Dating a Porn Star...

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    Sep 13, 2007 6:50 PM GMT
    There seems to be a lot of gay guys out there willing to do porn. I know in Toronto here friends have dated the boys from the boys condo and other stuff like that.

    I guess I would be against dating a porn star if I met one that I actually liked but what do you guys think?

    Would thier job interfere with the relationship?

    How would you feel being around them when other guys only recognize them by thier porn star name?

    Could you actually date one?
  • maximumrisk

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    Sep 13, 2007 6:57 PM GMT
    I guess that always depends. I for my part am easy jealous. If he gives his "workbuddies" more attention than his Boyfriend. I sure would try it, but when it comes at one point to a relationship, i would definatly make sure that were both on the same page.
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    Sep 13, 2007 9:19 PM GMT
    dated a few, and NO - what's the big?!?
  • zakariahzol

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    Sep 13, 2007 9:21 PM GMT
    I guess I dont mind hook up with porn star but not dating with intention to have relationship with them. I am into monogamous relationship so probably no. But still I have to look into how safe it is to hook up with them. Do they practice safe sex in their job. Just like I am not into having sex with male prostitue (though I have do it a couple of time)
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    Sep 13, 2007 9:44 PM GMT
    Um, I kinda feel like your reply is a bit hypocrital...
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    Sep 13, 2007 9:44 PM GMT
    that's just me though...I don't count
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    Sep 13, 2007 9:48 PM GMT
    I've been good friends with a few people who have done porn. In each case, I've known them separate from and completely independent of the fact that they do porn. It was never really weird for me because it almost never came up when I was hanging out with them....

    The one exception was my friend Kevin, and the only reason that came up was because EVERYONE in L.A. knew him by his porn name, "Austin". I remember when I first moved to L.A. and started going to parties with him, it would throw me, because people would greet him as "Austin" and I would take a moment to realize who they were talking to.

    In the end, it didn't affect our friendship. In fact, Kevin seemed to enjoy the fact that he had at least one friend who did NOT view him in the context of his porn work. We'd be at a pool party in Hollywood, standing off to the side talking to eachother in hushed voices, and nobody at the party would have guessed that we were talking about distributing internet traffic with parallel servers.

    All that having been said, however, I don't know how it would affect a "relationship", since we were just friends. The only people I've dated who were in porn, I only found out about their porn careers after the relationship was over. LOL
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    Sep 13, 2007 10:06 PM GMT
    Anyone can do porn now, there's so much amateur crap being made. But of course, no matter how little you make, you're a porn STAR, never a mere actor.

    I did in fact date a famous porn STAR for a year -- a long-distance relationship during the years I was bicoastal. He had quit making videos and was publishing a magazine and writing his memoir by then. He was a brilliant guy -- died of AIDS, unfortunately.

    The last time I saw him was at the STonewall Rebellion celebration in New York, dancing naked with my friend Pussy Tourette, the best foul-mouthed blues-singing drag queen in America.

    I didn't find dating him uncomfortable but jealousy isn't my trip (see the open-relationship mega-thread-ache). Well, he did have one asset that made dating him uncomfortable.

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    Sep 13, 2007 10:08 PM GMT
    you've "been" greg?

    why not now? just curious?

    NICK
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    Sep 13, 2007 10:11 PM GMT
    Nickster: He's hard to make plans with in the best of circumstances, and now that I've moved to Dallas (away from L.A.) we've fallen out of touch.
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    Sep 13, 2007 10:23 PM GMT
    why ya in Dallas? (for that matter, why am I in PHX?!)
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    Sep 13, 2007 10:26 PM GMT
    Why are you trying to have personal off-topic conversations in a public forum?
  • imaxim

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    Sep 13, 2007 10:54 PM GMT
    I actually went on one or two dates each with a couple of guys who went on to become porn stars/actors shortly after we had stopped going out. At least one of them continued to be a stellar human being and a good friend; the other I've lost touch with, as that relationship was always a bit more difficult.

    But anyway, I hear about all of the ego issues and drug problems with porn stars all the time, but I think it's very much an individual thing. A lot of people continue to be human beings even after they start having sex on film.
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    Sep 13, 2007 11:13 PM GMT
    str8 - you may want to be a bit less adamant
  • Salubrious

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    Sep 13, 2007 11:52 PM GMT
    Would I date someone that has done porn? Probably.

    Would I date someone that is currently in the porn industry?
    Probably not.
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    Sep 13, 2007 11:56 PM GMT
    y?
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    Sep 13, 2007 11:56 PM GMT
    or y not?
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    Sep 14, 2007 12:12 AM GMT
    To your why, even though you didn't ask me, just to be safe. Knowing how popular bb is in the industry and all.

    Not that Im old enough to have any idea what Im talking about, though -_-

    Take it with a grain of salt
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    Sep 14, 2007 12:14 AM GMT
    Personally? I'd DEFINITELY date a porn star. I'd be ecstatic! I mean, the safety issue is about the same, if not better, than a random one night stand with some guy.
  • GQjock

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    Sep 14, 2007 1:01 AM GMT
    I dunno..
    I live in SoFLA
    and there are alot of porn stars that come down here
    I'm not knockin it...if it gets you hot...go for it
    but having an on goin sexual relationship with someone in that life is hard
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    Sep 14, 2007 1:07 AM GMT
    "I will never date a porn star. The are LOSER, NO SUBSTANCE. THEY ARE LIKE CONDOMS USE THEM AND DISPOSE THEM."

    Oh yeaaaaaah! Where do I sign up?
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    Sep 14, 2007 1:20 AM GMT
    I think my fear in dating a porn star is that they have compartmentalized their sexuality into a business commodity, a professional tool of the trade - that his sense of sexuality has become divorced from intimacy/passion/chemistry/connection and instead become associated with performance/making money/career. I don't want sex to be done by rote, I do want it to be special (for lack of a less retarded word). And then of course I'd be wondering about why they have chosen a career that compartmentalizes their sexuality in the first place.

    If I really fell for someone who was in porn, I'd probably go for it. But I think I'd be aware that it would have a limited shelf life. My personal experience has been that most people in the sex industry aren't actually happy (even when they insist they are) - and that there's a lot that's not being examined in their lives. And an examined life is kind of important to me in a guy.
  • dfrourke

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    Sep 14, 2007 1:26 AM GMT
    Regardless of what his personality type would be...his job would definitely interfere with my concept of a relationship...

    ...sex to me is supposed to be special between me and my boyfriend or partner...if just anyone gets to experience that, then it would be hard for me not to feel like "any other guy"...

    ...so, "no" I would probably not consider it...

    - David
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    Sep 14, 2007 1:47 AM GMT
    Only if we were a couple and we were the only ones doing porn with one another LOL. I am greedy when it comes to my lover. I want them all and I don't want to share!
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    Sep 14, 2007 2:04 AM GMT
    100% agree with Chizzad - I am not willng to share.