will look shredded much faster than me!!!

    Good luck!
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    Aug 26, 2013 8:34 PM GMT
    Working out definitely makes you more attractive....inside (the fact that you are trying to give all your best and do your part) outside (when your body begins to transform)

    I only started working out like a year ago, and since then ive become more confident, find myself attractive(wouldnt mind dating someone like me) even at work, i got promoted and im respected. Might sound lame but its true, a man who can take care of his body is found more competent of handling other stuff.

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    Aug 26, 2013 8:52 PM GMT
    If you're like me - and I was about your size when I started working out - you'll look and feel so much better. I started out far too skinny and too tall (I thought) until a water polo coach in high school put me into a program to bulk up and get toned. Before a year was up I was ripped and looking great - but more importantly - I FELT much, much better about myself. A guy I'd not seen in several months saw me at a pool and said, "OMG, you're looking better." Just those words. I never forgot that compliment.

    Good luck getting started. Find a trainer and just get going / and stay with it. About 3 times weekly for about an hour is what you need. You can do this and you'll never be sorry. You walk out of the gym 100% glad you worked out that day. You stand taller, you feel stronger, more confident - happy with the world. Go to it!
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    Aug 26, 2013 9:13 PM GMT


    1) No one has ever gone from "average" to "bad" via fitness. Bulking up to some degree always looks better if you're starting from square 1.
    2) Yes your face changes; sometimes more sometimes less. I still have a young-ish looking face despite having lost a ton of weight. Embrace it. It'll serve you well in your 30s.
    3) Yes. Guys will definitely notice you more if you're bigger.
  • Lincsbear

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    Aug 26, 2013 9:25 PM GMT
    surfswim saidIf anything ti will do wonders for your elfesteem.

    A confident guy, now that's sexy.

    Confidence trumps a ripped body

    And if you have both... oh wellicon_smile.gif


    My greatest gain from working out: more confidence.
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    Aug 26, 2013 9:31 PM GMT
    Yes. I do believe working out makes you more physically attractive. However, there are other types of attractive. There are non-physical - personality features that can also make or break someone level of attractiveness.
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    Aug 26, 2013 9:41 PM GMT
    BlakeWind,

    #1 Exude confidence, fortify your integrity, strengthen your (moral) character, nurture your soul and spiritual life. Build a better you from the inside out. Be the person you wish to attract. This makes all the difference in the world.

    #2 Exercise to be healthy and fit for life. Eat to care for your body. Build the body type that makes you feel good about yourself, not what everyone wants—impossible. Everyone wants something different.

    As for people who dump you, don't worry. We don't know the whole story usually. Most of the time, they are an emotional mess themselves, don't know what they want, or are looking for an ideal they cannot have. In other words, it's not about you… so don't make it about you. If you do make it about you, you're only going to be miserable. And in the event you do feel miserable, go back to #1 and #2.

    Don't live in the place of desperation or make life decisions based on what others "like". You're only going to play a losing game.

    God bless.
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    Aug 26, 2013 9:47 PM GMT
    Sounds like a lot of guys were really unhappy with themselves when they were thin/average build. Why is that?
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    Aug 26, 2013 9:52 PM GMT
    Working out makes me more muscly icon_biggrin.gif but beyond that I cannot say...
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    Aug 26, 2013 10:24 PM GMT
    Working out should increase your confidence level in meeting guys and trying to build a better body.

    I, however, find it annoying that most guys go to the gym 7 days a week or try to attain that adonis steroid muscled image! Urg, I like skinny, thin, slender/swimmer build guys myself! But if you're a hot muscled guy and super cocky, that's a turn off! The key to be happy with yourself, your image and have some confidence in dating.
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    Aug 26, 2013 10:34 PM GMT
    I don't know if it makes me feel more attractive.... but it definitely makes me feel better about myself... because I know I have a positive outlet for stress... as opposed to drinking/ drugs.
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    Aug 26, 2013 10:38 PM GMT
    BlakeWind saidHey guys, this might a very stupid question, but do you think bulking up would make me more attractive? or do you think i would look weird? I don't think I am very good looking, but I would like to change that if I can. A lot of people tell me I have a baby face. Does your face look any different when you are bulked up? I dont want to be like HUGE, but Swimmer/model body. But I try to imagine my head on a fit body and I think it looks weird lol. It's generally pretty hard for me to find guys. Not many people seem too interested in me on on grindr and whatnot, and I recently got dumped after 2 dates, so that obviously tore away any little confidence I had left( that fucker ). So I am feeling pretty low/insecure at the moment. Hoping that will boost me back up. But yea my main questions to my fellow gays are as follows-
    1- Do you think bulking up will make me look good or weird?
    2- Does working out change your face at all? It seems that fit people have a muscular face... Like I can usually tell someone is fit by generally looking at there face. I tried to google that but no answer came up.
    3- Do you guys think If I got bigger more guys would be interested in me?

    Again sorry if these are stupid questions. But they are honest ones. I am very new to this ( I am a late bloomer ) so any ( non-sarcastic ) answer will be very appreciated. Thank you!

    It depends. In your situation it would probably make you more attractive physically, but less attractive personality wise. You'll definitely become more confident, but if that confidence is only based on how you look that's an issue in itself. It's basically a false sense of confidence and a false sense of self love. One of my friends was like that. He was always the least athletic guy in school and he always got picked on because he was quirky and awkward. He decided to bulk up which caused him to make a lot of friends, but now he's an arrogant prick. I don't know what will happen to him if he gets a serious injury and loses his muscles because his self esteem is based on how he looks. It's basically impossible to be around him because puts other people down who are weaker than him and he tries to wrestle everyone who's weaker than him so he can prove how strong he is. I'm into muscular guys, but I really don't find him attractive because his personality completely throws off the way he looks physically. I say build yourself up from the inside out before you use weight lifting as a self esteem boost. It can be good for you because it will increase the amount of guys who find you attractive, but you have to do it the right way and for the right reasons.
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    Aug 26, 2013 10:43 PM GMT
    Yes
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    Aug 26, 2013 10:54 PM GMT
    surfswim saidIf anything ti will do wonders for your elfesteem.

    A confident guy, now that's sexy.

    Confidence trumps a ripped body

    And if you have both... oh wellicon_smile.gif



    its this Its confidence because you can look like a greek god and still be in misery ...seen it way too many times
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    Aug 27, 2013 1:07 AM GMT
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    surfswim saidIf anything ti will do wonders for your elfesteem.

    A confident guy, now that's sexy.

    Confidence trumps a ripped body

    And if you have both... oh wellicon_smile.gif



    its this Its confidence because you can look like a greek god and still be in misery ...seen it way too many times


    Send me all the miserable Greek gods. They won't go to waste.icon_biggrin.gif

  • Aug 27, 2013 1:16 AM GMT
    Yes. Being stronger and eating healthy will have only positive results.
    Not everyone who goes to a gym is a steroid taker
    But everyone who goes and trains well will see
    improvements mentally as well as physically.
    And you're right, people who are in shape and eat well
    also look fitter facially, I've noticed that all my life.
    BTW I don't see anything wrong with your face,
    or the hair growing on it. :-)
  • BlakeWind

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    Aug 27, 2013 4:19 AM GMT
    Thanks guys. I am probably going to start working out in october. I guess Ill see if I look any better. I just have LOADS of confidence issues. I got picked on all throughout middle/high school due to me being very awkard looking. So It still stays with me i guess. Gets depressing, because I WANT to look good. There are people that tell me I am good looking, but I always think they just say that out of sympathy lol. And when I go on grindr like nobody talks to me. So makes me feel worse icon_mad.gif. anyways I should probably save all this depressing talk for a different section haha. I dont want to seem vain or anything for wanting to look good. Once I do workout maybe I will keep a photo journal or something. You guys think I should get a personal trainer? Would that help? I have gone to the gym many times before, but never seem to really know what I am doing lol. There so expensive, but might be a very good investment. The ones at LA fit are like 500 bucks/month or something crazy like that lol. and the sessions are like 20 mins.

    @ destinharbor- I Like my facial hair! haha. People tell me it makes me look older, which i like icon_smile.gif.

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    Aug 27, 2013 12:53 PM GMT
    You at least should have a trainer to get you started and teach basic technique. Once you learn that there a a million workouts to choose from on the web, magazines, and what you design yourself.

    Remember you are in the gym to better yourself, not to impress others. That means using appropriate weights, not the most weights you can lift to look tough. You'll quickly understand what I mean by that when you start lifting.

    Having a nice body is a tool. I found when my body changed that people in general started to treat me with more respect.

    Your facial hair looks great.

    If looking better gives you more confidence for the time being, that's great. It can set you on the path to being a better self. But believing in yourself will require much more than superficial changes. Eventually you will age and look a little worse each year no matter how much you train in the gym. So now (20s & 30s) is a good time to learn true inner strength that does not rely on the perceptions of others.
  • tuffguyndc

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    Aug 27, 2013 1:03 PM GMT
    i think a little more muscle would look nice on you. go for it buddy
  • Destinharbor

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    Aug 27, 2013 1:29 PM GMT
    You like the facial hair making you look older because you don't like the way you look. I think guys with facial hair are compensating for something and in your case it sounds like it is. Why would you want to look older? Jeez. It is obvious. Get rid of it.

    A lot of guys here will tell you to get a trainer. But you are right. They are very expensive. And not necessary to getting started. Buy a book. I got one from Men's Health that explains how to get muscle growth and then shows you a series of exercises broken down by muscle group. Pick five or six exercises per body part (read my comment above) and do three sets of ten moving the weight up when you can handle it. It'll take about an hour with rests in between each set (about 2 minutes between sets, about for minutes between different exercises). Drink lots of water the whole time. Do the protein. Buy the book, keep it with you for when you have to eat alone. A lot of cute guys in the pics. Read it a couple of times focusing on the exercises working on the muscle group of that day. It isn't rocket science. Just takes time and diligence. You'll get there, mate. Do it.
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    Aug 27, 2013 2:19 PM GMT
    There was a thread like this I gave my views there..anyway.

    Well I would say Not @ a 100% , attractiveness comes in many subjective ways.

    What I know and seen is that, being Fit & healthy makes you just as attractive enough.

    I've always believe the 3 basic things that applies to all;
    Mind , Body and Soul

    Just as much how your diet goes.
    How a simple jog does.
    With simple quietness with the Mind & yourself which is meditation.

    It gives a lot of balance in everything in what you see. What others see is not entirely a problem to be bother about but with the balance of the Mind Body and Soul it does give you the rightful attraction of being attractive. icon_wink.gif